That’s pretty much it. Some people seem to mirror others very heavily, and kind of forget to bring forward who they are. To an extent I got that vibe from the way you worded that post.
Rigid is a pretty fitting word. I’ll tell you what I think, act dumb, make fun of myself and you as well. If someone likes it, splendid! If not, I don’t really care. From my point of view this has worked really well, as my closest friends are just as dumb as I am, and I get along with anybody just fine.
Would you mind walking me through your way of getting to know people? Just curious, as it may look rather different between us
That would maybe have been me a few years ago, but I cannot recall a time where I reigned my own identity in to be perfectly frank.
I tend to opt for this philosophy also, but still I morph a lot around whom I’m with. Even within well-established friendships. I don’t worry about it. I just consider myself to be a whole lot of human, and that the way for me to experience the most of me is being around different types of people.
For instance, I’m quite fascinated by the topic of mental health and around people that have struggled with that or works with that that’s a topic that’ll have a lot of room within those relationships. Meanwhile, I have other relationships that are more about training, others around politics, and so on.
Honestly, I think this is quite normal. I might just do it in a more amplified manner than most.
Can’t say I have a way. For me, it’s the most natural thing. It’s more natural than breathing, because I can have to think about breathing (valsava, duration of breaths, …) but socialising tha’s just… easy.
Surprised I didn’t wake up with deadly DOMS this morning. Should’ve pushed harder.
Broke my commitment to say yes to any offer to eat out (got asked to join for lunch) but I feel like it’s okay since I’m going out for burgers tonight. Reasons being financial.
Went for a calorie surplus yesterday, I felt plenty full after my post-workout meal. But not sickly full, and so I opted to have one final “meal” despite feeling satiated. Guessing I tipped the scale from maintenance to surplus.
Also forgot to mention – an obvious recommendation is Permanent Record if you haven’t read it yet. The audiobook is nice. I thought of it because I started listening to Rogan’s newest interview with Snowden, which was recently uploaded. In this episode he mentions the Citizen Lab, which might interest you. But maybe you are already familiar…
Burger, honestly disappointing. We were a company of ten people, and any chef — or any goon with half a mind — should have the intellect to realise you cannot put tomatoes at the bottom on the bun. It was soggy. Not worth the £€¥. Eating out in my country is prohibitively expensive. A single meal out is easily two days worth of food where you haven’t even begun to opt for “cheap” with regards to ingredients.
My tire blew out on the way home meaning I had to walk the bike so I totalled in at 18k steps today (10-12k is my norm), and the day had already been kind of active so I figured I should eat more despite not wanting to.
I understand that sentiment, but the only places for myself where that wouldn’t be true would be shockingly expensive. And you’re a far better cook than me.
Blinked twice and had to catch up with over 100 posts on here. Sounds like you are doing better which is really good. Oh and stop with all the food pics. Now I am bloody hungry.
Hehe, this was the first phrase to came to mind when thinking about how to open my reply.
I get where you are coming from, and thank you for that compliment (have you ever up loaded pictures of cooking?)
Still, that does not change my mind. Most people that become chefs here are trained chefs, or shall we say that at this place they hire chefs rather than people that happen to know how to cook (the further toward the city/town centre an establishment is the more formal this aspect of professional cooking becomes)
Even if we were to leave that aspect aside, or postulate that I’m mistaken even about their background, if a person cooks as their full-time job then I expect them to deliver an above average burger seeing as they themselves decided to make it a menu item.
Sadly, the Tweet has since been deleted but there was a wonderful exchange on Twitter between El-P and a fan of his that asked him how did you make these beats so banging to which he had replied (paraphrasing) “If you do something for over a decade you should be good”. Obviously, the context here is that he’s an artist that’s actively trying to be good. I’ll never become “good” at vacuuming because I’ve never tried to improve on it.
Arguably, it’s conceivable that there are chefs that never try to improve either but it’d be sad presumption to make that this is what explains the “meh” of the experience.
As an aside @Bagsy, related to what we’re talking about in your log: here I have several people complimenting me on my food and yet my feeling is that the reason these images aren’t in the food porn thread is because I don’t think it’s good enough. Seems somewhat similar to your reasoning about yourself, yes?
Haha, no, I’m suggesting she should be kinder to herself. And that I should be kinder to myself.
I wanted to write for her to be less prone to put herself down, but you seem to be in a certain state of mind where the word “prone” is arguably best left unused.
I got ya mate and you are correct on both accounts. It just seemed like a mildly funny reference. You will have to allow for the fact that its Friday and my mind is fried so I have switched to dad joke mode.
I actually agree with a lot of what you wrote regarding her being stronger or at least better than her thread title alludes to. I think for some people though a little self hate is not a bad thing, as long as it drives positive behaviors and they are able to see their true self worth.
I know you are just jesting, it’s perfectly fine (and welcome).
I appreciate that. I’m… observant, and I believe myself to have seen people that indulge in (a lot of) self-hate that are below average, average, above average, and top-tier. Neither of them seem very… happy. There’s also seemingly people that do not engage in this practice at every tier as well. I’m trying to be less self-hating and I’m still seeing progress, so I’ll continue trying to be a bit less self-deprecating because evidently it doesn’t serve that much of a use as I thought that it did and any arguments of mine to support it are only an excuse to engage in a mild form of self-harm.
So, if someone has used directing negative energy inward as their driver for progression and it isn’t doing them any undo harm they can always go back to that mode and mindset after experimenting with not applying it. And, if such a person can maintain the velocity in their progression absent this mindset then I don’t really see how it can be the better option in an objective sense?
I don’t always think it is as simple as what is better or what is good or bad. I think its maybe what we have to do to get through. I like to think that we can all be positive and just seeing consistent improvements is enough to make us feel great about ourselves. But in practice at least for me that isn’t the case. I can only really talk for myself here. The better I get, the more I feel behind those that are considerably better than me, and that dislike of being behind drives me to be better and to keep pushing forward. At the same time i am able to look objectively at where I am compared to others and see where I have improved. I think the challenge for any of us that seek to improve, size or strength is that we don’t want to compare ourselves to the average person but to compare ourselves to other people who train like we do. Its easy for me to feel strong when I compare myself to the average 46 year old. If I change that comparison to masters powerlifters at age 46 then its very different.
Sometimes my parallels are a bit strained but I’m transported back in time to when graphic design was my profession, and I oftentimes listened to the words in this video
This was pretty much the exact sentiment I was trying to express.
I believe I have a few, but not loads. I only cook for myself these days so I don’t make it look pretty or cater for anyone elses tastes. In a previous life I’ve spent literal days preparing overly complex meals for other people and I enjoyed it, but I just don’t have the time or audience for that these days. I’ll put a few up below, save you trawling my log.
