I agree with you on laws being terrible for men in regards to family / divorce court. I am convinced you are correct on that aspect.
How long have these laws been like this though? When someone says under attack, I assume recently.
Ronald Regan pulled out no-fault divorce.
There are other sorts of attacks.
You need to look at the stats for the black community. BLM is already exacerbating a massive problem with by abusing an essentially meaningless platitude no one disagrees with, while pushing the further destruction of the people they pretend to support.
Of course, sadly these lies were fed to them by white liberals, but look what’s happening to them.
It’s extreme in the black community, but everybody else is trending in the same direction. That’s what set me on fire about this issue. No culture can flourish when family ,at the core of all cultures is being extinguished.
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I’m really just trying to understand what the $40 even means. For instance, as a happily married man, I’m not even sure how I would begin to calculate how much money I am paying for sex. On the one hand, I’m the sole breadwinner in our family, so you could argue that my salary divided by the number of times I have sex is how much I am paying and get to a ridiculously high number. On the other hand, I don’t change my contribution to my family based on sexual frequency and therefore you could argue that my incremental cost of sex is $0. I just don’t think your statistic actually applies to most sex in the US, when most sex in the US is likely between committed partners.
Based on your reply, it seems that you are saying that when a couple in the US today first has sex, up to that point $40 is the average amount that has been spent (or somewhere between $20 and $100). I can believe that, but that statistic is fairly far from useful in the way you have described it. It’s not as if the average man can go have sex by just buying a pizza. In fact, I would say that statistic in fact points to the fact that in general sex is not for sale. There is no way that the average woman is giving away sex for $40. The average woman is likely consenting to sex for reasons that have little to do with money (at least not in regards to the amount of money that has been spent).
Moreover, the $40 statistic has a significant survivorship bias. It likely doesn’t take into account money spent that never led to sex (either for the men who eventually have sex with other women or for the men who may spend much more but are still unable to find a partner).
In other words, I think that what the statistic is actually saying is that sexually successful men don’t generally spend a lot to have sex and sexually unsuccessful men often can’t increase their success by spending more money (unless they are willing to resort to hiring actual literal prostitutes).
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It’s not for you to calculate. If your smart, you will stay happily married and make your family the best it can be. It’s a demarcation point illustrating how cheap and easy sex is to engage in at the risk of the family. You mix in the men who swore off marraige permanently for whatever reason and strong independant, ‘don’t need no man’ women, you have the makings of a crisis of family. Marriage rates are plummeting and the single parent is growing in exponents. The disadvantages children born out of wedlock have are shockingly bad to say the least. There is thousands upon thousands of pages written on this stuff.
Not being in a crisis personally does not mean the community at large isn’t burning down around you. If you want your kids to flourish in the future, then you want others to have successful family units as well, because those kids will be the adults your kids have to live and deal with everyday, while you play golf in some retirement village.
You don’t have to care. Nobody is going to make you care. But I care, and I hope others will care.
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I’m confused. Are you trying to imply that mothers can’t be good fathers, or that genitalia is not the only difference between men and women(edit for inclusiveness: and the others)? I’d like to express my shock and disgust either way.
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Yes! As a Catholic priest once said, “Mothers are not good fathers. Fathers are not good mothers.”
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It is bad at doing so though. Hookups are not about buying pizza. A girl isn’t won over because of the place you take her. If she isn’t attracted to the guy, slim chance taking her anywhere fancy is going to get the guy sex. Sex is easy if you are attractive to the woman. What makes you attractive is not universal to all women. That’s why your point doesn’t really work, it misses the critical component (attraction).
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I know. Everything we used to know to be true a couple years ago, still turns out to be true! Like, OMG!
No shit… They are about the sex. Is hooking up a death sentence? I sure hope not, but playing the market frivolously has consequences. The literature on hookup culture is pretty damning. It means bad things for both sexes but tends to be more detrimental to women than men. The more dicks in a woman’s closet the lesser her chance at marriage and if married then lowers the chance of marital success. It is also true for men, but to a much lesser degree.
The point is that free sex isn’t free. Birth control effectively removes only one of the consequences. It’s a biggy, but the free-for-all hasn’t turned out all that well and the results are starting to show.
Here is something I found that grazes the topic. There is shit tons of material on it if you are interested.
https://mercatornet.com/cheap-sex-mapping-the-new-mating-market/22223/
I think what I am trying to say is that putting a price on something that is not generally sold on the open market is dubious at best. Sort of like how I wouldn’t make an estimate on the price of lawn mowing services based on my son’s allowance. Paying my son an allowance and him mowing the lawn are not directly related. Moreover, strangers are not welcome to participate in the same relationship.
I freely admit that I am not really up to date on the dating situation today. I’ve been married for 12 years and even before that I dated within a particular conservative religious community so my experience was certainly not typical even for that time.
You sir, did it right.
I saw that Gavin Newsome video, LOL. I bet he was the man in sparkyo’s original post.
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Of course. I think you have some posters who forget that women are human beings.
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He looked and sounded like a total lunatic in that video.
It’s too bad your country has gone full Soviet Union, BB. I’d definitely meet up for a chitchat if you ever were to visit Zoo York.
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Might be a while before I can go overseas. Unvaccinated plebs such as myself are at the bottom of the social food chain, rapidly becoming second class citizens. Even when lock down relaxes, I won’t legally be able to get a haircut, go to a pub or resturant to eat in, or go to a sporting or music event.
Thanks for the offer, that would be good to meet up for a chat 
. If I ever find myself in NYC, and I hope to one day, I will definitely look you up.
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It looks like a duck and sounds like a duck…
(Can’t say too much though, my state has DeSantis which is just a different kind of crazy)
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The only good things about Florida are the weather and low tax rate
And you are where?