Should it be done? Having recently become single, I’ve never considered it before, as i preferred to just train at the gym. But considering that my former relationships were often strained because of my insistance on eating right and working out, and finding myself with little time to actually go out and meet people because of school work and extra-curricular activities, the gym is beginning to seem like a good option. So what are some of your opinions on this? Can it work, should it be done?
go for it man, why not? I am sure people have a list of all the things that can go wrong dating somebody from the gym. But think of all the things that can go right. You have a girl/guy (I don’t know what you are in to) that obviously has something in common with you (in my experience as well as seeing my parents 35 years and counting, having something in common seems to be a huge factor in the success of a relationship). Plus if she is really into fitness odds are she has got a rockin bod and I have found that sexual attraction is also a big part of the relationship working no matter what those beauty on the inside people say. The bottom line is that you never know where the next special person is gonna come from, so why limit yourself. Take advantage of every opportunity you get.
guess i should specify that i’m not gay… not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Yes Yes Yes. I think it will be a great pick up spot. I thinks its a good idea. But, don’t go over board w/ it.
Although, don’t get too distracted and stray away from your work-outs.
Good luck happy hunting
In Health,
Silas C.
no it is not a “pick up” spot, but it is a great place to meet someone. please dear god never go into a gym thinking of it as a pick up spot. those are the kind of geeks that i throw plates at. if you meet someone there great, you will likely have some common interests together. but dont go in to a gym dropping one liners on every chick with a nice rack. for one youll look like an idiot and two a classy girl wouldnt like that shit anyways.
I have been ‘picked up’ at a gym. I don’t regret it, it was fun. She was pretty hot too…
I work at a gym as a personal trainer and so I get to watch a lot of people trying to pick someone up. Let me offer a couple of pieces of advice:
If she wears makeup to the gym, she wants you to pick her up.
If she doesn’t then she’s there to workout. This doesn’t mean that you can’t still try but try not to make an idiot of yourself. Ask her to spot you, that lets her know that you think she’s serious about working out. Ask her if she’d like a spot, the whole spotting thing is a great ice breaker and there’s no ego on the line if you get turned down.
Just make certain that you approach her at a reasonable time too. If you’re sitting down with some heavy d-bells on your lap it’s a good time to ask if she can give you a spot, standing a the water fountain ain’t so great.
If she looks like she struggles a little on her last set of incline presses it’s a good time to offer a spot, if she’s doing straight leg deadlifts it’s not half as good an idea as it seems in your head. . .
STU
i don’t think i would ever think of the gym as a pick-up spot, but maybe strike up a conversation with the cute trainer as I work in at the pull-up station.
ask greekdawg…he meets all his “friends” at the gym:-).
sorry dude, had to do it:-).
Actually, all my friends and associate are from either the gym or work (which is a gym). My best friend who is a female I met at the gym.
Just don’t date more than one or several persons from the same gym. Things can get a little uncomfortable if you go to train and more than one of the women you’ve dated is there at the same time. The gym should be a place you go to relieve stress not create it.
I was thinking about this over the weekend as well and thought about posting, but someone beat me to the punch so-to-speak!..;o)
I can go either way. I know personally, I am at the gym to workout, NOT to pick up a girl. I always feel hesitant to ask a girl out at the gym cause I don’t want to come across as THAT guy, but then again…I have the same dilemma in that I don’t have the opportunity to meet many new people and the fact that I am so stringent on my training and diet, kinda put a “small” strain on my past relationship. So, the gym seems like the most obvious place where I would meet someone with similiar interests.
Now, I too am a trainer…and I don’t “hit on” women at the gym where I work. Besides, women my age (26) are few and far between at he gym I work at. And the ones that are close to my age are all taken…:o(
However, I do train at my local gym at home and here is where I need some advice from all you quality people. There is this one girl whom I see there occasionally who is just really attractive and seems like a nice girl. She is the type of girl who when she walks in, ALL the other guys my age gravitate to and talk to while she works out. I didn’t do that. Sure I noticed her, but I kept my distance and I would say hi from time to time as I passed her in the gym. There are times when I see her there alone and there are times when she comes with two guys. This is where I am hesitant to act on anything. Her and I have made small talk. You know, “hi I’m Tony, whats your name?” And stuff pertaining to our work (she is a nurse by the way). A HOT nurse who works out!!!..(is it getting hot in here). And we have discussed training from time to time. However, like I said…there are times where she will show up with these two guys from her hometown and I have no idea if one of them is her boyfriend. I don’t see her grabbing either of them or doing anything a boyfriend/girlfriend would do, so I am clueless. I would hate to see if she wanted to hang out sometime, and come to find out that she has a boyfriend!! So, how do I go about finding this info??? Any ideas??
A little bit off topic, but for efficiency`s sake, please read on… =0)
Why not use what put Amazon.com on the map? Let people come to you – while you keep on going with your real business in the meanwhile.
Have you considered placing online ads (dating services)?
Now, before you go ballistic and trash out statistics and horror stories, maybe you could consider this…
-
You have a billboard advertising you in cyberspace 24/7.
-
You can describe yourself how you want. As specific or obtuse as you want to be. Place your pic there to prevent buyer`s remorse.
-
Most of these sites have very specific criteria. Which works both ways. Either when you search or when the ladies search for somebody like you.
-
FREE! Most of the time, in the sense that you don`t get charged until communications take place. Therefore, free advertising until a real hit happens. Not a bad business proposition.
-
You can advertise yourself in as many services as you care, whether superspecialized, local, or general.
There you have it. Low cast. Limitless potential face-time for you. Almost zero time invested for you. Customized as you want.
This is in short the digest of 5-6 articles I read on the subject. Never tried it, though. But since the internet can help you know someone`s mind/personality before meeting them real life (in short, the exact reverse of the bar scene), and now you can play this lottery worldwide, why not try your luck? Thanks in advance for an update on the situation should you try it.
Here’s your female perspective:
There’s nothing I hate more than some guy trying to pick me up while I’m working out. I consider it bad manners. Not only because I’m quite happily taken…but because I’m in the middle of a workout and trying to focus on that.
Sure…you can meet someone there but chances are that a girl you meet there may not have the same goals as you in the gym anyway. There are a lot of females in there who would have no idea about your diet and training routines anyway. Plus it is risky because you’d both be working out there still if it didn’t work out and ended badly.
To me…if you are in the gym…you are there to train and not socialize while doing so. Distractions can kill a good workout.
And as I said…as someone who takes their training seriously…a guy trying to pick me up there does not score ANY points at all.
My two cents for the day.
Geez, I meet people EVERYWHERE I go. Gym or grocery store. I certainly wouldn’t think that the gym is off limits for meeting people. It’s no social club, but come on, people are there. Meet away.
I actually had to throw out a guy last week from the University gym where i work. He was being very hardcore on the flirting and some girls got pissed…
Hope that wasn’t you dude, if so i’m sorry.
Tony don’t mindfuck yourself. Talk to her, don’t act overzealous and try to figure out if she has a man without coming out and asking. Yeah, like Simone said you might be bothering her but who cares. She might be interested. BTW you should have some clue (mutual vibes).
If there was anyone who I’d be remotely interested in at my gym, I’d probally say “hi.” But I would never interupt someone’s workout.
Of course, there’s no one in my gym that I’m remotely interested in.
There are some smoking hotties at my gym. I have met a bunch of them. If the body type interests me I strike up a conversation to see if the mind will too.
retard- no that wasn’t me, up until now i’ve never even considered the gym as a place to really meet women, and i still have too much respect (both for myself and for women) to flirt/talk to a large number of women, interrupting our training and generally being an ass. that being said, i appreciate the advice and comments from the board.