Well i posted this situation a couple of time ago… i married about 6 months ago, at this time we move to my wife house(she leaves only with her parents), we did this because i’m trying to save money to buy a house next year.
What start bothering me was that she start giving money to a guy in her family who doesn’t works but has a girl and a baby. She gives the money because he stays “protecting” the house from 8a.m. to 12p.m., when there’s nobody in it, but that never ocurred before we married,and they have 3 dogs…
It bothers because even a have i good income(about 5 times more than her)… she doesn’t contibutes in nothing for our future( i have buy all he things we have)saying that she is my responsability (she only buys things for her like clothes but never things like groceries, she doesn’t even spends money on transportation because i carry her in our car almost all time but i put the gas always)
she also says that she doesn’t has to help me in nothing because i earn a lot of money compare to her and that her family needs help. We have fight over this a couple of times, i even didn’t go to sleep one night because of this but she continues doing it, yesterday she get mad too because i paid the groceries with a new credit card that i haven’t talk about to her… well it’s a lot of mess, who is wrong?, i want to hear your opinions please.
I would try to give you advice but I have absolutely no experience in this type of situation when marriage and money responsibilities are the case in hand.
Hopefully somebody with experience on stuff like that will be able to give you some advice because that situation does suck.
have you talked to her about this? have you told her that it is bothering you? lets get her take on the situation?
does she just spend your money on her family or is she blowing it on bullshit?
So didn’t you follow any of the advice last time you posted this?
Or was that someone else? I seem to recall something VERY similar to this posted in the last few months.
Either case, sounds like she is too attached to the family and/or this other guy. You didn’t marry just her, you married the whole bunch.
I also imagine you knew this before saying ‘I do’, so it’s rather hard to “fix” now.
You can choose to wait it out (meaning put a time on how long you think it will continue and defer judgement), you can choose to leave, you can choose to put down the law, or you can choose to cut off your sack and hand it to her (meaning stay and accept it).
I assume you have already been doing #1 for a while with no results, #2&3 are still options, and #4 is an option, albeit a wimpy one that should result in your stopping of all weight lifting activities if you so choose…
So, good luck. Money/families plus marriage can be ugly, and some people will support the “blood” more than anything else.
ok, its obvious that your wife is financially irresponsible, considering the fact that she puts your money towards just " fun " stuff as well as helping out some guy that needs a job , not a handout. I haven’t personally had experience here but my friend mike as well as my dad have irresponsible wives and girlfriends, and what they do/have to do is restrict the amount of spending power they have. My friend mike sends his gf money each month b/c he drives trucks for a living. My dad gives his wife a shopping budget, and he wont back down from that except for things they both agree on. BTW , im a finance major and am planning to be a CFA - financial analyst in the future… if any hot babes want to come my way
What country do you live in?