Don’t bother. It would just give them satisfaction.
Agree that it doesn’t look like you’ve found a keeper.
Also, is checking your joint phone records a breach of trust and privacy? They’re your phone records. If she wasn’t hiding something from you, she would have no real reason to be upset that you looked. You don’t apologize for catching someone cheating.
Exactly. Get out while youre ahead. You’re in your prime years, dont waste more time on her
Amongst other things, stuff like these new apps like ‘Happn’ that all the kidzz are on make it super easy to meet a ton of hotties
Girlfriend, not wife. You don’t go to counseling with a girlfriend, especially not a cheating one. If they’re having dinner together while her s/o is deployed, then she’s cheating whether they’re fucking or not. The fact that she tried to hide it should tell you everything you need to know.
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Yeah, I misread the OP–thought it was a spousal situation.
good point. Both phones are in my name.
Not as much of a spring chicken I wish that I was, but there’s still plenty of tread left. I’ll have to check into Happn when I get home. Thanks.
The only person I would trust is the Chaplain because he has confidentiality. She’s living in my house and driving my car so I could just kick her ass out if/when I decide to.
Youtube won’t work, internet is too slow.
Sorry. It’s the Chris Rock skit talking about O.J… “I’m not saying he killed her, but I understand.”
Also I just realized: If you two have been sharing a dwelling and utilities you may still need a domestic attorney to evict her correctly. Most states have laws to protect women/mothers from being kicked to the curb even if they’re not married.
Search for attorneys who handle these things for deployed servicemen. There should be plenty near camp Lejeune that work with Marines. Get their rates up front. Most of them bill by the 15min and they can make conversations stretch. Email is the most efficient. You will likely have to pay her to make her go away. Luckily evictions work pretty fast in NC.
Do you have anyone you can trust living near your home (parents/relatives)? I suggest after she is evicted you have them change your locks, secure the car and put in a set of security cameras.
What ever happened to the good old days when you just get hammered and leave her at a 7-11 20 miles away at 2:00 AM on a weekend night?
Its just like relocating a bear. They snap out of it a little dizzy and stumble around for a while but usually find another home rather quickly.
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The Chaplain confidentiality obligation is not absolute. There are exceptions, and, when I was in certain MOS, I do to provide the written waiver of the confidentiality right. I wouldn’t be surprised if you signed it and did not know.
On the bright side, my Captain in Trashganistan discovered his wife was cheating on him when her Jody wrapped the Captain’s car around a light pole while drunk outside Ft. Rucker with the Captain’s wife and baby in the car. Wife naked. Baby was fine.
Good times. I thought I was going to get killed simply because he was pissed at the world.
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I guess your right. I’ve never used them, I only know one person that has and his life was already FUBAR to begin with…
Maybe she’s cheating on you and is really in to him
OR maybe she is obsessed with bodybuilding and really ADMIRES him, which is a big difference from romantically being infatuated with him. It is normal for someone to admire someone else without any romantic notions, and girls are notorious for this kind of thing.
I hate to say it to you but she is cheating on you.
Don’t let your heart lead your head on this one, you have to go all Vulcan and drop that situation asap. The fact that she is spending time with another man AND hiding it from you speaks volumes. She is purposefully being deceitful and downright disrespectful. Whether she has gotten physical with him or not you don’t know but she is cheating on you emotionally which is a one way ticket to something more. If it were the other way around she would be all over it like a rabid dog. She has been out to dinner with him, nuff said…
Btw don’t get caught in the trap of her saying she was lonely and in need of some attention, women pull that excuse all the time. They’ll never admit that they simply wanted someone else physically, oh no, that is the preserve of evil men…
It’s an awful shit situation to be in but best of luck with it!
Life is too short to waste your time for a girl, move on, there so much girls waiting for you hehe
I didn’t think of it this way that is a solid point
Thank you for the advice. I agree it is an emotional affair she is having with him and I need to just dump her for my sanity. She has a 6 year old daughter that I have raised as my own and that is the hardest part for me to leave. I want to wait until I get home to see if things change but at the same time I know how she is when I’m away so I can’t trust her. She continues to do things she knows I don’t like just to distance herself from me more. I appreciate everyone’s support on here. I was surprised to get so many responses.
That’s true bigmax. I don’t know why I’m getting hung up on this one girl. I know there are millions of women on this earth that are better and will treat me better.