There were instructions long before porn.
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Understood (ie Kama sutra)
I was more wondering about ppl like my parents and their classmates who grew up in a culture where sex was very taboo. They obviously figured it out since I (and my classmates) exist.
No one taught them. They didn’t even have access to “dirty” magazines bc government censorship
Absolutely NOT!
Whatever the pros and cons of porn, it has nothing whatsoever to do with actual sex, and the logistics of it are about as accurate as a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle movie is to actual martial arts.
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She stated it was more of a homemade movie. It probably was more representative of actual sex than porn.
@anna_5588 No instructions needed. It comes very naturally.
I have no issues with porn with a few conditions.
- Money is not being wasted on it. That’s money that could go toward so many better things to strengthen the relationship.
- It fuels the desire for your partner rather than diminishes it. I feel like porn can keep the fire burning for some people, but acknowledge that it creates unrealistic expectations for others. Like everything else, it’s unique to the individual.
- You aren’t keeping it a secret from your partner/your partner doesn’t mind you watching it.
- You aren’t watching things that your partner would never participate in. Like if scat is your thing and you are watching a bunch of poo videos, but your partner wants no part of that, you should have a different partner.
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What’s your thinking here?
Do you feel like this is a porn-thing? Or do other types of media provoke the same reaction?
Not really. At first yes, but I spent a decent amount of time learning the ins and out of things like Instagram and tumblr. It’s quite easy to alter still frame photos.
With porn it’s different because it’s moving. It’s difficult to alter videos and such. So my feeling that way is much more honed in specifically for this versus other media types.
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I just think it is a problem to spend time lusting after things you KNOW your partner will never give you. I guess I think it could lead to you looking for someone who will.
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I also would guess that with porn, there’s a very unsubtle, unequivocal message that this is sexy, this is what sexy looks like?
Or maybe it acts as a “fill in the gaps” type of thing? I would guess there are many couples out there whose tastes don’t align perfectly. Could this act as a way to fill that gap?
This doesn’t really impact you as a girl, but they do use special lenses and angles (and stuff like teaching the girl to hold “him” a certain way, etc.) to make the guy look impressive. That never really had an impact on me (I kinda new it was fake), but I have heard from other guys that it did impact their confidence.
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I’ve always thought this could still be risky thinking. Ultimately, your SO is your SO, if you want to find the “gaps” in every aspect of them you can, but what good would that do for the relationship? Being content with who they are instead of getting what you can and finding the rest from someone/something else?
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I think it’s just kind of natural. Animals do it, how hard can it be lol
If you (you in the general sense) struggle to understand people then it would make sense to be confused as how to figure out certain acts between people, from sex to stuff like making new friends.
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I’d say for sure yeah. Or doing such and such this way looks hotter, or you’d look better in such and such position if you look like this, or are shaped like that, or weigh this amount, or have curves in these spots, etc.
Not to mention I always felt kinda cast aside because actresses are your usual blonde haired and blue eyes folks.
Or the more popular actresses I’d say.
If I go further it’s just gonna start highlighting cultural stigmas too, but I mean there’s quite a lot that be said about that and how porn exploits those things too.
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My husband mentioned that to me a couple of times too. Makes sense that angles are a lot more “flattering” in certain views. To which he would ask me what I think of his size. Personally there’s nothing wrong, and I quite enjoy our intimate times. Can’t complain.
Penis size, by and large, is heavily dependent on movement, lining up correctly, and finding spots/areas that can be stimulated well.
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I strongly believe these bodily and sexual hangups are results of a hypersexualized society, with sexual images, sexually tinged performances, mentions of sex in music, sex scenes in movies, half-nude or near-nude women in public, and rampant availability of pornography. And despite this obsession with sex, a record number of men do not have access to sex. How ironic.
If there were not these things plastered all over our society, people, especially women, would not even think of some bodily ideal to look up to, or sexual acrobatics and situations hardly anyone finds themselves in.
Men aren’t immune to this considering the excessive grooming, bodily ornamentations, body shaving, gym and diet focus, tough-guy and comedic personas, and flamboyant fashions they now have. Many years ago nearly all men had access to sex and they were hairy, had worse hygiene, and the plainest of fashion and demeanor. Again, how ironic.
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You mean you’ve never stumbled into a laundromat only to find a beautiful woman with her upper torso desperately and inextricably stuck in a front load washing machine?
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Lol. Admittedly some of the 90s films were actually funny.
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Yeah. The scenarios were/are mostly just ridiculous.
My wife did express some of the same concerns or insecurities discussed here about the actual acts, the women involved & stuff, and questioned my expectations based on that. We actually had a couple of serious conversations about it, because there were a few things she just did not like and weren’t going to happen. I tried to assure her that these things were fantastical scenarios with elaborate sets, takes, edits etc. and that I Did Not expect that to happen at home.
It still lingered though and she soured on the whole thing eventually.
Like, early on when everything was new and fun in the relationship it was all fun and games until someone got hurt, and that someone was her. Now she pretty much hates it, or feels about the same as you’ve expressed.
But she also absolutely does sneak peeks at my browser history & whatnot. She’s a little sly about it, but every so often she’ll bust out a new trick or two, which never fails to raise my eyebrows.
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