That marriage was already ruined, it just had not collapsed until that point.
[quote]Mad HORSE wrote:
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
It’s also possible in this day and age for a homeless dude to buy a 5 dollar lotto ticket before he goes to sleep in a dumpster, and wakes up the next day a millionare. There’s a huge difference between possible, and probable. Not to mention the difference in price between a lotto ticket, and a lawyer.[/quote]
Dude, I’m living proof of getting the kids and child support. Plus, it was easy and cheap. We did the state’s DIY Divorce kit, only about $200.[/quote]
First of all who’s “we”?
Second, I’ve had shared physical custody of my children for 3 years. In that 3 years, I’ve been through the entire family court process (minus the divorce itself) 3 times. Their’s nothing cheap or easy about it. I represent myself to save money. Than I get ordered to pay for her lawyer because my income is 5 times what she reports hers is. And I get nuked for huge child support. Not because I make alot of money and don’t see my kids, but because her carreer as a “sandwhich artist” leaves her with a reletively small income to report. She’s been held in contempt for access denials, she makes no effort to provide for herself or my kids, and she’s actually been diagnosed as being mentally ill. And somehow every time we go to court I get less time with my kids, and have to pay more support. I’ll soon be sharing custody of my kids from my sister’s basement.
I’m “living proof” that your fucked for as long as she wants you to be.
On topic, that show is retarded by the way.
Id marry her if her hair was a different color.
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
[quote]Mad HORSE wrote:
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
It’s also possible in this day and age for a homeless dude to buy a 5 dollar lotto ticket before he goes to sleep in a dumpster, and wakes up the next day a millionare. There’s a huge difference between possible, and probable. Not to mention the difference in price between a lotto ticket, and a lawyer.[/quote]
Dude, I’m living proof of getting the kids and child support. Plus, it was easy and cheap. We did the state’s DIY Divorce kit, only about $200.[/quote]
First of all who’s “we”?
Second, I’ve had shared physical custody of my children for 3 years. In that 3 years, I’ve been through the entire family court process (minus the divorce itself) 3 times. Their’s nothing cheap or easy about it. I represent myself to save money. Than I get ordered to pay for her lawyer because my income is 5 times what she reports hers is. And I get nuked for huge child support. Not because I make alot of money and don’t see my kids, but because her carreer as a “sandwhich artist” leaves her with a reletively small income to report. She’s been held in contempt for access denials, she makes no effort to provide for herself or my kids, and she’s actually been diagnosed as being mentally ill. And somehow every time we go to court I get less time with my kids, and have to pay more support. I’ll soon be sharing custody of my kids from my sister’s basement.
I’m “living proof” that your fucked for as long as she wants you to be.[/quote]
Wow, man. I’m sorry you’re going through all that, I really am.
My ex wanted to split to be with her boyfriend. We (her and I) did the paperwork ourselves and had everything done inside two months.
Wish it was that easy for everyone dealing with this shit.
[quote]Mad HORSE wrote:
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
[quote]Mad HORSE wrote:
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
It’s also possible in this day and age for a homeless dude to buy a 5 dollar lotto ticket before he goes to sleep in a dumpster, and wakes up the next day a millionare. There’s a huge difference between possible, and probable. Not to mention the difference in price between a lotto ticket, and a lawyer.[/quote]
Dude, I’m living proof of getting the kids and child support. Plus, it was easy and cheap. We did the state’s DIY Divorce kit, only about $200.[/quote]
First of all who’s “we”?
Second, I’ve had shared physical custody of my children for 3 years. In that 3 years, I’ve been through the entire family court process (minus the divorce itself) 3 times. Their’s nothing cheap or easy about it. I represent myself to save money. Than I get ordered to pay for her lawyer because my income is 5 times what she reports hers is. And I get nuked for huge child support. Not because I make alot of money and don’t see my kids, but because her carreer as a “sandwhich artist” leaves her with a reletively small income to report. She’s been held in contempt for access denials, she makes no effort to provide for herself or my kids, and she’s actually been diagnosed as being mentally ill. And somehow every time we go to court I get less time with my kids, and have to pay more support. I’ll soon be sharing custody of my kids from my sister’s basement.
I’m “living proof” that your fucked for as long as she wants you to be.[/quote]
Wow, man. I’m sorry you’re going through all that, I really am.
My ex wanted to split to be with her boyfriend. We (her and I) did the paperwork ourselves and had everything done inside two months.
Wish it was that easy for everyone dealing with this shit.[/quote]
What you seem to be either ignoring or forgetting is that the power to screw you still lies with the “ex-wife”. You are simply lucky that your own didn’t try to screw you. That is all it is. I hear about someone’s divorce so often on a regular basis that I know your situation is rare…yet you really seemed to think otherwise.
Things ONLY work out that way of you two break on decent terms. If she is out to get you, trust me, she will long before you could EVER do the same in return.
yay it’s teh never get married thread, again!
I laughed at the candle being lit and the incense.
Seeing this fucker in bed made me throw up.
gee, thanks Diana. My lunch is now on the floor and that steak was fucking expensive.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
I laughed at the candle being lit and the incense.
Seeing this fucker in bed made me throw up.
gee, thanks Diana. My lunch is now on the floor and that steak was fucking expensive.[/quote]
hahaha you had to see it coming tho.
[quote]orion wrote:
ive been married 20 years and if i found that out about the former bf and screwin someone else i’d leave my wife there and then .
at the end he had his arm around her comforting her WTF.
Marriage is an easy institution to attack. But just like anything that has the power to make you happy it also has the power to make you miserable. Most marriages fail because one or both of the people involved were not emotionally ready for such a serious commitment. I’ve been married for almost 17 years and I can honestly say that these have been the happiest 17 years of my life.
[quote]ZEB wrote:
Marriage is an easy institution to attack. But just like anything that has the power to make you happy it also has the power to make you miserable. Most marriages fail because one or both of the people involved were not emotionally ready for such a serious commitment. I’ve been married for almost 17 years and I can honestly say that these have been the happiest 17 years of my life.
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The thing is, I am sure everyone here would think that is great. However, it also no longer seems to be the norm.
There used to be more social pressure for a couple to stay together, both from the church and the community. NONE of that exists much anymore and divorces are so common, they have divorce court shows on tv going into their second decade on tv because of the ratings it brings in.
Could you imagine anything like that in the 50’s and 60’s?
I was speaking to another doc about this yesterday and while we both think that relationship can be great when it works…he has been divorced two times.
I am all for lasting relationships that work.
I just know we live in a social setting that increasingly seems to care less about the true sanctity of marriage and do it lately mostly for the social status.
For women, it is still within their favor to be married long before the age of 40.
fucking bitch!! i would be screwing if i was the husband. why agree to go on a show like that, if youve got something to hide?
[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
Walkway. Mr. Walk Down Me. Walk me to the building Fuck you.[/quote]
^^Butchered… rookie biatch
“Walkway. Mr. Walk-down-me-I’m-the-walkway. Lead me to the building, Fuck you.”
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]ZEB wrote:
Marriage is an easy institution to attack. But just like anything that has the power to make you happy it also has the power to make you miserable. Most marriages fail because one or both of the people involved were not emotionally ready for such a serious commitment. I’ve been married for almost 17 years and I can honestly say that these have been the happiest 17 years of my life.
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The thing is, I am sure everyone here would think that is great. However, it also no longer seems to be the norm.
There used to be more social pressure for a couple to stay together, both from the church and the community. NONE of that exists much anymore and divorces are so common, they have divorce court shows on tv going into their second decade on tv because of the ratings it brings in.
Could you imagine anything like that in the 50’s and 60’s?
I was speaking to another doc about this yesterday and while we both think that relationship can be great when it works…he has been divorced two times.
I am all for lasting relationships that work.
I just know we live in a social setting that increasingly seems to care less about the true sanctity of marriage and do it lately mostly for the social status.
For women, it is still within their favor to be married long before the age of 40.[/quote]
x2 Prof. X
Also… remember that back then the divorce laws and family courts DID NOT default on the side of the wife.
This is why I holla: We want Prenup! We want Prenup!
-its good for poor folk too 
[quote]Neospartan wrote:
Also… remember that back then the divorce laws and family courts DID NOT default on the side of the wife.
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Actually they did. The “tender years” doctrine was in use for most of North America from the early 1900s until the 1970s, and it basically gaurenteed the mother had child custody, and father paid child support. Now we have the “best interests of the child” doctrine which has really not changed much due to (among many other factors) traditional gender roles, and courts deeming that maintanance of the status quoe to be in the children’s best interest. Judge bias, and preconception about the genders also plays heavily into court decisions.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Mad HORSE wrote:
Of course you shouldn’t marry, says the divorced guy.
But sometimes a divorce can be a good thing. It is entirely possible in this day and age for the man to get primary custody of, and child support for, his three wonderful children, while his cheating ex lives a miserable and broken existance.
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? This isn’t much different than people asking if they can drop 30lbs of body fat while al2so gaining 30lbs of muscle…by spring break. Yeah, nearly ANYTHING is “possible”. Everything is NOT probable.
Dude, on average, it seems most men in divorce do NOT end up coming out ahead in those situations…and we have people right here who have had their wives cheat on them and they still don’t get the kids and have to pay the wife off.[/quote]
yep. not hating on you dude, but you are the exception, not the rule.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Seriously though, why would someone go on a show like this? I tend to hold House’s philosophy, everybody lies. They are asking her questions about her life and job that could keep her from getting another job…yet she went through with it?
Have you ever stolen money from your place of employment? Why would someone hire her after that?[/quote]
I would have loved to be on that show.
Beating a polygraph test is about as difficult as ordering a fucking pizza. I can think of a couple ways in which I would invest that 500 grand…
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]ZEB wrote:
Marriage is an easy institution to attack. But just like anything that has the power to make you happy it also has the power to make you miserable. Most marriages fail because one or both of the people involved were not emotionally ready for such a serious commitment. I’ve been married for almost 17 years and I can honestly say that these have been the happiest 17 years of my life.
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The thing is, I am sure everyone here would think that is great. However, it also no longer seems to be the norm.
There used to be more social pressure for a couple to stay together, both from the church and the community. NONE of that exists much anymore and divorces are so common, they have divorce court shows on tv going into their second decade on tv because of the ratings it brings in.
Could you imagine anything like that in the 50’s and 60’s?
I was speaking to another doc about this yesterday and while we both think that relationship can be great when it works…he has been divorced two times.
I am all for lasting relationships that work.
I just know we live in a social setting that increasingly seems to care less about the true sanctity of marriage and do it lately mostly for the social status.
For women, it is still within their favor to be married long before the age of 40.[/quote]
No question there are plenty of cultural changes which have driven us to the path that we’re on. I think it’s much more difficult for a couple, say in their 20’s, to get married and stay married than it was for me and my wife 17 years ago. But as we both know the more mature a couple is the better their chance of making it.
I thought you’d have tied the knot by now Prof. You’re not getting any younger and I know you want to hear the patter of little professors foot steps. No? Hey as a dad I can tell you that it is very cool to teach your kid to lift weights, play ball and a whole host of other things. But of course one does not have to get married to have a child, but I really think it helps.
[quote]ZEB wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]ZEB wrote:
Marriage is an easy institution to attack. But just like anything that has the power to make you happy it also has the power to make you miserable. Most marriages fail because one or both of the people involved were not emotionally ready for such a serious commitment. I’ve been married for almost 17 years and I can honestly say that these have been the happiest 17 years of my life.
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The thing is, I am sure everyone here would think that is great. However, it also no longer seems to be the norm.
There used to be more social pressure for a couple to stay together, both from the church and the community. NONE of that exists much anymore and divorces are so common, they have divorce court shows on tv going into their second decade on tv because of the ratings it brings in.
Could you imagine anything like that in the 50’s and 60’s?
I was speaking to another doc about this yesterday and while we both think that relationship can be great when it works…he has been divorced two times.
I am all for lasting relationships that work.
I just know we live in a social setting that increasingly seems to care less about the true sanctity of marriage and do it lately mostly for the social status.
For women, it is still within their favor to be married long before the age of 40.[/quote]
I thought you’d have tied the knot by now Prof. You’re not getting any younger and I know you want to hear the patter of little professors foot steps. No? Hey as a dad I can tell you that it is very cool to teach your kid to lift weights, play ball and a whole host of other things. But of course one does not have to get married to have a child, but I really think it helps.
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It used to drive me insane whenever someone would say this to me when I was single.
If you haven’t found anyone that you want to settle down with yet, then who gives a shit how old you are?