I wouldn’t let my daughter marry a poor guy if I was wealthy. He probably thinks you just want to scrounge off of her, especially if you’re getting getting your degree in psychology or some other bullshit. I hope you at least have a car and don’t make her drive you everywhere.
I spent a couple of years getting to know the family more in depth and developing a better understanding of how they function, who is in what role etc.
Informed decisions are usually better decisions.
It’s kind of funny what you uncover once the newness of your presence wears off and the pretenses are dropped.
I don’t scrounge of them/her I’m not wealthy but I can provide for myself. I am double majoring in Nutrition and Business Management and I have a car. Even though her father is strict he is a really nice guy and I know that he likes me and he knows that I will do anything for his daughter. I actually lived with them for 3 months last year and everything went smoothly.
We get along even though our economic statuses are different, he isn’t a douche bag when it comes to being wealthy, if you met him you would have no idea he had money. The same goes for his daughter (my GF) when I first met her I had no idea that they had money or how much they had (I’m guessing millions as they are currently looking at buying a vacation home in St. Thomas). He drives a 15yr old car even though he could buy a new one as he did for his daughter (an audi A5).
[quote]bigpicture11 wrote:
I don’t scrounge of them/her I’m not wealthy but I can provide for myself. I am double majoring in Nutrition and Business Management and I have a car. Even though her father is strict he is a really nice guy and I know that he likes me and he knows that I will do anything for his daughter. I actually lived with them for 3 months last year and everything went smoothly.
We get along even though our economic statuses are different, he isn’t a douche bag when it comes to being wealthy, if you met him you would have no idea he had money. The same goes for his daughter (my GF) when I first met her I had no idea that they had money or how much they had (I’m guessing millions as they are currently looking at buying a vacation home in St. Thomas). He drives a 15yr old car even though he could buy a new one as he did for his daughter (an audi A5). [/quote]
CLIFF NOTES:
SUGAR MOMMA!!!
[quote]bigpicture11 wrote:
I don’t scrounge of them/her I’m not wealthy but I can provide for myself. I am double majoring in Nutrition and Business Management and I have a car. Even though her father is strict he is a really nice guy and I know that he likes me and he knows that I will do anything for his daughter. I actually lived with them for 3 months last year and everything went smoothly.
We get along even though our economic statuses are different, he isn’t a douche bag when it comes to being wealthy, if you met him you would have no idea he had money. The same goes for his daughter (my GF) when I first met her I had no idea that they had money or how much they had (I’m guessing millions as they are currently looking at buying a vacation home in St. Thomas). He drives a 15yr old car even though he could buy a new one as he did for his daughter (an audi A5). [/quote]
I know how rare it is to find a nice girl, so if you’re really serious about it, concentrate on landing a good job and saving up for a ring. You might be scared of what’s going to happen when you both graduate, but it’s a time for testing the relationship. Don’t ask her to marry you just because you’re afraid of the unknown. What’s the need for an immediate proposal/long engagement and continuing the relationship as is with a short engagement later? If you take the latter path, you’ll have more time to develop your relationship with her and her family. If it’s meant to be, your relationship will last.
[quote]sen say wrote:
She Say and I got married at 23… we been happy ever since…maybe it was 24…I’d have to count backwards…
You morons that wait until you’re 30 to get married because you want to have ‘causes’ and get drunk in bars with meth whores and then wait until you’re 40 to have kids are going to be 70 by the time your moron babies fly the coop…have fun changing diapers when you’re 41 and your knees are shot and your meth whore wife is fat because she quit meth and doesn’t like to fuck anymore because she’s all methed washed out.
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Greeny has never done meth and it’s been about 22 years since my last go round… that lasted a few days.
Plus, i’m 44 now. So…yeah.
Some guys go for the meth whore, I prefer the crack whore myself, but to each his own.
Some guys go for the meth whore, I prefer the crack whore myself, but to each his own.
^ You liked it so much you went twice.
Dont get married yet , get engaged and dont get married until youve lived together for at least a year .
living together is a whole different ball game .
I didn’t read any responses so sorry if I’m repeating.
I don’t understand the concept of asking the father for permission. You want to marry her not him. What if he says no? Then you’re kind of obligated not to marry her, otherwise you’re saying screw you to the father.
I think your girl shouldn’t be afraid because her parents freaked out over her sister shacking up with a guy. Your girl is not looking to shack up, she’s looking to get married. That is a huge difference in the eye of a parent.
Also, you guys are 23 and getting out of college. She (you both) are leaving the nest and already or soon to be no longer under the support of your parents. In other words, you are adults now. TELL YOUR PARENTS WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO. Don’t ask and don’t pray for their approval.
[quote]bigpicture11 wrote:
we don’t want to be 60 years old with a 15yr old child. I understand that people live longer and have children later but I would prefer to have children when I am a little younger so I can have the energy to keep up with them.
My mother had her last child (i have 2 siblings) when she was 46. She is now 59 and she is exhausted. My father is 62 and is now in poor health. My little brother doesn’t feel like he can talk to her or my father and he is made fun of b/c people think that his mom is his grandma. Why would I want to put my children through that? It would be even worse with a daughter IMO I don’t see most 14yr old girls listening to 60yr old mothers and I really don’t know anyone who would want to deal with worrying about raising a teenager at the age of 60+. Also at that age I want to enjoy my life and be retired not worrying about how I’m going to pay for my kids college and things like that.[/quote]
First of all; fuck you! LOL I’m almost 46 with an 8 month old & a 3 yr old. My wife is the same age as me.
You do make good points about energy and wanting to enjoy retirement at 60. Those are things I worry about. I don’t agree about not being able to talk too and relate about things. That is always a challenge for parents and children to overcome regardless of age. There are advantages to being older. I am very much a hot head and I can’t imagine I could have been as good a parent in my 20’s as I could be over 35. The financial security (knock on wood) is a big thing, too.
[quote]bigpicture11 wrote:
… and I also am not the type of guy who likes to go out to the bars and fuck some girl … [/quote]
Why not?
here are few things i found to be appropriate
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so true
LMAO
OK, last one - you get it, right?
Some funny stuff in here.
The first time I met my girlfriend’s (now my wife) mother, I showed up at the door on a motorcycle with hair down to my ass and a leather jacket. Her exact words were “I think you have the wrong house”.
Turns out, of all the ‘sons-in-law’, I’m “the good one”.
Dated for 6 years before we got married and AFTER we both graduated college (I was still in grad school).
Whatever personal goals or experiences you want to attain, do before you get married and have kids. Shit changes.
Everyone has some good points, but here’s something else to think about:
If you get married, there are tax cuts. However, if you’re a first time home-buyer you get a discount. If you ever plan on going into real estate and your married, two people only count for one discount. If you’re seperate, you get two discounts! (see how that works?)
Also, in my situation I wouldn’t qualify for shit financial aid if I was married to my boyfriend. However, he has the GI bill, so his income doesn’t matter much. So since I’m thinking about starting a business now, I’m planning on putting it under his name so it wouldn’t affect my aid. Also, if either of us ever needed to, there’d be someone to park a shit ton of cash with that a person looking at our bank account wouldn’t be able to see.
You’d think this is cheating, but if you read much about people receiving financial aid who go to Harvard business school, we’re pretty much amatures.
As a dude, you’re giving up a lot financially to get married. I’m not married because A. Commitment is scary B. I don’t want to fuck up someone’s credit score C. I’m ambitious and it’s useful to have someone who’s credit score and bank account have no connection to you.