I do not know how you can tell me God has never actually, objectively, made himself known to me. You might be right in a way, but is any human experience or achievement and its interpretation ever truly objective, since we are all limited in our perspective?
I just hope and pray you find God. Life is amazing when you do, I can tell you. And God promises you eternal life. Think about that.
Flip the cross upside down, and this destructive stuff is positive. It’s just point of view.
Family is the Holy Institution.
That which destroys the family is not positive for society.
Porn destroys the sanctity of the man/woman bond for a strong family. There may be outliers like for everything, but for sure not desirable for a strong community/nation.
This is historically demonstrated throughout all of our recorded history.
For someone claiming to not be interested, you sure keep bringing it up.
I personally think anal sex is gross but what consenting adults do is their business. There is a difference between a couple in an intimate relationship engaging in various forms of sex and a couple who swing. I doubt any poster here would respect a man who watches his wife have sex with another man.
But when it comes to dodging questions, here’s one you dodged: how would you feel if your daughter chose a career in porn? I get why you don’t want to give an honest answer as it would mean agreeing with me when it comes to performers being broken people. Because we both know, as much as you try and defend porn and porn performers, the last thing you want is for your daughter to make a meager living getting ejaculated on, choked and exposed to stds. You would see yourself as having failed as a father. In fact, I would assume you are doing everything you can, as a good father, to ensure your daughter would never consider porn an option.
Agreed. I’ll read the rest of your post dancing around this statement later.
Back in my day we had to piece together the facts about sex from sparse and murky sources. A March 1974 copy of Playboy, movies like Bikini Car Wash 2 on USA’s Up All Night and stories from our older brothers formed the basis of our understanding about the exact details of sex.
We also had local bulletin boards you could dial into if you had a modem and knew the phone number. It’s hard to describe the anticipation of a VGA-quality picture of a topless Pamela Anderson slowly revealing itself as the pixels download across your 14,400 kb/s modem.
It was a quaint, almost magical time compared to the depravity on demand kids have such easy access to today.
Or the distorted flippy, quite possibly a boob or something one might find on a cable channel you weren’t subscribed to.
One more thing that was messed up in my house growing up was exposure to porn. Since my dad did AV installations & repair, we had a vcr before they were common. So he’d have all of his buddies from the bar up to watch stuff like Caligula, Behind The Green Door, Deepthroat, and all sorts of other smut.
I don’t think any of that really helped in any way. May have distorted my impression of what male/female relations should entail.
The mid-90s version of pornhub. I definitely saw a boob once.
A few other honorable mentions…
We had some spicy material in National Geographic.
The Sears Catalog.
And who could forget the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue?
I have utilized all of those in my lifetime. I may or may not have stooped to using the Sunday comics.
We had bush !
Yeah, those frantic searches around the house when you were the only one home trying to find anything even remotely sexual. Good times.
I think a question that stems from this is “would you be in a relationship with a porn actress?”. I suspect that lots of men with daughters wouldn’t want their daughter to be in porn because they don’t view a porn actress as someone they would consider as a spouse. They want their daughter to be desirable to quality men that will invest in a relationship with her.
I think thats kind of a self fulfilling prophecy. The guys that care and wouldn’t want their daughters in porn will do a lot more installation of values, respect, etc. Which in turn results in a daughter that wants a man who is respectable, caring, etc.
On the other hand, a guy that doesn’t care is going to inflict damage by absence, mistreatment, neglect, etc. Which could result in a woman that will do porn and an attraction to guys who will mistreat, neglect, take advantage of or turn out for porn or prostitution.
I answered your question. I want her to be truly and genuinely innately happy. I don’t know what that will look like for her but as long as her legitimate disposition and internal sense is happy then so am I.
What she ultimately winds up being as the well adjusted, innately happy future adult I’ve made it my goal to encourage is up to her. I’m not going to tell her what she can’t be anymore than I’m going to attempt to force her to be a doctor/lawyer/veterinarian or what have you.
I want her to be……her.
If you don’t understand that answer I’m not sure what to say.
See this is line of thinking I have a hard time agreeing with. Especially today, with apps like OnlyFans around.
We know from news stories that well adjusted married & career women have participated, to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars per month in personal income, and it only became a problem for them when a 3rd party came across their profile (hmmmm) and made it an issue.
No coercion, drug abuse, seedy studios et cetera. People who seemingly fit in perfectly well in suburban PTA meetings, neighborhood groups et cetera. Just a webcam, billing platform and different view of sex than Zecarlo holds.
Well, when you post sexual videos of yourself on the internet, people will probably see them. If you don’t want everyone to know what your junk looks like or how much **** you can ***** up your *********, it’s probably best to not post that stuff on the internet.
People may even draw conclusions about you, like not wanting you to teach their 8 year olds or not wanting you to be part of the sales team.
That’s fair.
Is this assuming that damaged people must only do bad things, or that they are precluded from having seemingly normal lives?
I’ve been around a lot of seemingly normal people you’d never look twice at if they lived next door- doctors, attorneys, professionals of all type, male & female, who were subjected to some pretty terrible things.
These things aren’t exclusive to lower classes of people, or because they’re pretty, or smart. Its things that were done to them, beyond their control.
Maybe some perfectly normal, well adjusted people do decide to do porn or prostitution, but what do you suppose that number would be out of 100?
An interesting angle, but still getting away from the accusation that porn and sex ultimately outside of Zecarlos preferences = broken humanity.
It’s crazy to me that an employer can control behavior outside of working hours/activities but I do believe in at will employment, especially for the private sector, so I’m a little torn.
I disagree where public entities are concerned. Especially when content is hidden behind age verified security and you have to intentionally seek it out. Don’t want to see it? Don’t watch.
I would be curious by what criteria “broken” is defined as before being able to answer fully.
I don’t know what the professional terms would be, but I lean toward soul crushing, void creating, inescapable and usually terminal type pain before I consider someone broken.
Then again, I’ve seen some pretty amazing turn arounds. Even from that. (Pain, not porn)
I know a lot of people who are married with kids, careers, go to church on Sundays and would self-describe their lives this way.
I don’t know many porn stars. I would imagine some are in the industry following abuse and low self-esteem in general (abused or not) and some aren’t.
I have known some strippers whom I would suggest are similar to porn stars, and the vast majority are well aware of who they are, what they’re doing, are in full control of it and are totally comfortable stripping for money with souls intact.
