[quote]js385787 wrote:
Also I do kind of view my earning potential as a reward/favor if some chick and I get married. [/quote]
Smh… Just move on dude.
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]js385787 wrote:
Also I do kind of view my earning potential as a reward/favor if some chick and I get married. [/quote]
Smh… Just move on dude. [/quote]
It’ll all work out if he marries some chick that views sex as a reward/favor.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]js385787 wrote:
Also I do kind of view my earning potential as a reward/favor if some chick and I get married. [/quote]
Smh… Just move on dude. [/quote]
It’ll all work out if he marries some chick that views sex as a reward/favor.[/quote]
Lol, ya a reward for letting her use his super duper high earnings.
[quote]js385787 wrote:
To answer a couple questions.
The city I’m moving to is like couple thousand km away. It’d also be half decent sspot for her to get a job
Do I need to be supported during my last year? No, not really. I’m not sure what mutual benefit is derived out of such a longterm relationship with an enormous geographical distance. With the time difference of 5-6hrs, and distance, it makes speaking and seeing that person virtually impossible. I would liken it to having a penpal. Now if you actually wanted to be with someone and loved them, I would think opting to go somewhere yourself for a year would not be all that enjoyable - you got no bf, friend or family there - in fact it would probably be lonely to most attached people after a while. Unless you got a big hardon for travelling I can’t see the appeal in it. It’s a year, not a couple weeks of vacation.
Also I do kind of view my earning potential as a reward/favor if some chick and I get married. If she wants to share in on that, I think she needs to share in on some of the hardship as well, make some sacrifices, and earn her place so to speak.
Furthering her career? I don’t know about that. It’s teaching junior high kids or highschool kids. She is also middle 20s age wise, and still lives with her parents, never left home for university since its right in her hometown. I’ve been on my own since 18 past decade or so.
She also hasn’t been planning this forever, this was, like I said, something that was brought to my attention after she found we’d be moving to a different city next fall. Now prior to that we had planned to move from our current city to another one when I thought I’d be all done with my education; however I got a great opportunity to further my own career and education with some extra training for the upcoming academic year , it’s just in a different city then the one we had originally planned to move to this upcoming fall. Also we met during undergrad during my last year, I did make a sacrifice to stay and further my postgrad learning at this particular institution we’re currently at so we could be in same spot while she finished her undergrad/education degree - thus I’ve already made a sacrifice to be near her. [/quote]
It may be good for her career in that it is more understandable to future employers than a job in the states she keeps for one year. I think many education post-grads take a year or two to teach abroad - it’s a wonderful experience, and one most people can’t arrange. Very different to live in another country than to visit there. Employers understand that. Less so “Well, we moved 'cause my boyfriend was doing this program, but we never wanted to live there, really. So yeah, I took the job and then quit pretty soon, fucking all the other applicants for the position, but I’m not going to do that here. Honest.”
If I were in her shoes I think I would consider the same thing. “Okay, so our agreed-upon long term plans are paused so you can do this year-long thing that’s important to you. While you’re doing that I’ll do something really cool with my spiffy new degree, since it’ll be impossible to take a year abroad once we buy a house, have kids, etc. I’ve always wanted to and now’s my chance. At the end of the year, we’ll move to place-we-want-to-settle. Yay!”
It’s a huge opportunity. How can you not see that? I’m totally jealous of the handful of people I know who’ve done that sort of thing. Vacationing is not at all the same.
Say “No” to long-distance hoes.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
It may be good for her career in that it is more understandable to future employers than a job in the states she keeps for one year. I think many education post-grads take a year or two to teach abroad - it’s a wonderful experience, and one most people can’t arrange. Very different to live in another country than to visit there. Employers understand that. Less so “Well, we moved 'cause my boyfriend was doing this program, but we never wanted to live there, really. So yeah, I took the job and then quit pretty soon, fucking all the other applicants for the position, but I’m not going to do that here. Honest.”
If I were in her shoes I think I would consider the same thing. “Okay, so our agreed-upon long term plans are paused so you can do this year-long thing that’s important to you. While you’re doing that I’ll do something really cool with my spiffy new degree, since it’ll be impossible to take a year abroad once we buy a house, have kids, etc. I’ve always wanted to and now’s my chance. At the end of the year, we’ll move to place-we-want-to-settle. Yay!”
It’s a huge opportunity. How can you not see that? I’m totally jealous of the handful of people I know who’ve done that sort of thing. Vacationing is not at all the same.[/quote]
EmilyQ, I expect that this will draw some flaming responses from the more chauvinistic types in this forum, but I agree 100 percent with this.
[quote]ActivitiesGuy wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
It may be good for her career in that it is more understandable to future employers than a job in the states she keeps for one year. I think many education post-grads take a year or two to teach abroad - it’s a wonderful experience, and one most people can’t arrange. Very different to live in another country than to visit there. Employers understand that. Less so “Well, we moved 'cause my boyfriend was doing this program, but we never wanted to live there, really. So yeah, I took the job and then quit pretty soon, fucking all the other applicants for the position, but I’m not going to do that here. Honest.”
If I were in her shoes I think I would consider the same thing. “Okay, so our agreed-upon long term plans are paused so you can do this year-long thing that’s important to you. While you’re doing that I’ll do something really cool with my spiffy new degree, since it’ll be impossible to take a year abroad once we buy a house, have kids, etc. I’ve always wanted to and now’s my chance. At the end of the year, we’ll move to place-we-want-to-settle. Yay!”
It’s a huge opportunity. How can you not see that? I’m totally jealous of the handful of people I know who’ve done that sort of thing. Vacationing is not at all the same.[/quote]
EmilyQ, I expect that this will draw some flaming responses from the more chauvinistic types in this forum, but I agree 100 percent with this.[/quote]
Are you not reading the thread? six figures!
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