[quote]Jewbacca wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]Jewbacca wrote:
I’ve actually noticed something similar among the associates and young male partners (late 20, to mid-30s) lawyers in my firm.
Used to, they’d show up at 25 and, if not be already married, get married promptly after joining the firm.
Now, they don’t particulaly date, marry, or even chase women (or men, for that matter).
These are smart guys, generally pretty fit/good looking, often well-connected (or will soon be well-connected), making mid six figures — what used to be called a “catch” back in the day.
I’ve actually asked several about it, and, long story short, they’ve decided women are not worth the trouble.
Dating and marriage is expensive, the drama and bullshit they feel most women bring is a destraction from life, and all the society and legal system is geared against men in a relationship, and the rewards, at least dating American women, are few. They’re not even playing the field. They’ve just checked it off and do without.
The exceptions to the rule are the religious associates — mormons and Orthodox Jews being the majority of such in our office. We all are married (generally young) and have multiple children.
The female associates, in contrast, are constantly on the prowl for a husband/someone to date or sleep with, and blow through 2-3 husbands by the time they are 40.[/quote]
LOL Jewbacca those young associates are lying their asses off to you. Do you really believe young attorneys are going without tail?
This is what I think is really going on. Young singles now have the dating websites and young male attorneys find that they can use them as hookup sites and get all the poon they want. They put up profiles saying they are attorneys or just say professionals and have pictures of themselves in well tailored expensive suits and they take advantage of the young sluts that think they can get an attorney by putting out.
So these guys are getting laid once or twice a week but they don’t want to tell their boss (or partner in the firm) what they are really doing so they tell you that bullshit line.
Back when you and I were young professionals being good looking and successful wasn’t enough, you still had to have at least some game and you had to figure out how to meet single, ehem interested females. Now all you have to do is put together a good profile on Eharmony.
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It’s certainly possible, but the 4-5 times this has come up in the last 5 years has typically been volunteer statements from associates talking among themselves; it’s not like I enquire about people’s private lives.
The one I am thinking of was at a wedding of a senior female associate; there were nubile women literally throwing themselves at the guys, to the point that Mrs. Jewbacca had her claws out and latched on to me in classic Jewish wife defensive posture. (I think it’s the real basis for Krav Maga.)
Anyway, most of the guys were pretty much just blowing them off and dissing the girls; exact opposite of my behavior given the opportunity and time of life.
I’d have nailed at least one in the coat room. (And yes, I know my wife reads this. That’s probably why she had the arm/boob lock on me.)[/quote]
I get that.
I’ve been a puppet, a pauper, a pirate, a poet, a paaaaaaaaaawn and a king…
Um, sorry…
They are so much more interested on the upswing its not even funny.
I dont even say that they are golddiggin whores, though, subconsciously, they are, but they dont want to invest, they dont want to contribute, they dont want to be there in the bad times, lying awake at night wondering how to pay your suppliers or creditors.
They want none of that, they just want the finished product.
Well, I am sorry, if I am on top of things I need them the least, plenty of them to replace them with to go around.
So, if your young collegues look at them in contempt, well, where were they when said hopeful young big shots to be burned the midnight oil in the library?
Fucking DJs, thats were they were.
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