Men afraid of commitment?

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[quote]orion wrote:

You cannot do this stuff to women who are not trying to con you and/ or are completely full of themselves. [/quote]

Trying to con, maybe.

Completely bereft of any sense of self worth and using the only thing she sees of herself as having value? - very likely.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

You cannot do this stuff to women who are not trying to con you and/ or are completely full of themselves. [/quote]

Trying to con, maybe.

Completely bereft of any sense of self worth and using the only thing she sees of herself as having value? - very likely.
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You dont know this woman, she is a vampire.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

You cannot do this stuff to women who are not trying to con you and/ or are completely full of themselves. [/quote]

Trying to con, maybe.

Completely bereft of any sense of self worth and using the only thing she sees of herself as having value? - very likely.
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You dont know this woman, she is a vampire. [/quote]

Maybe not specifically but I may know a few.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
The problem I have (for you, not me, because I believe you’re not happy)[/quote]
What’s this mean?

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I only check back to see if Em has changed her Avi.

carry on.

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
The problem I have (for you, not me, because I believe you’re not happy)[/quote]
What’s this mean?[/quote]

I mean that I’m not wringing my hands in dismay that there are people in the world engaged in quid pro quo arrangements. I don’t actually care. I care that for orion, who has caught my attention, it seems to have ongoing poor result, which is to confirm and increase his certainly that the nature of women is such that he can never be happy.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

You cannot do this stuff to women who are not trying to con you and/ or are completely full of themselves. [/quote]

Trying to con, maybe.

Completely bereft of any sense of self worth and using the only thing she sees of herself as having value? - very likely.
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Agree.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:
I only check back to see if Em has changed her Avi.

carry on.[/quote]

Ha! I was actually thinking last night about returning to the kitten, and probably will over the next day or so. The pics I’ve posted had to do with the ex-boyfriend asking “wearing something sexy today?” A running joke, since almost always not.

I miss him.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I only check back to see if Em has changed her Avi.

carry on.[/quote]

Ha! I was actually thinking last night about returning to the kitten, and probably will over the next day or so. The pics I’ve posted had to do with the ex-boyfriend asking “wearing something sexy today?” A running joke, since almost always not.

I miss him.[/quote]

Hey forget him. You have a new man anyw ay. Or at least I think you did at least 15 pages back in this thread. The one that was pushing you into a relationship.

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[quote]The Other Titan wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I only check back to see if Em has changed her Avi.

carry on.[/quote]

Ha! I was actually thinking last night about returning to the kitten, and probably will over the next day or so. The pics I’ve posted had to do with the ex-boyfriend asking “wearing something sexy today?” A running joke, since almost always not.

I miss him.[/quote]

Hey forget him. You have a new man anyw ay. Or at least I think you did at least 15 pages back in this thread. The one that was pushing you into a relationship. [/quote]

I’m experiencing some confusion at present.

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Posted elsewhere, but seems appropirate here, too:

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

I’m experiencing some confusion at present. [/quote]

Sorry to hear that.

As you know, though, time will work it out for you.[/quote]

I know. If I can just stay away from the ex-boyfriend, who’s been emailing and sending bizarre love songs.

I’m going to cut the new guy loose, I guess. He still doesn’t feel right physically, and I think he might be boring, in addition to being gone more than half the time. I think he’s also not masculine enough, although I would like not to have a lunatic. But for example, I eat more than he does. Maybe WAY more, unless he’s packing away some serious lunches. It’s awkward. I ate more than the ex-boyfriend a lot of the time, too, but he admired it (was awestruck, lol). This one - I don’t know. I feel silently judged.

I want a non-lunatic who smells exactly like my ex-boyfriend. That’s not too much to ask, is it?

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

I’m experiencing some confusion at present. [/quote]

Sorry to hear that.

As you know, though, time will work it out for you.[/quote]

I know. If I can just stay away from the ex-boyfriend, who’s been emailing and sending bizarre love songs.

I’m going to cut the new guy loose, I guess. He still doesn’t feel right physically, and I think he might be boring, in addition to being gone more than half the time. I think he’s also not masculine enough, although I would like not to have a lunatic. But for example, I eat more than he does. Maybe WAY more, unless he’s packing away some serious lunches. It’s awkward. I ate more than the ex-boyfriend a lot of the time, too, but he admired it (was awestruck, lol). This one - I don’t know. I feel silently judged.

I want a non-lunatic who smells exactly like my ex-boyfriend. That’s not too much to ask, is it?

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I smell kitty litter in your future.

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I’m not going to read through this monster of a thread.

  1. Men who have trouble meeting women or little success with women will be more likely to want commitment as early as possible.
  2. Men who have a lot of choice will be less likely to want commitment with any randomly selected woman, but are more likely to want commitment with a woman who has qualities that are both rare and valuable from the perspective of the man.

A person with no skills, no job, and no government assistance is more likely to take whatever job will have him. A person with skills and steady income/savings is unlikely to switch jobs merely because one is available to him. He will be eager to select a job that offers benefits that are both important to him and not commonly available.

  1. Insecure men will be more likely to want commitment early, especially if they think they can lock a woman in through guilt or emotional manipulation.
    3a) Men who are suddenly made or revealed to be insecure after losing what they took for granted will often have a sudden change of heart.
  2. Some men are simply ready for commitment as a personal choice. They may want a family, believe that getting to know one person is more valuable than many partners, or have decided to bow to social/religious/family pressure.
  3. Some men will just tell you what they think you want to hear.
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[quote] EmilyQ wrote:
I want a non-lunatic who smells exactly like my ex-boyfriend. That’s not too much to ask, is it?
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What’s the deal with girls and smells? I always thought that was so weird and primitive.

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote] EmilyQ wrote:
I want a non-lunatic who smells exactly like my ex-boyfriend. That’s not too much to ask, is it?
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What’s the deal with girls and smells? I always thought that was so weird and primitive. [/quote]

Yeah, I’ve thought the same. That’s been the case with almost every girl I’ve known. When a girl says “wow, your car smells just like you”, what’s the appropriate response? “Is that a good thing?”

I once knew a guy who didn’t wash a sweater after his first trip to a strip club, since it still smelled like the girl. But I’m pretty sure that’s not quite the same thing.

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[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote] EmilyQ wrote:
I want a non-lunatic who smells exactly like my ex-boyfriend. That’s not too much to ask, is it?
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What’s the deal with girls and smells? I always thought that was so weird and primitive. [/quote]

Yeah, I’ve thought the same. That’s been the case with almost every girl I’ve known. When a girl says “wow, your car smells just like you”, what’s the appropriate response? “Is that a good thing?”

I once knew a guy who didn’t wash a sweater after his first trip to a strip club, since it still smelled like the girl. But I’m pretty sure that’s not quite the same thing.[/quote]

It’s a humongous but discrete factor in memory and attraction.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

I’m experiencing some confusion at present. [/quote]

Sorry to hear that.

As you know, though, time will work it out for you.[/quote]

I know. If I can just stay away from the ex-boyfriend, who’s been emailing and sending bizarre love songs.

I’m going to cut the new guy loose, I guess. He still doesn’t feel right physically, and I think he might be boring, in addition to being gone more than half the time. I think he’s also not masculine enough, although I would like not to have a lunatic. But for example, I eat more than he does. Maybe WAY more, unless he’s packing away some serious lunches. It’s awkward. I ate more than the ex-boyfriend a lot of the time, too, but he admired it (was awestruck, lol). This one - I don’t know. I feel silently judged.

I want a non-lunatic who smells exactly like my ex-boyfriend. That’s not too much to ask, is it?

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What if it turns out that what you are really attracted to is the scent of crazy?