[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
tootles27 wrote:
EmilyQ wrote:
Yes, the little girl is beautiful. No question. You’d think that would be what her father focused on, wouldn’t you? Rather than the horrible, hurtful things that happened to her 7 years ago.
Standndeliver, lol. Wow. You’ve caught me off guard. I’ll have to think about what you’ve said. Plus, I’m on my way out.
EmilyQ, let me start off by saying you always have good posts and I agree with the things you say almost 100% of the time. I don’t think that HH deserved what you said UNLESS he hopped on one of your threads and ripped you apart first (then I hang my head). I think I saw somewhere that you are a counselor? Maybe you are reacting strongly due to what you see daily.
I thought HH was just trying to be funny but everyone takes things differently.
Ergh. I would rather talk about bras. But yes, I’m a counselor working with kids. I see all sorts of damage, and yes, I’m sensitive to it. But shouldn’t everyone be? Headhunter came to my attention as a parent in his “Should I Buy My Daughter a Vibrator?” thread:
http://www.T-Nation.com/tmagnum/readTopic.do?id=2011945
Headhunter wrote:
This is a serious question, not meant to offend anyone, and I hope it’ll stay here and not in the Men’s section.
What’s a good age to buy a vibrator for my daughter? Any way to tell? I’m guessing when she’s 12? Too early?
I would buy it, put it in one of her clothing drawers, with a note saying something like: “Don’t mention this. Just use it, ignore it, throw it away, whatever you want. I love you, Dad.”
Is all of this a stupid thing to do? All I want is for my daughter to be happy.
My question is sincere so I hope it will treated this way.
Thanks for any ideas.
I treated him politely in there initially (“be careful! that’s not a good idea!”). When he mentioned how lucky his daughter is to have him (rat-infested box in China, tenured wife, blah blah blah) I made the point that most parents consider themselves the lucky ones. He called me names. (My bitterness over my lack of appeal to a man being the main theme then, as now.)
He claimed to be trolling in that thread, whatever that means, and not sincere. In which case, he was using his daughter to serve his apparently bottomless need for attention. As he did here, in this thread.
So we’ve been here before. The name calling, the horror at being misunderstood, the whole thing. To be honest, I’m not entirely convinced the daughter even exists. Because what freak broken-records about saving a child from a rat-infested box in China for seven years? But again, whether she exists or is a figment of his imagination, it’s distasteful to use a child in ways that are not advantageous to them, to make yourself feel good. Posting a kid’s pic on the internet and discussing her painful private history is inappropriate in the extreme.
sluicy, dogs are different. People tend to feel abandoned, unlovable, hurt, and very ashamed of injuries like having been left to die among the rats. We mock people for having a face only a mother could love. What does it mean when even a mother couldn’t love yours? Dogs don’t have language. Your dog won’t realize it if you decide to tell people over and over again about no one wanting him when he was born. But you know, I’d bet you don’t. I bet you don’t focus very much on how lucky your dog is, or tell your friends about it. Headhunter, on the other hand, has mentioned wanting to take his kid to Vegas, she’s so lucky!
I don’t care about Headhunter. I ignore him and generally speaking don’t care what he posts. If this is a real daughter, though, he needs to start treating her like one.
You said most parents brag about their kids and you’re right. But HH is bragging about himself, not his daughter. He doesn’t say anything nice about her until after my first attacking post.
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EmilyQ, you are my hero. You have the balls to say you don’t agree and and you stand up for what you believe in. People make mistakes and the thing with the internet is that your words live on forever. Worse than memory. So unless HH comes on this thread and says he believes in everything he said in the past is true I will give him a second chance. Men have a hard time translating feelings so I will give him the benefit of the doubt UNTIL he proves otherwise now. I think he was honest on wanting women’s opinions so he will get until he has done me personally wrong.
