I consider a colonoscopy to be rape.
It’s why I cannot understand homosexual sex… It’s not that I have anything against them personally, but any thing even small things rammed up my ass are extremely uncomfortable.
Plus, the idea of having to do a Fleet enema before I go on a date does not sound appealing either…
Gotcha…
I gave several scenarios, and wasn’t singling you out. I wonder why you chose to respond.
Some women love anal sex, some women hate it. I guess men are the same way. I find it gross, sure, but it’s none of my business as long as people are happy, and any relationship that doesn’t produce more people and leads to adoption is a plus for the Earth in my book.
One girl I was with actually liked to put her finger in my ass while giving me head.
I didn’t like the idea, but she was turned on by it and she would just do it. It was making me cum harder tho…
Em, I was one weird dude. I dated some until about 20 or 21. Then I started to listen to Bob Dylan and lots of Blues and realized they had a point. Women make you miserable. So I swore them off. I made a pact with my friends. We all did it, but I held out the longest. I learned I could turn my libido on or off. So I learned to turn it off. My life was school, partying, work, partying, training, weekends were for camping a partying. Oh, intermingled with international travel every chance I could get. I was a DeadHead, I did DeadHead stuff. No time for women and no woman was going to put up with that life style. I avoided women like the plague, I had the time of my life!
The fact I was a natural woman repellent was helpful in this instance.
I managed to keep this up longer than most of my pack over 3 years. Needless to say, their girlfriends hated me.
Then, the fun was over, I gave in too, got a girl friend. After we broke up, I kinda tried to return to that life style, but it was transient, it was gone.
But for 3 years life was spectacular. I have some amazing memories. I lived some super high-highs.
I really could croak today and can’t say there is much more I’d want to do.
That was my 20’s. I am sure my story is much different than a lot of folks.
I apologize.
It’s none of mine either… I was just thinking out loud…
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I know, didn’t take it as a malicious comment at all. Just explained my feelings on it.
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Honestly, I hate sex. I would rather just masturbate. It works, it doesn’t hurt, and it takes 5 minutes . Also, there’s no sweaty piece of shit human on top of me for 20 minutes.
Bitter , not sorry.
Last time I had sex after he pounded me painfully instead of eating me out after he grabbed my vibrator, threw it on the bed, and said here I’m too lazy. I was like wow fuck this I’ll do it alone from now on
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It’s all good dude.
For what it’s worth I was extremely fascinated with girls in high school. And by fascinated I mean I touched and humped a lot of them. Lol
Crazy, me too!
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Sex without love (or at least a good person) is generally like that, I think.
I so wish you were Jewish.
I have a very athletic, introverted, soon-to-be doctor nephew who is very cool, but unbelievably awkward around girls, even though he is objectively very handsome. Loves Doctor Who and all things Star Trek. Quotes the Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy books. You’d be perfect.
I thought his stint in the IDF would have opened his shell, but, if anything it made it worse. While the guys went out and raised heck, he stayed in the barracks and read.
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Thank you!
See my post to EmilyQ.
You don’t need a man. You need to be ok for yourself. Your experience with men sucks. So take out the trash.
Find something you love and take it to 11. Have excellent friends and party. Mainly, have as much fun as you can and then have more.
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Right, so it’s a good idea to be cautious publishing information about it in an open forum.
My husband knows I post here (if he remembers, I told him at some point) and other places, and he knows he comes up in conversation. He’s still surprised when his family members comment on things they saw on my Facebook. I’ll post pics of him on there occasionally, and particularly did when we were renovating. For that matter, I’ve posted renovation pictures here, as well as one of his tractor when he got that. I’m pretty open and pretty chatty, he knows that. But sex is different. It’s private, and even though I don’t have a single bad thing to say about that or him, he deserves that I be respectful. So I’ll do my best to be, I guess.
I was mostly talking about brain, and meant that you should be thinking about whatever you meant here:
I’m saying that you should fix your mind, because as you point out, that’s where the problem is. Picture whatever it is that makes you feel aroused. Also, pay attention to your arousal level going in (the physical part) because that determines the length of time to orgasm. Not just working yourself over (if by that you mean masturbation) but working yourself UP, by thinking about sexy stuff while you’re doing it. It sounds, though, like women have always been kind of a take-it-or-leave-it kind of thing for you. In which case you need to work on your desire and interest with your wife, who is probably in a negative loop right along with you. If your routine is to go down on her and get her off, then pound at it dutifully until you get finally get off - all the time wishing you could just go watch TV - it is only going to get worse. You should check in with your doctor, and if things are okay there maybe look into a therapist comfortable with this sort of thing, for either yourself or both of you. (Probably just you. Working with couples is easier if only one of them is there.)
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Same. But she/her, not he/him. (Not that there’s anything wrong with he/him, of course.)
Comment not directed at anyone in particular: I am amazed at people’s willingness to talk so freely about such intensely private matters. Maybe social media (including sites like this one) has produced a generation more at ease discussing these matters publicly?
Gonna hop on here as the devil’s advocate and suggest that maybe older generations treated sex as a taboo, un-discussable subject, and not as a natural part of life that should be discussed regularly.
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To @Spock81 , I am truly sorry you went through that, my heart goes out to you.
I hope there is a part of you that can understand that not all men are like that, and that there are some who pay 100% attention to the woman before, during, and after sex.
Actually, men who pay too much attention to themselves during sex are kind of pathetic - reaching orgasm is so easy for men it’s comical.
And you have every right in the world to be bitter as fuck. That guy sounds disgusting.
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Thanks, and he was a pretty bad guy. Lotta time wasted there .
I know y’all good guys do exist out there, but I also know it would be best if I don’t even start looking until I stop feeling angry . Both for my saķe , and the guys.