[quote]Severiano wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
Nope.
Further, I believe that introducing children to such ideas also introduces existential fear that we all have to deal with as humans. Faith in the afterlife sets up people for a life of fear, as the nature of reason questions, and the nature of questions for humans lies in what happens to us when we die.
When we invest in the idea of an afterlife we subject ourselves to the push pull of fear within faith and reason… Rather than just dealing with and accepting the strong likelyhood that there is no afterlife, people buy into the idea and then have to convince themselves of such over and over out of fear of the contrary. This is the nature of faith in the afterlife, it leads to Existentialism in later life, and the holding onto of the intrinsic fear that there is no afterlife, rather than never buying into the idea at all in the first place.
I’ve gone so far as to call people who are educated and believe in the afterlife; cowards. But really we are wired to be horrified of death, and not everyone is strong enough to look at reality the same way I do. [/quote]
This all sounds very. . . fraught. What a delight you must be at parties, calling your friends cowards! I don’t know what your childhood as a kid who went to church was like, but I’ve observed a lot of church-y families and they haven’t seemed to exhibit this kind of struggle.
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For some people being told there is a heaven and a God is good enough, and they don’t ask questions. For others of us, we are curious by nature, all stuff you already know given different personality types, education levels etc. It’s hard to see how people take death and loss, it’s not like I’m going to ask you to go to a funeral and ask for interviews about how people feel.
I’ve never been to a party where everyone sits and talks about religion btw, but if you do all the time then cool.
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What are you saying now? You said that you call your friends cowards, I said “how delightful!” and then you wanted to know what kind of parties I go to?
I have seen death. My own loved ones and others’. I deal with death and bereavement at work, along with end-of-life decisions (e.g. sell home and go to assisted living?). My observation has been that people near death, whether through old age or illness, become tired and generally feel ready to give themselves over to death (though not always). Many hold on until they can settle emotional issues (say goodbye to child who’s traveled in, see a spouse settled and cared for).
Younger or previously healthy people dying have other issues to contend with. I am not afraid of death, regardless of afterlife, but I have a great deal to do between now and what I hope will be my old age. Urgency would be a much better word for what I feel than fear.
Fear seems to come easily to you. That is not everyone’s default.[/quote]
C’mon Emily. You brought up the topic of discussing life after death at a party, which would have to occur before I’d call someone a coward for having faith at said party… Really, you go to parties where people sit around and talk about the afterlife?
Really, my view was best summed up in an earlier post by Powerpuff. As much as I want to go out and call people who fit that criteria cowards, I also love a lot of people who have faith. One of the things I’ve dealt with recently is more up your ally though… I’ve recently had to deal with a family member who had a psychotic break, resulting from a demon that she allowed into her brain when she strayed from God. By staying away from God she, “stayed in the fear” / with the demon… But she’s with God now, and all is well… She literally was homeless and put me in a spot where I was talking with her at work so she would be off the street. After two months shes back on her feet, working and in an apartment. Everything out of her is God this and God that, so long as she’s not on the streets homeless I’m happy for her, but sad for her too. She lost her daughter as a result.
I don’t know if I’m inclined to fear anymore than other people, there are times I’ve seen other people lose their shit. I’ve seen grown ass men of higher rank than me curl up and cry, I’ve seen a guy get so stressed out he opened his head up on the floor with his head after banging it a few times, I’ve seen a guy attack his senior in with a 3/4 inch wrench and literally try to kill him with it. I’ve never felt inclined to do any of these things, but I sure can make sense of them, or at least attempt to!
I think a lot of people grapple with the fear I talk about as a result of being human. But, really it’s exacerbated by investing in the idea of an afterlife like I have explained plenty already. [/quote]
Do you ever read what you write? You:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
Nope.
Further, I believe that introducing children to such ideas also introduces existential fear that we all have to deal with as humans. Faith in the afterlife sets up people for a life of fear, as the nature of reason questions, and the nature of questions for humans lies in what happens to us when we die.
When we invest in the idea of an afterlife we subject ourselves to the push pull of fear within faith and reason… Rather than just dealing with and accepting the strong likelyhood that there is no afterlife, people buy into the idea and then have to convince themselves of such over and over out of fear of the contrary. This is the nature of faith in the afterlife, it leads to Existentialism in later life, and the holding onto of the intrinsic fear that there is no afterlife, rather than never buying into the idea at all in the first place.
I’ve gone so far as to call people who are educated and believe in the afterlife; cowards. But really we are wired to be horrified of death, and not everyone is strong enough to look at reality the same way I do. [/quote]
I see:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
Nope.
I believe that introducing children to such ideas also introduces existential fear that we all have to deal with as humans.
Faith in the afterlife sets up people for a life of fear
When we invest in the idea of an afterlife we subject ourselves to the push pull of fear
people buy into the idea and then have to convince themselves of such over and over out of fear of the contrary.
This is the nature of faith in the afterlife, it leads to Existentialism in later life, and the holding onto of the intrinsic fear that there is no afterlife
I’ve gone so far as to call people who are educated and believe in the afterlife; cowards.
But really we are wired to be horrified of death, and not everyone is strong enough to look at reality the same way I do. [/quote]
So you don’t have these confrontations at parties. Where, then? Work? On dates? Playing pool? Family bbqs? Grocery store lines? At any rate, that was not my point. My point was, you must be a lot of fun, with your multiple assumptions of the unending angst and terror of being human.