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[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

I’m a little confused myself. The world is tilting on its axis.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because they agree with you on many things and it boggles their little brains that YOUR experience and opinion may actually agree with the “woman haters” such as Orion and myself. (though I have never said I hate women, I don’t lie to or abuse women, nor have I ever hit a woman and I take great effort to ensure that any woman I have a relationship with is better off for having known me - I guess that makes me a woman hater because I don’t settle down with each and ever woman I date)[/quote]

Whoa there, Chicken! “They” in this case is me and orion - WE are in agreement that it was surprising coming from Brother Chris because when last he was posting here he came across as very, very marriage-oriented.

I don’t care if he or you or orion get married, and I don’t care if he or you or orion hate women! I care that people not mistake false premises for valid ones or cause for effect.

Somewhere upthread you mentioned that single moms are “low hanging fruit” and I might ask if you’ve considered that you are also low hanging fruit, hence your negative experience with the group. I don’t ask to insult you, because I respect you quite a lot, but because I think you have blind spots in this one arena.

Honestly, I don’t care if some men hate women, as long as they’re not violent about it. I care that men I come into contact with who seem thoughtful and generally like decent human beings, not be hurt into perpetuity by the women who caused the negative beliefs.

I react the same way toward the bitter, man-disrespecting women I occasionally encounter. How can they generalize? And how can they not realize that their behavior continues to put them in the path of men who’ll hurt them?

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More than TWENTY YEARS ago, I committed a felony and served some time.

-I’m 40 years old and have all my hair
-I have a six pack and look good nekkid
-I make 250K plus a year in an awesome career
-I have a positive net worth and good credit
-both of my children are well adjusted and thriving (I have custody)
-Both of my sons are perfect physical specimens, my eldest is 6’ 5" and a state champion athlete and my six year old is built like a brick shit house
-I don’t lie or cheat
-I have excellent boundaries and high standards
-I’ve dated some of the most attractive and accomplished women in my area
-I’m a sexual demi-god
-I have an amazing life story of overcoming adversity
-I can handle myself in just about any situation
-I’m charitable to a fault
-I’m intelligent, funny and have a great sense of humor
-I can speak intelligently on a wide range of topics.
-I’m well read, well traveled and speak another language
-I have great taste (music, food, art, clothes, etc…)
-I own three boats and am passionate about sailing
-I PLAYED rugby (considered by most to be the most bad-ass sport on the planet) at a very high level - I’m not an “armchair fan”
-I’ve never had an STD
-I rarely drink and I don’t use illegal drugs
-I haven’t had a speeding ticket in over 8 years
-I have never hit a woman in my life
-Every woman I date has had a positive experience and is better off for having known me
-I’ve been sexually active for more than 25 years. During that time I’ve had some great relationships and some not so great relationships - just like everyone else. I can’t help it that when I meet women they want to sleep with me… It’s been like that since I was 13. Naturally, my “number” is high. That doesn’t mean I’ve ever treated anyone poorly.

I think most women would kill to be with a man like me. I KNOW they fight for the chance to date me, I’ve heard it on multiple occasions in many different circles.

And you assert that I’m low hanging fruit?

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Probably unfair to ask, and I wouldn’t really expect you to do it, but I’d be more interested in a list of your “cons.”

(Pun unintended ;-)[/quote]

We may never hear from AC again Captain Chushin

LMAO

That was pretty fucking funny, bro.

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

I’m a little confused myself. The world is tilting on its axis.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because they agree with you on many things and it boggles their little brains that YOUR experience and opinion may actually agree with the “woman haters” such as Orion and myself. (though I have never said I hate women, I don’t lie to or abuse women, nor have I ever hit a woman and I take great effort to ensure that any woman I have a relationship with is better off for having known me - I guess that makes me a woman hater because I don’t settle down with each and ever woman I date)[/quote]

Whoa there, Chicken! “They” in this case is me and orion - WE are in agreement that it was surprising coming from Brother Chris because when last he was posting here he came across as very, very marriage-oriented.

I don’t care if he or you or orion get married, and I don’t care if he or you or orion hate women! I care that people not mistake false premises for valid ones or cause for effect.

Somewhere upthread you mentioned that single moms are “low hanging fruit” and I might ask if you’ve considered that you are also low hanging fruit, hence your negative experience with the group. I don’t ask to insult you, because I respect you quite a lot, but because I think you have blind spots in this one arena.

Honestly, I don’t care if some men hate women, as long as they’re not violent about it. I care that men I come into contact with who seem thoughtful and generally like decent human beings, not be hurt into perpetuity by the women who caused the negative beliefs.

I react the same way toward the bitter, man-disrespecting women I occasionally encounter. How can they generalize? And how can they not realize that their behavior continues to put them in the path of men who’ll hurt them?

[/quote]

More than TWENTY YEARS ago, I committed a felony and served some time.

-I’m 40 years old and have all my hair
-I have a six pack and look good nekkid
-I make 250K plus a year in an awesome career
-I have a positive net worth and good credit
-both of my children are well adjusted and thriving (I have custody)
-Both of my sons are perfect physical specimens, my eldest is 6’ 5" and a state champion athlete and my six year old is built like a brick shit house
-I don’t lie or cheat
-I have excellent boundaries and high standards
-I’ve dated some of the most attractive and accomplished women in my area
-I’m a sexual demi-god
-I have an amazing life story of overcoming adversity
-I can handle myself in just about any situation
-I’m charitable to a fault
-I’m intelligent, funny and have a great sense of humor
-I can speak intelligently on a wide range of topics.
-I’m well read, well traveled and speak another language
-I have great taste (music, food, art, clothes, etc…)
-I own three boats and am passionate about sailing
-I PLAYED rugby (considered by most to be the most bad-ass sport on the planet) at a very high level - I’m not an “armchair fan”
-I’ve never had an STD
-I rarely drink and I don’t use illegal drugs
-I haven’t had a speeding ticket in over 8 years
-I have never hit a woman in my life
-Every woman I date has had a positive experience and is better off for having known me
-I’ve been sexually active for more than 25 years. During that time I’ve had some great relationships and some not so great relationships - just like everyone else. I can’t help it that when I meet women they want to sleep with me… It’s been like that since I was 13. Naturally, my “number” is high. That doesn’t mean I’ve ever treated anyone poorly.

I think most women would kill to be with a man like me. I KNOW they fight for the chance to date me, I’ve heard it on multiple occasions in many different circles.

And you assert that I’m low hanging fruit?

[/quote]

Probably unfair to ask, and I wouldn’t really expect you to do it, but I’d be more interested in a list of your “cons.”

(Pun unintended ;-)[/quote]

I can assure you, the list of my “cons” is long and distinguished - like my Johnson. LOL

I read that as “pros and cons”, and not that I “con” people - I haven’t run a scam on anyone since I was in prison.

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[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
We’ve got enough to deal with with the god damn 20 year old hipster’s. [/quote]

'sup?

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[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
I’ve heard you say nothing good about this woman the entire thread.

Be active in your daughter’s life, but do not get back together with the ex-GF.[/quote]

Okay, so the first is true.

The second. . . am I the only one thinking this will be an every-other-weekend-and-Wednesdays thing?

OP, what kind of visitation do you currently enjoy?

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
The second. . . am I the only one thinking this will be an every-other-weekend-and-Wednesdays thing?
[/quote]

Because that’s all he wants, or that’s all she’ll allow right now?

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[quote]angry chicken wrote:

I read that as “pros and cons”, and not that I “con” people - I haven’t run a scam on anyone since I was in prison.[/quote]

total different topic but what were some of the scams you ran in prison? I assume some of them were on officers.

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[quote]mbdix wrote:
Quite tournament play and join a Thursday night league locally. Have the wife and kids come out to the games. Try to get the girls interested in softball. Then you can help them with their game. Then you can start going to tournaments again on the weekends. It will just be their tournaments.
[/quote]

This! I assume you work. On top of that you said you lift. When does your young family get you?

When I had young kids I gave up golf because I really couldn’t justify spending a whole Saturday away from my family and it really didn’t mean more to me than they did. I still had hobbies but nothing so time consuming. My wife never asked me to give it up though.

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[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
The second. . . am I the only one thinking this will be an every-other-weekend-and-Wednesdays thing?
[/quote]

Because that’s all he wants, or that’s all she’ll allow right now?
[/quote]

Both.

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[quote]Testy1 wrote:

[quote]mbdix wrote:
Quite tournament play and join a Thursday night league locally. Have the wife and kids come out to the games. Try to get the girls interested in softball. Then you can help them with their game. Then you can start going to tournaments again on the weekends. It will just be their tournaments.
[/quote]

This! I assume you work. On top of that you said you lift. When does your young family get you?

When I had young kids I gave up golf because I really couldn’t justify spending a whole Saturday away from my family and it really didn’t mean more to me than they did. I still had hobbies but nothing so time consuming. My wife never asked me to give it up though.
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See, I sort of think that it’s supposed to work this way. If it does, wives don’t have to ask.

Should a husband have to ask that a wife not dump him with the kids every other Saturday to go hang out with her sisters all day on the lake? Or should she stop prioritizing her passion for jet skiing until it’s pleasant for everyone to hang out on the water?

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]Testy1 wrote:

[quote]mbdix wrote:
Quite tournament play and join a Thursday night league locally. Have the wife and kids come out to the games. Try to get the girls interested in softball. Then you can help them with their game. Then you can start going to tournaments again on the weekends. It will just be their tournaments.
[/quote]

This! I assume you work. On top of that you said you lift. When does your young family get you?

When I had young kids I gave up golf because I really couldn’t justify spending a whole Saturday away from my family and it really didn’t mean more to me than they did. I still had hobbies but nothing so time consuming. My wife never asked me to give it up though.
[/quote]

Are you saying it had nothing to do with your golf skill?

;-)[/quote]

Actually, the longer I payed the less fun the game became. That and I played mainly to spend time with my Dad and my friends until my dad could no longer play.

There are always other factors, not being great at golf wasn’t a big issue for me.