It was s passing comment from a godfather about a kid when she walked by. People have conversations.
As for emotional abandonment , she’s the one who would ignore people, display antisocial behavior, lie , manipulate. In the past she stole from my wife , her grandmother’s church . Myself. My son. There’s a whole lot of stuff here more than I feel like typing.
I don’t tolerate bs like this. I have two other kids to take care of. And if it’s not all about her, it’s never good enough.
Personality disorder, bi polar, just being an asshole, or a pussy. It all adds up to bad.
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That seems like my step daughter. Lazy, can’t take criticism. Excuses etc.
At her sixteenth birthday party an old friend asked me how my twins were doing in school. I told them how they did their freshmen year. They were 2nd and 12 in their class st the end of the school year. She heard thst walking by and took a fit and ran in the house. They’re both much smarter and work harder than her, but she always made excuses .
There is so much more to this than an incident or two . After she left the house( she was told she’s following are rules or leaving) her mother found some sex tapes on her cell phone. She denied it until she was blue in the face and ran to relatives complaining how her mother was spreading lies.
Her mother got her a summer job making 10+ dollars an hours a half mile from our home ( she works st the sister plant). Kid failed s drug test. Using an idiot friend’s hot pee. She stole my dons chuck taylor’s even though they were much to big for him.
She screws up and it’s always poor pity me.
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without knowing any more than this, i can begin to see possible alternate explanations for her behaviour
holding these academic achievements up for praise in her presence and at her 16th birthday party (which she likely had big expectations about being HER day) may have re-activated feelings of inferiority (you say the twins are both smarter AND work harder; you can’t beat someone if they are both more naturally gifted and work harder than you so what hope is there?)
there may be feelings she can’t articulate or have a vague suspicion about her grades being artificially lower than they should have been because she was discriminated against as some kind of freak or too pretty or too chubby or something by the teachers
you don’t specify what you mean by academic achievement but that has come largely to mean math and science and computers in contemporary society and all the humanities dismissed as romantic frilly nonsense
this can begin a spiral into a personality problem
someone who may have considerable innate talent can feel utterly devalued in an unjust way by these tendencies
drug testing and being sixteen. 'nuff said?
and as many have begun to note, if there had been cameras everywhere when we were young we would not have the luxury of playing all brand-new now
embarrassing photos and vids on the internet are probably going to be about as significant in the future as all those people who said you would never get a job with a tattoo or a facial piercing.
Now, so many people have them there is nothing you can do to avoid them so that has become moot.
i can easily see her viewpoint here from the details you choose to include
the job was gotten for her, it’s near your home, it is related to the place her mother works
it all sounds like you had expectations of her behaviour serving as an extension of your own accomplishments, you wanted to feel proud of her etc.
from her point of view, she wishes you would choose to be on her side and not pick the side of random people you happen to work with, that her feelings should be more important to you than what people outside of the home think about your honour
to her, you have already emotionally abandoned her
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