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Needs to be Ok or oK.
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I made a few comments about IQ and faded away because it is yet another topic in which many people cannot face truths because they are incapable of facing reality or are disappointed with reality and use pretzel logic because it’s a sore subject.
I’ve even heard people say that obtaining certain positions and accomplishments are just a matter of hard work and adequate nutrition. So with that line of thinking, an intellectual conversation cannot he had.
The same goes for conversation about the subject of the OP, the question of a female dictatorship, which works in the framework with the sexual revolution.
When previous conversations were had about the sexual revolution in which evidence is shown—increased disease and mental and social pathologies, increased fatherless homes, public obscenity, swollen prison populations, an out-of-control divorce system, and sexual talk and imagery all over the damn place—one might get “I don’t see it,” “no one I know is like that,” “I don’t think…,” “Do you think you’re owed a woman?”, “it sounds like you can’t get laid,” “Doncha know women didn’t have a bank account?”, “Islam,” etc.
I even had one poster who I suggested refer to authors on the subject even say that he wouldn’t read it because he thought he likely wouldn’t take them seriously. So that’s saying one doesn’t take seriously what he didn’t even look at!
I do have suspicions and biases of my own though, the main one being that men who speak as said, “benefit” from this sort of scene, foremost from accountability-free sex, but I try to block that out.
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It’s a touchy subject and you’re in the minority when it comes to your opinions here (which doesn’t mean I don’t agree with some of them) and you’re debating different posters all at once. You’re noticing stuff that I didn’t notice from the exchanges. I get it. I’m normally not as cordial when this happens to me lol.
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I don’t know where else to post this but I feel like hating:
I was talking about classes with my friend yesterday and we were talking about one particular professor I had.
His wife is some powerhouse executive so he takes on the majority of the responsibility of raising their kid (reverse traditional roles)
It 100% affected his ability to teach and do research. It was “great” for us student since his classes were easy but he caught a LOT of flack for it.
On the one hand, I feel like he’d get less criticism if he were a mum- women get more leeway.
Otoh, it shows how having children reduces productivity
Some people consider the human race more important than a J-O-B. Even if he lost his job, which he likely won’t, he’d likely find a new one. Do you think a guy of stable mind is going to care about some temporary hardship raising kids after they’re fully grown or when he is old and gray and has a family who cares about him?
I have a serious question and it is no way meant to be demeaning. Repeat: no way meant to be demeaning. Have people ever described you as cold?
The other point of that post is that I feel like women get more leeway (for obvious reasons)
Yes. People are hard.
I am generally a nice person and can get along with most, but my level of care about most ppl (excluding family members) is probably below the socially acceptable level.
I also have trouble wrapping my head around death, so I tend not to feel the sadness others describe. It’s also probably because I’ve not experienced any form of tragedy aside from the death of my hamster, who had already lived a year past expected lifespan
I care very deeply for animals though.
They might be hard when they sense people are cold. Strangers and co-workers are not expected to affectionate to one another, but many people, when they sense someone is not empathic and cold, they resort to a need-to-know basis and stay away otherwise.
I don’t mean hard to get along with- they’re generally easy to get along with
I mean hard to understand
Oh, OK.
People who don’t know me well have said the same about me. Autistic people generally care about black and white facts, not feelings.
For instance… Let’s say
For highly functioning autistic people this is a common misnomer. We may come across as callous, cold or unempathetic; but this is typically far from the case.
We tend to prioritise cold, hard facts; black and white rhetoric yet fail to take into account how the individual we are talking to may feel about a given issue.
It’s not something we do on purpose
Let’s say I’ve read up extensively on a particular subtopic and I harbour an opinion rooted in data. I’m talking to someone who for whatever reason is staunchly against what I’m advocating for, but the belief is based on moral objection mediated from religion or anecdote, not scientific or academic literature.
Two years ago I would have said “your feelings pertaining to this matter aren’t valid to me as you can’t back up your ideology with academic credentials. I don’t care about your feelings, I care abou this mountain of data”. Note, I’m not referring to you; you’ve consistently backed up your viewpoints, even going as far as to reference entire nonfiction publications. I’m giving an abstract example.
Over time I’ve come to realise the real world isn’t as black and white as I’d like it to be. Even if I can’t always understand why people resort to emotionally biased conclusions so quickly I can make an effort empathise and relate to differing viewpoints EVEN if I don’t agree with them.
Interesting read
To note. I no longer come across as cold, unempathetic and callous. I’ve made a tremendous conceited effort on my part to fully integrate within normal society as I don’t wish for my labels to signify who I am, nor do I wish to be mollycoddled or thought of as “that poor kid with many disadvantages that will set him back in life”.
Most people who meet me are entirely unaware anything is wrong with me… Until they use sarcasm, or personify inanimate objects… Or use idioms. Then my brain scrambles around trying to figure out how to make sense of an expression… Or whether an individual is serious or not…
I’ve also been told I have a penchant for verbosity, which sometimes leads to people asking me to “speak English”… And I’m thinking “but I am speaking English”
People typically won’t infer that I’m autistic unless I tell them, they’ll typically think “he’s a bit strange sometimes, I wonder why he’s like that”.
Whether I’d qualify as being autistic on a psychometric assessment today? I’m actually not entirely sure if I’d meet the full criteria anymore. Perhaps “eccentric and odd” could be used as an alternate diagnosis
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OK, thanks for that.
Yeah, I have this “problem”.
“Because it’s unfair” or “it’s just wrong” is a lot less convincing than “reduces productivity via x” or “lose x amount of revenue”
In a lot of cases the two line up (at least in the long run) so I get it though, but it annoys me when people expect me to accept a purely emotional argument
Fantasy is a big no no for me. So is over flowery language or romance.
I would say that I am fairly empathetic. My way of expressing that is sometimes inappropriate
I don’t really have trouble with this but that’s probably because I spent a LOT of time reading growing up.
What I think one of my intellectual strengths is relating different subjects and or topics together. Luckily I’m at a great school for that.
I like to make a game of putting on different personas or trying to be as convincing as possible when appearing to agree with a viewpoint I disagree with.
I have a habit of sending people odd jokes to try make them feel better. It doesn’t always work out as my sense of humour is… Strange
It’s not an autistic trait though… That’s just me.
I had my boss text me a set of instructions and I sent him an emoji of a crab in response to indicate that I’d read the instructions. That’s my sense of humour. You either get it, or you don’t.
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I’m the same way. I have to be careful around some of my friends. I recently found out that my friend ( that one) gets me- made me so happy
I don’t know who ‘that one’ is. Are we referring to a romantic interest?
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sort of…
I have a friend- my first real one in uni. He outclasses me in everything but is nice enough to spend time helping me and treats me as an equal, not a little sister.
I really like him in the sense of “we would be productive as business partners or co- authors” (my benchmark for romantics interest at least until I secure a satisfactory job)
Anyways, I say “that one” because if I just write “my friend” without qualifiers like “gym friend” or “maths friend”, it’s refering to him.
I recall reading that you were asexual?
I’m assuming you’re asexual, but not aromatic?
To note, if you are going to develop a romantic relationship with anyone; a partner deserves to know this. Otherwise the partner may feel neglected, unwanted or disregarded as they won’t understand WHY you don’t desire physical intimacy less an explanation is given.
Otherwise they’ll think something is wrong with them when there isn’t. Whether right or wrong, this will be a deal-breaker for most as physical intimacy is of pivotal importance to a healthy relationship
There are dating apps/networks designed specifically for asexual people though.
I’ve never enjoyed french kissing. I’m not asexual, I just find this particular act off-putting which is interesting as I’m fine with literally all other mainstream methods of expressing physical affection.
Unfortunately, it seems most girls like kissing… Quite a lot… I can’t for the life of me understand why
Perhaps this is an autistic trait, perhaps not. I’ve had a thing about finding kissing on the mouth gross since I was like seven…
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