this is very telling, isn’t it? How are you going to demonstrate attractive qualities, if you don’t even know what they are? How can you show a girl you’re dateable, if you don’t even know what it means to be dateable? You said earlier that this isn’t a ‘you’ problem. But there’s no way you would actually know that without knowing what women want in the first place.
It’s important to note that there aren’t really any universals, per se, but there are qualities that are GENERALLY well received. Being funny, for instance, is something most women appreciate and look for. Do some googling for like top 5 lists of what women generally want in a dude to get at least a reasonable idea of what qualities a lot of women look for. It does change with age, so make sure you’re searching more or less in your age bracket.
So that being said, it’s also important to note that when you’re talking to a girl, you need to make sure you’re demonstrating qualities SHE appreciates. Not all women like guys that are gym rats. And honestly, most girls don’t like guys who talk about the gym a lot. So if you think that’s a strong quality for you, it may or may not be to her. If you know she likes talking about gym-stuff, lean on that. If you come to realize she doesn’t, avoid it.
Now to your list, specifically.
Passion for lifting: that’s great that you’re passionate about lifting, but how does that translate into a dateable quality? Do you really think a girl is gonna go for you because she finds out you have a passion for lifting heavy things and putting them down repeatedly? Most of the time, that answer will be no. A girl will more likely be attracted to the RESULTS of that passion, meaning the physique you develop.
‘want to go to college for construction management’ - there is nothing specifically about this that would be appealing to a girl who’s looking to date. The desirable quality would be: you’re smart enough to go to college, you’re goal oriented, focused, ambitious, etc. THOSE are qualities. Your statement is simply a thing you want to do in a year or 2. That’s not a quality. So, the things I listed would be demonstrable qualities. Simply being a person who has the intention to study a particular subject in school will get you absolutely nowhere. BUT maybe the underlying drives that have led you to want this could be appealing to someone.
‘Silly, cool, calm, collected’ - ok first of all… can you actually imagine a girl saying ‘you know what quality I find really attractive in a man? Silliness! I just want a dude who’s silly as fuck and makes memes that make me chuckle sometimes. That’s my dream!’ Nah dude. An attractive high school girl will never have an interest in that. In fact, it will be a huge turn off,in most cases. Silliness can be fine, even endearing, in the context of an actual relationship. Like if you’re silly with her behind closed doors. But simply being a goof ball will actually detract from the previous qualities I mentioned, the notions of being driven, motivated, smart, etc. If you’re all those things, but you project silliness, all those other positive qualities will likely go unobserved.
The cool calm and collected bit is simply useless. I have nowhere to go with that one, sorry.
Tall is good! Appearances do matter, and height especially. So, good on you. Do you dress well? Make sure you cater the rest of your appearance to coming across as tall. Don’t slouch, have good posture. Don’t wear baggy clothes. Good hygiene is hugely important, since we’re on the subject of superficial stuff. Nice haircut, all that.
With all due respect, I doubt that, given the stats you’ve shared previously, that your current muscularity will get you anywhere. Maybe in a few years. But don’t be the skinny guy who wears too-tight t shirts and shit. dress appropriately for your physique, as I already mentioned. If you have muscles, they will be noticed. If not, no big deal.
There’s a lot for you to read through there, and I don’t really have time to type up more. But maybe that can be a jump-off point for you to ask some more questions and get more feedback for self-improvement and better self awareness.
Uh i’m pretty smart in the National honor society. I’m pretty strong. Those others idk. I am close with a female cousin tho. She said how am I still single, i’m considerate and sweet.