I could probably find a big bag
Power snatch triples @ 55 lbs, lots of jumps
Snatch grip deads- 3x5 @ 95,135,185 lbs
Walking lunges- sets of 10 with 20 lb dbs
Deficit SG deadlifts- 10x3 @ 185 lbs with 60-70 sec rest
Whole posterior chain trashed (especially grip)
Sidenote- my ring finger was in on/off mild pain during the day. Guessing itâs due to zero hand extension work. tips? @flipcollar
Unrelated to lifting, i need to decide whether to go to homecoming or not. One one hand: I only have 4 hocos, everyone goes, it could be a great time. On the other, I donât have a date (yet, and the 2 possibilities are crapshoots), donât have the first clue about dancing, and am not very extroverted⊠And also Iâll be coming off a 7-9 hour seminar
@lava2007 @duketheslaya thoughts?
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Homecoming is for girls to have an excuse to dress up and feel pretty and have their pictures taken. In MY opinion, guys should avoid it at all costs unless youâre 1) dating a girl, in which case she wonât be your girl for much longer if you donât take her, or 2) really into a girl and you want to use homecoming night as a stepping stone towards making something happen.
To be honest, I never went to one of my schoolâs homecoming dances. I went to a different schoolâs homecoming dance my junior year; a friendâs girlfriendâs friend needed a date, and she had a nice butt, so I went. I donât regret skipping the dances whatsoever. I had no reason to go. No girlfriend, no girls were interested in meâor if they were, none vocalized it and I had no clueâso me attending the dance would have been a waste of a Saturday night and a lot of money that 15/16/17/18 year old didnât have in the first place. Iâm fairly introverted like you. I spent every homecoming night with a few good friends, the same guys every year, and I regret none of it. My senior year, for homecoming, all my buddies and I âdressed upâ (khaki shorts, nice shoes, watches, and polos) and went out to dinner. Then we went back to one of our friendâs houses and some of us got high and some of us got drunk. It was incredible.
I ended up being used as someoneâs date for senior prom. That might be the best con sheâs ever going to pull in her life. When it was all said and done, I spent about $450 (my first 3 paychecks from the first job I ever had) to buy her flowers, pay for a tux rental, pay for tickets to a baseball game, and to pay for the actual prom tickets. And then I got to drive all throughout the suburbs using a bunch of gas which is not included in the $450.
Moral of the story: you donât need to go. I understand that as a freshman, everyone thinks that school dances are the âthingâ to do; theyâre not. The thing to do is to make friends. Good, close, trustworthy friends who are on the same wavelength as you in terms of personality, tastes, and preferences. The odds that the girl you went to homecoming with in high school (in any grade) is going to be in your life in 5 years are ridiculously low. The odds that the good friends you made in high school are going to still be your friends 5 years out of high school are significantly higher. Your friends will stick around infinitely longer than that girl who used you for a date, or that girl who you felt obligated to ask to go because her friends pressured you into it.
Going to a school dance with just your buddies could be fun, but I think you would all enjoy doing what my friends and I didâtake that money and spend it on food and whatever entertainment you choose. Hoco tickets were like $60 a pop, $120 for a couple, so my buddies and I cumulatively saved anywhere from $360 to $720. We split a 6 man check and then went and had ourselves a little party after stopping at a gas station for random snacks and munchies.
In summation: do what you KNOW will be fun for you. If you have slight social anxiety which can get really bad on occasion like I do, then a school dance might end up being a shit show for you. If youâve got a couple friends who just wanna chill, maybe go to the gym, then go somewhere nice for dinner, then do something fun, do that. Also: Iâm not telling you to drink or smoke. Thatâs just what my friends and I did. You have a lot of options with all the money you save from not going.
Go if you have a girlfriend.
Donât go if you donât have a girlfriend.
If youâve got your eye on a girl and sheâs worth the risk and the money, take her to the dance.
But most importantly, have fun on the night of the dance. Doesnât matter whether youâre at the dance or not; do something that youâll enjoy and remember. Iâll always remember the name and location and what I ordered at the restaurant that my buddies and I went to on homecoming of senior year. Make it memorable.
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ya @lava2007 covered it. iâd only say go if theres a high chance of getting laid
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lil edit there. Thereâs always going to be a few desperate girls at dances who will fuck if you send the right signals their way.
If you have a shot at getting laid, and if thatâs what you want, then take a calculated risk. If itâs worth the few hundred bucks youâre going to drop on it, then go for it. In my experience, most of the hot girls worth banging already have dates or boyfriends who intend to smash, so going to a school dance with the hopes of getting some good poon is a foolâs errand
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thatâs funny. I didnât get laid until I was 19 in college.
I went to all 4 homecoming dances at my school. I had a date to each of them, and I think only one of the times was I dating the girl⊠canât remember for sure, itâs been a few years lol. I definitely didnât have a shot at getting laid, ever. I certainly wouldnât worry about that part, itâs silly to me.
I also donât dance, but I did for like slow songs and stuff, because you donât really have to do anything.
My thought is, if you have a girl you could take who you think youâd enjoy having dinner with and socializing with throughout the night, do that. Not everything has to be about getting laid. Have fun with friends, enjoy the ambiance and shit. If thatâs not your thing, donât worry about not going. It wonât be the end of the world either way, so donât sweat the decision too much.
As for the finger pain regarding lifting⊠Iâm assuming you mean this was from the deadlifts? Because I do get the same thing when I donât use straps. My ring finger always felt sore after deadlift sessions. I think the solution to that is either just dealing with the pain (as you said itâs mild), or using straps regularly. If grip is a weak point for you, Iâd lean towards sucking it up and dealing with the pain.
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Thatâs funny and surprising. I was 15 and it was my boss at a fast food restaurant - she was 17.
This x 2. Just be yourself.
Enjoy people, get to know them, love them unconditionally.
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dude, I was scared to death of girls when I was young. I didnât have my first kiss until I was 17. I had to majorly overhaul my personality, attitudes, etc to become desirable to women. It was a hell of a process. That was part of how I found the gym in the first place.
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Telling. I went through a similar process, but I suspect when you stopped caring is when things got better.
Thanks for sharing.
No, it was like that after I woke up. Subsided a bit through the day
Also, how could I fit sandbags into my training?
(Stupid question) Wouldnât you be dating them then?
Will keep this in mind
Any tips on that?
I would definitely do this if the majority werenât going
Not having much luck with that
Mine are $20
As long as I can let loose I should have a good time (easier said than done though)
Out of curiosity- which are?
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Let me preface this by saying that it wonât work for/on every girl, and the girls who are in this zone probably arenât the girls who you would like to be in this zone. But honestly it can be as simple as making a few suggestive remarks and stating your intentions. You gotta be careful though, because saying those things to the wrong girl could quickly become sexual harassment. And that is not something you want to get tangled up in ever, especially not these days.
It could also be as complicated as playing mind gamesâalthough to be fair, most girls who play mind games refuse to quit, and youâll never score with her. On occasion, there are some girls who like to play mind games just to see where youâre at based on whatever weird and random criteria she has set up. You might have to take her out, meet her friends, pass a trial (one of her friends flirts with you, you reject it. She ignores you for a day or two, you move past it. That kind of thing.)
In short, you will feel the chemistry and the tension if itâs there, and itâll be a lot easier to act on it than you think it will be. Youâll feel a moment with a girl and then itâll start to go down. I wouldnât expect a whole lot from your freshman homecoming, though. Senior prom? Maybe⊠but not freshman hoco. Most kids (boys AND girls) are still figuring things out. High school just started and everyone is trying to fit in and decide what kind of person theyâre going to be.
Donât worry about it too much. It sounds like your situation warrants you going to homecoming for the most part, so go. See if you like it. Itâs only $20, and if you have fun, youâll never have to miss a high school dance. If you hate it, you donât have to waste your money for the rest of your life on dances.
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no, I wouldnât say that. If I have a friend who I ask to accompany me to an event, we have not been on dates prior to said event, and we do not go on dates after event, I am not dating them. I consider the term âdatingâ to have a mutual romantic interest inherent to the definition, in some form or another. None of these âdatesâ had this. Obviously the terms are confusing and somewhat ambiguous, but hopefully that clarifies it.
plenty. but not for a high school kid. I know what works as an adult, but high school is a weird place, man. I didnât figure it out while I was there. Thereâs just so much more superficiality in high school than there is after. So many of the âcool kidsâ end up being losers by the time they are 25. Cool kids tend to skate by on their appearance. They have friends from the time they are very young because theyâre attractive, they never have to worry about socializing. It comes naturally. But looks fade. These kids donât know how to maintain themselves, they donât work hard enough in school, their metabolisms slow⊠by the time theyâre 25 or 30, they look like shit, they have dead end jobs, and theyâre married to the girl they were dating in high school, who also looks like shit now. lol.
I think the best advice I can give to a smart teenager is this: keep being smart, and keep working hard. and try to be confident in yourself. But never buy into the thing you always here that you have to be an asshole to get girls. You donât. Do girls like guys with an edge? Generally, yea. But itâs not because theyâre an asshole, itâs because they arenât boring.
I also highly recommend learning to be genuinely funny, and smile a lot. This was something I learned to do well. Iâve always been obsessed with the concept of humor, what makes people laugh and what doesnât. Being funny is almost a trump card. If you can make girls laugh, you can get dates.
embrace masculinity. not the toxic version of masculinity, the good kind, lol. Be strong, be patient, be caring and giving. be a good person.
as Iâm typing this stuff, in my head Iâm thinking âthis should be obvious. All Iâm saying is have positive character traitsâ. But that tends to get overlooked sometimes in this world. And it does take work to be a good person. At the end of the day though, thatâs what itâs all about. Be a good person, have things that make you interesting, and most everything else will fall into place.
Sorry if thatâs a bit rambling, hope it helps some.
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The fuck was my wise jacked font of wisdom when I was 16??
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9/20/18
Planned to do 10x5 OHP but felt like doing cleans
Lots of jumps & pullup holds ; I think my jumping ability has actually improved
Lots of clean singles @125,135 lbs
2 missed attempts at 145 lbs
Having met Flip I can tell you for a fact that the dudeâs jokes are fucking terrible!
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A little more on the subject of getting girls:
Alex, youâve been on the forum now for a while and Iâve read a ton of your posts. Youâre obviously very smart and have a decent sense of humour. Sadly, these traits arenât as rewarded as they should be in high school, because of the weird fucking social politics that goes on at school, but the great thing is these traits are very, very highly rewarded in adulthood.
And I know how patronising it sounds when someone older than you comes along and responds to your request for advice with âwait until youâre older,â and I hate to be that guy, but seriously: wait until youâre older.
What Flip said was right about most people not maintaining themselves, so by the time they hit their mid-to-late 20s they look like shit and have dead end jobs (or jobs that arenât dead end but make them miserable). If you keep yourself in shape and relax into your own personality, believe me that will reap huge dividends in a few yearsâ time.
99% of people have the exact same hang ups about girls and dating as you do at your age (even if they donât admit it). Just trust us that smart, in-shape guys will do staggeringly well with women once they get a little older.
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Yeah, this is money. My son is hysterically funny, but his twelve year old friends just donât get his humor.
This.
This.
Love yourself brother, thatâs the deal.
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Homecoming- 3 hours
Lots of jumping and yelling; pretty fun time
Hip flexors are tight as hell already
Yeah 0 for 2 on that. Wasnât actually expecting anything, just seeing if I could (confidence wise)
There was an after party but I have AP Bio tomorrow soo not going to that
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