Thanks for the advice guys. Good to hear your stories.
And no I won’t dump that bitch as some idiot suggested lol.
I will make it work. I will get new gym membership today in fact. I miss working out and don’t feel the same without it.
If I can only do 30mins at gym that’s what I’ll do. If I can’t go I’ll do some stuff at home instead.
The thing is this Fall I WAS making it work, the gym, the meal plans, but ignoring my pregnant GF. But I will find a way to do both, thanks PUSH for that advice.
^ Good luck
Good luck with it! I don’t really have much experience of having to deal with that stuff but when I get really busy I find whole body workouts are awesome for making gains with minimum time spent. I’ve have just been doing that for the past 6 months and made good progress. I usually do 3x a week (1x a week heavy and 2x a week higher reps) but I’m sure 2x a week would be fine if you also did some bodyweight stuff at home.
Anyway congratulations on the baby and good luck 
[quote]hit the gym wrote:
The thing is this Fall I WAS making it work, the gym, the meal plans, but ignoring my pregnant GF. But I will find a way to do both, thanks PUSH for that advice.[/quote]
Congratulations!
Here’s my big parenting advice…The single best thing you can do for your child is to love his/her mama.
Enjoy this time. It will go by so fast. If all else fails you can put on a nice sympathy belly so your GF doesn’t feel bad. 
Seriously, good for you for making your little family a priority. Be glad that you aren’t that guy with the big moral dilemma of choosing his dog over his girl.
And that chick on bodyrock.tv does some pretty brutal training at home. Go to it!
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Here’s my big parenting advice…The single best thing you can do for your child is to love his/her mama.
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So true.
Big surprise I’m agreeing with Puffy again. lol
From personal experience, my training, my training log, my diet took a dive when I became a dad last September but a couple of months later I looked at my schedule, found what worked for me diet wise, found a gym closer to home with great equipment and open 7 days and just training the best I can. I’m eating an IF schedule and training 5/3/1. I’m watching my supps and not super critical on my diet, just trying not to junk out etc.
It will work out for you, it always does.
In hind sight I should have planned around this. I should never have slipped.
But the past is the past. The greatest power you have is the one to decide and take action.
So take action!
Also I got rid of a host of bullshit activities that didn’t contribute to either my family, my health or my career. We all have them, so just allocate your time accordingly.
Oh fatherhood is the greatest experience of all time. It melts everything negative. I know have a long way to go but I have loved every moment till now.
[quote]Charlie Horse wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Here’s my big parenting advice…The single best thing you can do for your child is to love his/her mama.
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So true.
Big surprise I’m agreeing with Puffy again. lol
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The part-time parent, dad from a distance thing sounds like it’s own brand of hell for everybody involved.
lol, if you think its hard now before you have a baby just wait until it comes. Man the fuck up and train.
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]hit the gym wrote:
I’ve been training for a good 5 years (maybe more) and always got my workouts in. unless sick of course.
Before, living alone, it was easy. I would go to work till 7, go to gym after and cook myself a feast back home. Sometimes my girlfriend would come over. She would adjust to my schedule.
I figured this fall that she was pregnant. We moved in together. Completely messed up my routine. She doesn’t like to drive during winter, works odd hours, still in school… I want to continue training but it’s hard with no routine at all and knowing that will be worse with baby coming.
I’ve been out of the gym since Christmas… My membership expired too (it was too far anyways). Anybody went through something like this have any advice?[/quote]
Sigh. If lifting is important to you then you will make time.
No excuses.
I did 14 years of college, 2 jobs, married twice and raised 5 kids and did it.
So suck it up. [/quote]
x2 on the suck it up.
14 years in college? MD&PHD?
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Respiratory therapist, bachelors in nursing then masters in nursing. Had to work the two jobs cause got divorced and had to pay child support. I also got my kids 3 days a week every week, and coached little league and peewee football. So MD was out of the question unfortunately. [/quote]
this is more hardcore than most people will even realize.
[quote]StevenF wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]hit the gym wrote:
I’ve been training for a good 5 years (maybe more) and always got my workouts in. unless sick of course.
Before, living alone, it was easy. I would go to work till 7, go to gym after and cook myself a feast back home. Sometimes my girlfriend would come over. She would adjust to my schedule.
I figured this fall that she was pregnant. We moved in together. Completely messed up my routine. She doesn’t like to drive during winter, works odd hours, still in school… I want to continue training but it’s hard with no routine at all and knowing that will be worse with baby coming.
I’ve been out of the gym since Christmas… My membership expired too (it was too far anyways). Anybody went through something like this have any advice?[/quote]
Sigh. If lifting is important to you then you will make time.
No excuses.
I did 14 years of college, 2 jobs, married twice and raised 5 kids and did it.
So suck it up. [/quote]
x2 on the suck it up.
14 years in college? MD&PHD?
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Respiratory therapist, bachelors in nursing then masters in nursing. Had to work the two jobs cause got divorced and had to pay child support. I also got my kids 3 days a week every week, and coached little league and peewee football. So MD was out of the question unfortunately. [/quote]
this is more hardcore than most people will even realize. [/quote]
Well thank you sir. I had great parents.
My advice to you OP?
Fully allow yourself to experience this lack of motivation. It’s your mind telling you it’s sick of the gym. Now it’s up to you to decide if your original motivation has disappeared (lots of single guys who hook up stop hitting the gym…), or if you are just burned out. This a naturally evolved human response that is meant to tell you it’s time for introspection.
I lost my motivation big time in 2010 when I realized I didn’t like the girls who liked me just for physique. I totally stopped caring. What got me back in was the fun of being with my homeys and the rush I got from moving ever upwards in poundage regardless of appearance. My training adjusted. Yours will too.
Its just a hump man,you’ll get through it. I think a couple days or even a week or 2 will help you out re evaluate things. Take this time to work out how you might train after the kid or think what you might want to train for,just for fun,health or competition.
This time gos by so fast. Before you know it, a year will go by and you will look back saying. Man how did that happen! Take the time right now, knowing that you are committed to her and your new child, Pause, and love them fully.
Push ups can happen anywhere. Make it fun have your Gf push you down while you do them. Make that fun. Laugh take walks find a park, you will be visiting many of these soon so go find them. Do pull ups on the bars laugh with the kids and make it fun. Do sprints back and forth while making funny faces kids love that.
Did I mention to make it fun? lol
Working out comes in many forms… I love the gym. I also love my kids! Life changes. Kids grow up fast. When you find someone you get along with Find a way to make it work. Be committed for a life time.
Keep active.
Love what you find. Find what you love.
[quote]TenashusReslushn wrote:
This time gos by so fast. Before you know it, a year will go by and you will look back saying. Man how did that happen! Take the time right now, knowing that you are committed to her and your new child, Pause, and love them fully.
Push ups can happen anywhere. Make it fun have your Gf push you down while you do them. Make that fun. Laugh take walks find a park, you will be visiting many of these soon so go find them. Do pull ups on the bars laugh with the kids and make it fun. Do sprints back and forth while making funny faces kids love that.
Did I mention to make it fun? lol
Working out comes in many forms… I love the gym. I also love my kids! Life changes. Kids grow up fast. When you find someone you get along with Find a way to make it work. Be committed for a life time.
Keep active.
Love what you find. Find what you love. [/quote]
I’m not qualified to agree with this cause I haven’t experienced this kind of thing yet, but this sounds like a little nugget of gold.
OP, I agree with some of the previous posts; cut out excess bullshit and concentrate on family, job and then the gym. BUT, everybody to,d me “your life is gonna change, you won’t be able to do what you did before, kiss you life goodbye, ect” That is shit. You make a couple of adjustments and do your thing.
As a working musician, I would literally bring my baby girl with me to meetings with booking agents and bar owners. No problems. I was the only Dad at Gymboree, but who cares. The gym sets a great example for your child in many areas. Congrats.
Now, back to the gym with you.
Dude, life happened to you. Now, you have different stimuli and must decide what your reaction should be. This won’t be the last time either.
Samir makes a real good point that I want to build upon. You need to seek out the root of the loss of motivation. Did you have superficial reasons for training before? What value did you see in training before? What value does training have period and do you want to expereince that value? Answering those questions will help uncover and direct your steps as well as what should be the value and reason you train. Maybe focusing more on the health benefits will help.
Also, make sure your expectations about training that fit your life situation before isn’t driving your discontent. One way to see this is by answering, “Are you letting perfect get in the way of good?” We can read so many articles and programs that we have more information than we need and trick ourselves into thinking we need ALL of it right now. Howeva, if you boil it back to down to some plain basics already mentioned, like alternating pushing nad pulling movements in a full body circuit 2 days a week you can get in motion witha 2-hour committment a week. Once you get a few good weeks in you will see areas where you might a sprint session or two. You can slowly add to a point where you feel like you are covering all the bases. Don’t wait until time opens up. Pick those 2 nights and times and committ to sticking with those nights. Communicate that to the girlfriend and do it. Then evaluate and adjust…
[quote]pushharder wrote:
Hit the gym twice a week twice a week with a full body routine.
Walk with a weight vest, sprint, run hills, do chins from a tree branch, and do pushups four other days of the
Sit on your ass one day a week.
Rub your woman’s feet seven days a week.
Listen and watch your son or daughter grow in the womb seven days a week.
Make a firm commitment to responsibly father your child for the rest of his or her life.[/quote]
I like this…Good advice.
Had similar issue when kids came into the picture. Had to make some adjustments in the time management department of my personal life. Found that training at the gym with any consistency went out the window so I started training at home. Been training in my basement ever since. If training is a priority in your life then keep it a priority. You just need to make it fit with the other “priorities” in your life that you can’t afford to ignore.