Couldn’t you call a nurse help line just for advice or something?
If not, here is a good link…sounds like you are doing all the right things!
I understand that sometimes cancer takes you by surprise and you’re in denial that you don’t want to tell anyone. But at what point should you tell your parents? Your kids?
A close family friend whose son my brother has grew up playing lacrosse with passed away today. He found out in January his cancer was back, but this time it was bone cancer and it was terminal and they gave him 9-12 months. Only him and his wife knew. They found out last week that it’s much more aggressive than they thought and said he only had weeks. It was at this point they decided to tell their 3 kids (20, 18, 15). They could no longer hide it from them when he had to have oxygen constantly and could barely walk.
Finally last Friday they told the lacrosse parents, most of whom they’ve known for 10+ years, and they also told the team (he was a coach). Yesterday a bunch of the mothers got together to set a plan together on how they would help the family over the coming weeks as they dealt with his illness, and later, after his death. Today he was supposed to go see a doctor. They were going to do a radiation treatment just to see if they could keep his spine intact. He was also finally to get a hospital bed and a pain pump.
The saddest part about all of this was that his wife was going on Friday to drive 2 hours with a friend to tell his parents that he was dying. Now she has to make that trip and tell them that he’s dead. This is the part I’m having the most trouble dealing with. It was his decision that he didn’t want to tell his parents and finally a few days ago he decided they should know, but in person. Now his wife is left to break the horrible news for them and they don’t even get to say goodbye.
We’re not sure yet when the funeral will be, however it is likely to be Friday or Saturday. I’m undecided as to what this means for my meet, however I’m going to continue moving forward as if I am competing.
Man, what a sad day!!
I am so sorry. I can understand the desire to keep bad news from folks, but I know that for me, my late husband’s long battle with cancer helped me come to terms with the fact that he was going to die, to set things right, etc. It would be such a shock, to all the sudden lose a loved one, with no advanced warning!
My husband kept his illness from his mother. She died about two years before he did. At one point in time, he even delayed his own hospital admission because she, coincidentally, was being admitted as well. He did not think she could take the news. In retrospect, he was probably right. She was a very high strung woman with health issues of her own.
I know that when I was recently ill, I did downplay the seriousness to my mother and my daughter until I knew the situation. I also, on one occasion, decided NOT to tell my boyfriend about an emergency room visit until after the fact, because he was busy with finals and he was very stressed about them. He was not happy about that, at all, once I did 'fess up.
It is always hard to lose loved ones, no matter what the situation.
so sorry Court
I went to the gym today and did what I planned on doing yesterday before I got hit in the head.
Bike - 7 minutes (okay, this was supposed to be 20min. Then I got bored and decided it would be 10. Then I got really bored so called it quits at 7)
Foam Roll
Mobility
Shoulder and Glute PreHab
I then did 3 sets of 8 squats with just the bar. Basically I was just testing how my body reacted to me holding my breath during the lift. I felt fine. My headache is gone, I feel like I’m able to focus again. It’s all good.
Apparently Ouro’s nameless bf is planning on coming to BR. He’s trying to convince Scotty to come but it depends if he has to work or not.
When I got home I found out I got a spot in grad housing. Takes a load off my shoulders knowing that I don’t have to worry about that anymore. Our grad housing is sweet as an aside…
Glad to hear that your symptoms are improving. So sorry to hear about your friend.
[quote]Court wrote:
I went to the gym today and did what I planned on doing yesterday before I got hit in the head.
Bike - 7 minutes (okay, this was supposed to be 20min. Then I got bored and decided it would be 10. Then I got really bored so called it quits at 7)
Foam Roll
Mobility
Shoulder and Glute PreHab
I then did 3 sets of 8 squats with just the bar. Basically I was just testing how my body reacted to me holding my breath during the lift. I felt fine. My headache is gone, I feel like I’m able to focus again. It’s all good.
Apparently Ouro’s nameless bf is planning on coming to BR. He’s trying to convince Scotty to come but it depends if he has to work or not.
When I got home I found out I got a spot in grad housing. Takes a load off my shoulders knowing that I don’t have to worry about that anymore. Our grad housing is sweet as an aside…[/quote]
Nice on the grad housing in California!
So sorry to hear about your friend. hugs
Court sounds like your ready for your meet,
sorry to hear about your friend
kmc
What a tough week right before your meet. My thoughts are with you and your family. Decisions about dying and death are so fragile. It isn’t always the easiest to understand why people make the choices that they do, but I’m sure he would want to be remembered for the person he was when he was full of life.
No worries about the knock to the head. I’m quite sure you have plenty of brain cells to spare.
Random mess of thoughts:
So I’ll be attending a funeral tomorrow morning before heading to Windsor. I’m rooming with another Niagara lifter and right now deciding if I’ll feel like carpooling or not. Frankly, I might need the alone time. He promised to just sleep and not talk, but we shall see.
I’m making cupcakes tonight. They’re going to be delicious.
I also just saw my chiro/ART guy for the third time this week. He felt me up again. This time was even more painful than the last. My disc is back in place and I’m testing strong so he just did some more ART on my rhomboid (sp?), pec minor and pec major. He tried to have a conversation with me while he was doing so. It’s similar to a dentist trying to talk to you while he’s cleaning your teeth, except in this case my teeth were gritted together in pain.
I figured out the key to weight gain (aka water manipulation) is salted peanuts. I’m going to cut the salt today and tomorrow because I woke up just over 163 this morning and frankly, I would punch myself in the face if I didn’t make 75kgs. I do plan on eating them like it’s my job on Saturday after weigh ins though.
I’m getting my hair cut between the funeral and when I leave tomorrow. I’ve been trying to get in with my hairdresser for weeks and finally she called this morning and has a cancellation tomorrow. That will make me lose about a pound because my hair is super thick and is very long at the moment. I’ll look pretty on the platform for sure 
I just realized I have lots to do… I have my cupcake stuff purchased, but I’ll need to go to the grocery store tomorrow to get fruit, crackers, m&ms, and other meet day fuel. I also need to stop at the beer store to stock up the cooler for post-meet. I need to finish packing. My gear is all together which is the most important though. I have to do this sometime tonight or after the early funeral, my hair appointment and when I leave…and I had planned on leaving by 2 at the latest. Ugh.
PS. In case I don’t write tomorrow, congrats neelydan on convincing that poor sweet girl to become a Mrs. neelydan.
wow, neelydan is like your soulmate or something…i was just logging in to say my final post as a bachelor had to be to court to wish you the best of luck at your upcoming meet.
I’ll exit third person jackass mode for a brief moment in time to say that regardless of being 33, not hyuuuge, not ripped and being as average and mediocre as they come is a trade-off i’d make every day for having found a buddy like you.
All the very best Saturday. Knock 'em dead.
[quote]Court wrote:
Random mess of thoughts:
So I’ll be attending a funeral tomorrow morning before heading to Windsor. I’m rooming with another Niagara lifter and right now deciding if I’ll feel like carpooling or not. Frankly, I might need the alone time. He promised to just sleep and not talk, but we shall see.
I’m making cupcakes tonight. They’re going to be delicious.
I also just saw my chiro/ART guy for the third time this week. He felt me up again. This time was even more painful than the last. My disc is back in place and I’m testing strong so he just did some more ART on my rhomboid (sp?), pec minor and pec major. He tried to have a conversation with me while he was doing so. It’s similar to a dentist trying to talk to you while he’s cleaning your teeth, except in this case my teeth were gritted together in pain.
I figured out the key to weight gain (aka water manipulation) is salted peanuts. I’m going to cut the salt today and tomorrow because I woke up just over 163 this morning and frankly, I would punch myself in the face if I didn’t make 75kgs. I do plan on eating them like it’s my job on Saturday after weigh ins though.
I’m getting my hair cut between the funeral and when I leave tomorrow. I’ve been trying to get in with my hairdresser for weeks and finally she called this morning and has a cancellation tomorrow. That will make me lose about a pound because my hair is super thick and is very long at the moment. I’ll look pretty on the platform for sure
I just realized I have lots to do… I have my cupcake stuff purchased, but I’ll need to go to the grocery store tomorrow to get fruit, crackers, m&ms, and other meet day fuel. I also need to stop at the beer store to stock up the cooler for post-meet. I need to finish packing. My gear is all together which is the most important though. I have to do this sometime tonight or after the early funeral, my hair appointment and when I leave…and I had planned on leaving by 2 at the latest. Ugh.
PS. In case I don’t write tomorrow, congrats neelydan on convincing that poor sweet girl to become a Mrs. neelydan.[/quote]
Put the peanuts and beer in the cupcakes.
You have a pretty full couple of days. I’d say take it easy but that would be retarded directed at you. Just do what you can. I can hardly wait to see you kill it on Saturday.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Put the peanuts and beer in the cupcakes.
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Someone please email this idea as a challenge for one of those cooking shows.
Court, I hope you know we expect complete documentation of the meet, complete with video, pics, and commentary. Preferably by someone with a british accent, if James Earl Jones isn’t available to narrate.
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Put the peanuts and beer in the cupcakes.
Someone please email this idea as a challenge for one of those cooking shows.
Court, I hope you know we expect complete documentation of the meet, complete with video, pics, and commentary. Preferably by someone with a british accent, if James Earl Jones isn’t available to narrate. [/quote]
What about Morgan Freeman? I mean did you SEE the penguin movie?
I think Vader needs to make a trip up for the weekend. I bet Court would put out.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
I think Vader needs to make a trip up for the weekend. I bet Court would put out.[/quote]
Yeah, but would he?
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
I bet Court would put out.[/quote]
Back, back, back, back, back, gone! That one’s outta here folks!
Good luck at the meet! I’ll be cheering for you!
Please post when you can, so we can all celebrate your NEW PR’s!