I doubt that it’s relevant to compare wolves to domestic dogs, but seeing as so many people think it is perhaps it would help to explain a bit about wolf social organisation.
The “alpha wolf” does not use physical force to attain his position. The “Alpha Male” is simply the breeding male of the pair. Being a dad puts him there. He gets to raise the pups, yay for him. At least he gets to have sex with Mrs Wolf.
A lot of the early research was based on captive populations of wolves and was deeply flawed by this, and also flawed by observational bias. The guy who coined the term “alpha wolf” has even asked his publisher to pull one of his titles, but it keeps on selling. He’s been in the wilderness for over 30 years now, watching real wolves do real wolfy things and he can’t believe the crap he hears about what wolves “supposedly” do. Worth looking up, “L David Mech” is his name.
The “alpha roll” you see on nature documentaries is not a display of physical power. The subordinate wolf OFFERS this by rolling over, he isn’t PUT there. The only time a wolf would physically pin another dog to the ground is if he intended to kill it. I can’t imagine that this would be good for a dog’s mental health, being pinned to the ground thinking “I’m too young to die!”
So given that we’re not actually using real “wolf speak” when we try to talk to dogs like this (if they would even understand wolf speak), what makes this sort of thing effective? It’s actually Operant Conditioning. If we know that’s it’s Operant Conditioning, then we also know there are a ton of ways to use OC without having to pretend to be a wolf, much less resort to physical violence.
At the end of the day, we have to remember that a dog LETS US win these games. We’re coming to the knife fight with some badly rehearsed moves we saw on Karate Kid (or a phone book as the case may be). Some of the dogs I’ve seen are no longer at the point where they will willingly or even begrudgingly let us win anything, so obviously unless I want to break out the tranq gun I have to take a different approach because, I’m not weak or slow, but I haven’t got a mouth full of daggers either.
Nearly all the dogs I see are referrals from other dog trainers and vets. I don’t lay a finger on them, we’ve moved past that. It doesn’t matter what you or I learned about raising dogs or what has worked in the past, it was never really that great anyway. What I do today is easier, has a higher success rate, can be used to take the dogs much, much further, is much safer for everyone, and most people enjoy the process.