Is it wrong to not make a first move on girl you don’t find physically attractive but it’s vice versa with them.
I don’t really understand what you said. If you’re not really interested physically then it’s not wrong.
But you know my ex made the first move, we met at a party, and the day after she added me on FB and our mutual friend said she liked me. But I wasn’t finding her really hot, so I hesitated. I said why not, and we talked and I fell in love really fast and we could have stayed together “forever” if I didn’t have my own issues.
So I would say, give everyone a chance (unless you find them repulsive lol)
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Any hole’s a goal.
I spent a semester of college trying to convince myself that a girl that had a crush on me in one of my classes was attractive.
Probably the hardest I worked as an undergrad…
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I remember him. Crazy. I figured his stories were all fake.
What do all your rejections have in common?
You!
I wouldn’t worry about a few rejections. 4? Ha!
When it gets up to 20-30 then you’ve got a problem.
There should be a lesson learned from each rejection. What did you do that didn’t work? Don’t do it again. At the very least, you know that what you’re doing isn’t working. Try something else.
Hmm well because of today that makes 5. I’ll go in order to see what I learned from them.
1.Talk to the girl in person…(she was interested and it was obvious i screwed it up by being nervous, i never talked to her in that one class I had so many opportunities)
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Sent memes as first text after getting number from using direct approach . (I’m so stupid)
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Should’ve just noticed she wasn’t interested in the first place although she responded to the first text.
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Girl didn’t even open dm
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Didn’t respond
Um i guess use direct approach more. I mean every girl is different but I think the direct approach has a more success rate because the chicks get kind’ve a preview of you in person. In conclusion dming a girl on instagram has never worked. I’ll never do snapchat because i can just sink to the bottom of other snaps.
Also, if you have a private conversation online with somebody and it actually works in your favor, you should know that it’s a huge violation of trust and privacy to post that entire conversation online on a public forum for anyone to see, even if the person barely responds to you.
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Yes sir
Lol direct approach is hard. I never did it with someone who doesn’t know I exist. I wouldn’t even know what to say.
How did you come across your wife?
Problem?!? That’s a routine Saturday night playing the field. 
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At work, not that workplace relationships are always a good idea (often their not), but we were both vet techs and loved animals, so it wasn’t a bad place to start.
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Have we talked about the 3 A’s yet? Attention, Acceptance, Approval? This works pretty much on everybody.
Girls / everybody want attention, so give it to them. This includes listening to what they say, encouraging them talking, (and letting them continue), paying attention and properly complimenting them. Compliments are tricky because you don’t want to compliment things, you want to compliment the person. “That dress is nice” is a weak compliment because it’s about a thing. (Do girls wear dresses nowadays?) “You have a great sense of style” is a strong compliment because it’s about the girl (not the dress.)
Girls / everybody want acceptance, so don’t go putting them down, contradicting them or interrupting them. I know a girl who talks incessantly about megalodons. (Seriously, she’s into that Jurassic World stuff.) So i accept what she has to say about megalodons even if I think it’s stupid.
And finally, girls / everybody want approval. That means everybody wants to be reassured they are a valuable human being. At it’s simplest form, it can be “you seem pretty cool”. Or better yet, you can be impressed by something she said or does. “You’re pretty awesome for working at the homeless shelter”, or just “I’m impressed how much you know about megalodons; I bet you’d be great teaching kids about dinosaurs.”
Try using some of this stuff and see if works better. Remember, it’s all about them.
I think he wants to get layed, not friend-zoned.
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He has to be able to talk to them before he can get a date, and he has to get a date before he can get laid. Let’s do one step at a time. You’re three steps ahead of where he is now.
That would absolutely not be in line with his Christian values.
That said, friend-zone is a silly internet thing. If another human wants to have sex with you, you being their friend won’t be a detriment.
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True that, Christians hate being friend-zoned.
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Can we talk about the approach too? I think that’s important as well.
Set up a Karaoke event/club at your school