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Well, I got rid of the old gay guy.

After reading some of the responses and getting outside opinions on the matter, I called him up and told him to discontinue our “friendship”.

He pulled out all of the stops. Started in to how he didn’t think he was being too forward, threw in a little guilt, and finaly harkened back to the “old days” and family friendship. When I pointed out to him that for the past 13 years he hasn’t gotten the picture that I’m not gay, and never will be, and that I don’t want him in my life in any way any more, He started crying.
I told him to have a good life and hung up.

Hope it sticks. If not, I guess I’ll have to take the legal path.

Once again, thanks for the outside opinions. I’m glad you guys pointed out that this guy was a parasite and that I was cutting him way too much slack.

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[quote]Vegita wrote:
Hugging and all that other shit is fine, in the “brothers don’t shake hands, brothers gotta hug” kind of way. V[/quote]

The one handed shake-hug isn’t really a “hug”. That’s more like a “dap” between close friends. I have always done that with friends I grew up with or people I am really cool with. “Acquaintances” just get the hand shake.

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Professor X

Yes it was a real question. Sounds like you would be a good friend. You’re right that’s why I asked the question. Thanks for the help.

Vegita

Sounds like you really have it ?together?.

Yea, I definitely avoid those whose entire life revolves around being Gay. I?m not really interested in all of that.

You?re correct about the ?any thoughts of boning them must be suppressed.? I do that all the time. I guess that is why I never had any problems with friendships with guys I have absolutely no attraction to. The others I just force myself not to get too close. It can get sort of paranoid. Did I make eye contact too long? No physical contact of any kind, etc.

And I guess that was the answer that I was looking for. Just let my guard down, and I?m sure I would learn soon enough where the line was drawn. Hopefully with out getting ?punched in the nose?.

Thanks for the advice.

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[quote]Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan[/quote]

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.

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[quote]Zap Branigan wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Same place as you do with straight friends.

Sexuality has nothing to do with it. You know how to piss your buddies off and you know where the draw the line.[/quote]

Zap is right here. I’ll get comments like “I’d do you if you were gay”…it’s just folling around.

They know where they stand, just treat them like a friend. And if he comes on to you, tell 'em it’s not ok, we are just friends, just like you would some ugly chick you are not interested in.

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[quote]grey wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.
[/quote]

I know you typed a lot of words there, but all I could make out was this… “I’m gay and I want to touch penises”

Weird.

V

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Kill the ChiChi man.
A friend who lived in Jamica for a while said rastas are mostly fine but also when he said Why do we have to kill the ChiChi Man? they said “Why? Are you gay?”

Everytime I here a kid use the word gay I want to smash them into the floor.

Problem is, I think you have to be both gay and out to be able to do that.

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im sorry but i just like good old fashion PUSSY.how is that for a bold statement.

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[quote]Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.

I know you typed a lot of words there, but all I could make out was this… “I’m gay and I want to touch penises”

Weird.

V[/quote]

Gee you are sensitive. It must be the hormone therapy. Growing breasts must be such a nuisance. I hope you get your wish and grow real big ones.
Cheers guy…I mean gal…i mean…oh whatever you call yourself these days.

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[quote]grey wrote:
Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.

I know you typed a lot of words there, but all I could make out was this… “I’m gay and I want to touch penises”

Weird.

V

Gee you are sensitive. It must be the hormone therapy. Growing breasts must be such a nuisance. I hope you get your wish and grow real big ones.
Cheers guy…I mean gal…i mean…oh whatever you call yourself these days.

[/quote]

Dude, being gay is one thing, but now you’re telling me you are into guys having boobs so you can grab them while you are nailing them in the brown eye? Thats just a little freaky, next thing you know you’ll be attempting some genetic mutation so you can bang one of those half horse half man things. Centuars? Yea, thats it, you LOOOOOOOVE THEM.

V

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
Well, I got rid of the old gay guy.

After reading some of the responses and getting outside opinions on the matter, I called him up and told him to discontinue our “friendship”.

He pulled out all of the stops. Started in to how he didn’t think he was being too forward, threw in a little guilt, and finaly harkened back to the “old days” and family friendship. When I pointed out to him that for the past 13 years he hasn’t gotten the picture that I’m not gay, and never will be, and that I don’t want him in my life in any way any more, He started crying.
I told him to have a good life and hung up.

Hope it sticks. If not, I guess I’ll have to take the legal path.

Once again, thanks for the outside opinions. I’m glad you guys pointed out that this guy was a parasite and that I was cutting him way too much slack.

[/quote]

Nice job dude. I don’t know if everyone else in your family knows about what’s going on, but if not, it may be a good idea to tell them. This way he won’t try to pull one of those things where he shows up at a family event by inviting himself through another family member.

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[quote]Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan[/quote]

Randycam,
I’d ask for an itemized bill on this one. Dan has a tendency to overcharge.

DB

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[quote]super saiyan wrote:
SkyzykS wrote:
Well, I got rid of the old gay guy…

Nice job dude. I don’t know if everyone else in your family knows about what’s going on, but if not, it may be a good idea to tell them. This way he won’t try to pull one of those things where he shows up at a family event by inviting himself through another family member.[/quote]

I told my one brother about it and he started cracking up, said “It’s about fucking time!”. He moved a few years ago with explicit instructions to not give his address to the gay guy.
He has never shown much interest in my sister, and she used to make fun of him a good bit anyways.
It’s pretty funny, my sis is usualy easy goig and very polite, but she likes to tear up on gays.

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[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

Randycam,
I’d ask for an itemized bill on this one. Dan has a tendency to overcharge.

DB[/quote]

I have a bill from Danny Boy Enterprises going to collections, but I’m fighting it. The deal was not what I thought it was. He’ll nickle and dime you to death.

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[quote]randycamtn wrote:
Professor X

Yes it was a real question. Sounds like you would be a good friend. You’re right that’s why I asked the question. Thanks for the help.

Vegita

Sounds like you really have it ?together?.

Yea, I definitely avoid those whose entire life revolves around being Gay. I?m not really interested in all of that.

You?re correct about the ?any thoughts of boning them must be suppressed.? I do that all the time. I guess that is why I never had any problems with friendships with guys I have absolutely no attraction to. The others I just force myself not to get too close. It can get sort of paranoid. Did I make eye contact too long? No physical contact of any kind, etc.

And I guess that was the answer that I was looking for. Just let my guard down, and I?m sure I would learn soon enough where the line was drawn. Hopefully with out getting ?punched in the nose?.

Thanks for the advice.

[/quote]

Singer/Songwriter/Commedian Stephen Lynch has a little diddy on this very issue… Below are the lyrics of the song intended for his gay buddy who just won’t leave well enough alone…

The last verse is all in jest of course.

Here we are
Dear old friends,
You and i drunk again,
laughs have been had
tears have been shed,
maybe the whisky has gone to my head,
but if i were gay
i would give you my heart,
and if i were gay
you’d be my work of art,
and if i were gay
we would swim in romance,
but im not gay
so get your hand out of my pants,

-bridge

its not that i dont care
i do,
i just dont see myself, in you,
another time another scene
i’d be right behind you if you know what i mean,
coz if i were gay
i would give my soul,
and if i were gay
i would give you my hole… being,
and if i were gay
we would tear down the walls,
But I’m Not gay
so wont you stop cupping my Balls,

-bridge

we’ve never hugged
we’ve never kissed,
i’ve never been intimate
with your fist,
but you have opened brand new doors,
get over here and drop … your … Drawers!!!

Hope that sheds a little light on where straight guys are coming from in maintaining friendships with guys who aren’t…

There is a line, a very visible line, inbetween being homeys and being lovers.

However, I think you need to air out your feelings to your straight buddies. It shouldn’t be your responsibility alone to maintain that line. Your buddy should also recognize if you’re lingering too long in a stare or a butt squeeze and communicate that it’s not cool, rather than dump you as a bro because of the offending gesture.

GAINER

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[quote]randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?
[/quote]

There’s no real line that needs to be drawn between straight friends, because it wouldn’t even occur to either party to go there. Straight guys can practice Brazilian jiu-jitsu or wrestle or whatever, and the only thing they will be thinking of is winning the contest.

I guess it would be somewhat akin to being friends with the grossest, ugliest, fattest female imaginable – but moreso, because even if you were over the top hammered you wouldn’t go there…

If you’re friends with straight guys, you just have to put out of your mind the smallest inkling that they would ever want to hook up with you – in fact, as counterintuitive as it might seem, you need to think about them on that level as you, as a gay guy, would normally think about your female friends. Any trespass over toward anything sexual has the serious potential to freak the guy out – which, if you’re really just friends, you won’t want to do.

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[quote]Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.

I know you typed a lot of words there, but all I could make out was this… “I’m gay and I want to touch penises”

Weird.

V

Gee you are sensitive. It must be the hormone therapy. Growing breasts must be such a nuisance. I hope you get your wish and grow real big ones.
Cheers guy…I mean gal…i mean…oh whatever you call yourself these days.

Dude, being gay is one thing, but now you’re telling me you are into guys having boobs so you can grab them while you are nailing them in the brown eye? Thats just a little freaky, next thing you know you’ll be attempting some genetic mutation so you can bang one of those half horse half man things. Centuars? Yea, thats it, you LOOOOOOOVE THEM.

V[/quote]

Yawn.

Be careful there bonehead. Your slowly letting me know your true identity.
Don’t be letting your BP rise too high cause you risk turning into a gay giant saiyan ozzuru monkey.

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[quote]jago25_98 wrote:
Kill the ChiChi man.
A friend who lived in Jamica for a while said rastas are mostly fine but also when he said Why do we have to kill the ChiChi Man? they said “Why? Are you gay?”

Everytime I here a kid use the word gay I want to smash them into the floor.

Problem is, I think you have to be both gay and out to be able to do that.[/quote]

Not a lot of this thread has made sense, but I truly have no clue as to what the hell you are talking about.

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[quote]grey wrote:
Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.

I know you typed a lot of words there, but all I could make out was this… “I’m gay and I want to touch penises”

Weird.

V

Gee you are sensitive. It must be the hormone therapy. Growing breasts must be such a nuisance. I hope you get your wish and grow real big ones.
Cheers guy…I mean gal…i mean…oh whatever you call yourself these days.

Dude, being gay is one thing, but now you’re telling me you are into guys having boobs so you can grab them while you are nailing them in the brown eye? Thats just a little freaky, next thing you know you’ll be attempting some genetic mutation so you can bang one of those half horse half man things. Centuars? Yea, thats it, you LOOOOOOOVE THEM.

V

Yawn.

Be careful there bonehead. Your slowly letting me know your true identity.
Don’t be letting your BP rise too high cause you risk turning into a gay giant saiyan ozzuru monkey.

[/quote]

Yawn? what the fuck is that? Is this some dumb ass gay move you’re trying to pull on me? Some conversion technique you learned while in gay camp? Listen brotha, I like pussy and it’s the last time I am going to tell you, stop sweating my nuts. Sheesh, we already had one poster who had to deal with this from a crazy old guy, and now I have to deal with it on here. If you don’t stop it, i’m telling TC, which is just like the police in the real world. No even better, it’s like telling the president.

V

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[quote]Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Vegita wrote:
grey wrote:
Dan Fouts wrote:
randycamtn wrote:
I have a question for the straight male T-members. I have always had straight male acquaintances but, never had a close straight buddy or friend. Because, I never knew where to “draw the line” in our friendship and not wanting to make an uncomfortable situation.

How do straight guys bond with out becoming a gay thing? Where does one “draw the line” in a male friendship?

Woah. Good question. Almost sounds like you don’t trust yourself to jump their shit. From afar I don’t see it much differently really than a straight guy being friends with a girl. Different people have different boundaries, but you should be the guy you are. Be yourself, and if people don’t like it, then you don’t want to be friends with them anyway. If it turns out that nobody wants to be your friend (as is the case with me) then you have social disfunction issues. Just be confident with your gaydom without being overbearing.

My $1.05,
Dan

This has become one of the gayest threads ever started on a bodybuilding forum…
There is just too much homophobe bashing going on here.
Just because I’m not gay doesn’t mean I’m not a person. i have feelings too you know.
Gee whiz you gay people are the biggest bunch of bigots. “Not gay? Not welcome” are the vibes i’m getting.
If this keeps up I just might not participate in any more of your gay debates for some time to come.

Oh and randycamtm…
How do straight guys bond without it becoming a gay thingy?
I believe that your confusing the word bonding with buggery.
Hope that helps.

I know you typed a lot of words there, but all I could make out was this… “I’m gay and I want to touch penises”

Weird.

V

Gee you are sensitive. It must be the hormone therapy. Growing breasts must be such a nuisance. I hope you get your wish and grow real big ones.
Cheers guy…I mean gal…i mean…oh whatever you call yourself these days.

Dude, being gay is one thing, but now you’re telling me you are into guys having boobs so you can grab them while you are nailing them in the brown eye? Thats just a little freaky, next thing you know you’ll be attempting some genetic mutation so you can bang one of those half horse half man things. Centuars? Yea, thats it, you LOOOOOOOVE THEM.

V

Yawn.

Be careful there bonehead. Your slowly letting me know your true identity.
Don’t be letting your BP rise too high cause you risk turning into a gay giant saiyan ozzuru monkey.

Yawn? what the fuck is that? Is this some dumb ass gay move you’re trying to pull on me? Some conversion technique you learned while in gay camp? Listen brotha, I like pussy and it’s the last time I am going to tell you, stop sweating my nuts. Sheesh, we already had one poster who had to deal with this from a crazy old guy, and now I have to deal with it on here. If you don’t stop it, i’m telling TC, which is just like the police in the real world. No even better, it’s like telling the president.

V[/quote]

Nicaragua…are you threatening me? I am the great cornholio!!!