Just seemed inappropriate, and I guess if it’s in a public forum but meant just for her, then it is inappropriate.
But I know @EmilyQ can speak for herself, so I will STFU.
It’s not inappropriate at all. It’s simply a call to open up.
I need nor want anything from her save for information. Taken as intended that’s all I expect.
No hook ups. Just want a female perspective and nothing more. The quote is simply saying it’s ok to share what you think.
I have laid myself bare in this thread, I think it’s ok for others to do so as well.
I have left plenty of bait for folks to hurt me, but I don’t care. I lay naked here. I did not lie.
Emily knows my intentions are pure. The quote was ‘don’t be afraid’ and nothing more.
Hence my response
I’ve made the mistake before of misunderstanding context.
Thank you…
I feel weird. Only because I feel like most guys get the notion that girls aren’t supposed to be able to keep up in bed.
Im pretty indestructible in bed. But my libido is often through the roof 24 hours a day.
To be honest, well personally for me, so long as you keep emptying whatever gallon jug of lube that’s on deck every 10 mins I’ll be fine. Can’t stand in past instances where someone’s trying to pound away and it feels like trying to slide down a water slide with no water.
Spit doesn’t cut it for me, just because it’s a bit acidic.
Not really a missionary person, only because my legs get tired in that position. But I’ll wear someone’s ass out with me on top or reverse. I have big legs and a big butt so most of my fire power comes from my legs and lower body. Im not really a lightweight chick, espeacially on my lower half, so in past instances if someone was okay with getting slowly bounced into the mattress I’m okay with it too.
I don’t mind doggy, in fact it’s my favorite position, but I don’t get off easily during the first round, but after that first surge they come like clockwork. Pun intended. I can’t last too long in that position though.
But above all else I liked to ask what’s comfortable and what’s not. If someone likes more slower paced action then I’ll slow down, or if they like touching, or kissing more. If they like aggressive stuff I’m down too, just don’t try to kill me. In past instances.
Gosh I feel like I’ve said too much. Lol
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I kinda see what you mean, I honestly prefer a girl to be on top, and doggy is my second favourite position LOL
As far as agression or vanilla sex go… I always let girl to choose, I also usually ask girls what position they want to do… lucky for me, they usually want to be on top 
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All you have said is you are young. As a 20 something I could just go. As a 40 something those days are over. I want a rocking chair and sports.
As a 20.something a picture was enough to get me off. As a 40 something, I can hammer nails with my dick and take care of seveal chicks at a time. I don’t do that, I am faithful. But frustrated. It’s not like I don’t want to it just doesn’t blow like it should. And the wife thinks there is something wrong with her. No assurances are enough. It’s not like I didn’t enjoy myself, but the measure for her is blow, in quantity.
That’s difficult criteria, some times I flat don’t. And I can fake it.
I don’t want her to feel bad. I much prefer she cum than I do…I at least make sure that hapens… still she’s upset if I don’t finish. To be honest I don’t care if I finish so long as she does… I always prefer the woman satisfied. I get over my own shit.
Just date horny bitches, regular women cannot compete with your extensive libido… just don’t let age kill it. Women get hornier as they get older. That’s not a lie. Those last eggs are precious and they want sperm on them constantly.
It’s biology, nothing you can do about it.
Maybe just hit the MILFS for now .
I don’t think you realize I’m a woman. My profile picture is of myself.
And yes I’m young. I was detailing past instances concerning this topic as it relates to myself. I’m married now too, so obviously I’m just reminiscing.
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Lol@this thread
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This response is hilarious when you know cyber is a chick
Good luck @planetcybertron, sounds like you are in for a struggle given where you are at already
I do know the quote, not really sure the context. I’m definitely not sure what “other things” is.
My problem is never with talking honesty on any topic, it’s about talking about THIS topic on a public forum. For one thing, I’d be speaking for my husband as well and he does NOT talk openly about this stuff or really any stuff, and for another there are my children and my job, any of which could be reading. I’ve become a lot less cautious of my identity since SAMA went away, and think I’m very recognizable at this point. That’s uncomfortable - I wouldn’t talk about this with my son or my company’s HR director.
However, the above is sympathetic and deserves whatever insight I can give, so here goes. Moving away from myself, to some extent, to a more general discussion, because I actually have training in this, of all the crazy things, and it’s come up at work recently, so I dug through to find and read the materials from the training (couples counseling stuff, largely sex).
So, delayed ejaculation…my understanding from the literature is that often men as they age have to change up their game, but don’t. Most likely, your younger self was at a 7 on a 1-10 scale for arousal when you started intercourse, now you’re probably more like a 4, say. So you’re having to move a lot further to get to the goal than previously. Some of that is probably mental - your younger self probably had more sexualized thoughts. So solutions include more foreplay directed at you, some masturbation before you get started (not to completion, obviously) and more fantasizing both before and during, either about your wife getting off or about something else, but not about whether she’s getting sick of it. You can start the foreplay in the kitchen hours earlier (and should be, all of you) by saying things like “I can’t wait to get your clothes off” or whatever - more graphic and geared to what she likes is better, but I’m not willing to write anything more graphic out, and also, this doesn’t actually happen at my house. I’m the verbal one. (I’m also a fast runner.) You mention the mental stuff yourself, here:
So give some thought to what your 20 something self was thinking about.
I’m running out of time - I have recovered from my deadly cold and am back to work - but I wanted to agree with this. I can’t tolerate long term pumping, I need all sorts of variation, and particularly of speed. @Spock81, I wonder if you ever change up tempo and rhythm? Because that’s the magic trick for many women - and maybe all of the women who orgasm through penetrative sex. For me it’s almost never during a hard, fast time, though once or twice (and that’s been profound). But it almost always happens just after he slows or stops moving and I’m the only one moving, and can just … hit it.
I want to respond to this, but work wants me to respond to my 8:00 patient, so back later for it. But let me at least offer my approval of the post.
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I am so sorry. I feel like an ass.
You need to get down to Texas and link up with @flipcollar, he will fix you up.
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LOL! You wouldn’t talk about it with your HR director??? Sorry, I can’t stop laughing… Just because nobody can. That’s a career limiting move. Like a, just won the lottery, so show up to work drunk and naked to turn your work shit kind of discussion…
‘Other things’ really meant other song lyrics, nothing to read into there. And if you don’t feel comfortable that is totally your prerogative. I just though you were being shy or weird.
I don’t worry about my spouse reading this because its not anything I wouldn’t say to her or anybody else. What can I say? I have a tiny cerebral cortex… I am not on any social media, so this and a couple other forums are my only outlet to speak about things I cannot in ‘polite’ company.
Was this a typo, or do you really never talk honestly??
I am not going to quote your whole paragraph, but yes, it’s totally mental and the more it happens the more it happens. Self fulfilling prophecy, I get very self conscious.
I just don’t think working myself over more will help, though. I get the stimulation factor, but I don’t think it’s a stimulation thing. It’s a brain thing. But it was sudden. One day I am fine, next I can go forever to the point of pain.
For the record. A lot of people use all kinds of avatars. Zep is one who has a woman avatar and he is no woman… I think.
I was talking about about me feeling stuff. I have been a gym rat all my life, I have seen plenty of penises. I am pretty normal.
Not like USMC with 12 in, 800 lbs deadlifting dick.
No that would be a change, Canada to Texas.
Slap’em, tell them it’s not mommy’s fault, quit whining and grow a pair… " That will be $500 for the session please."
I kid, I studied your field, I know some people need real help. Actually, a lot more people need help than get it…
You read it wrong. She never has a problem talking honestly about issues, she just doesn’t want to breach her husbands trust, even if he never found out, because apparently he is not that open about these sorts of things. My wife and I are super open about our sex lives and I tell her anything I post about her, so nothing is off limit really. Well…maybe some things.
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