[quote]Severiano wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Severiano wrote:
Nope.
Further, I believe that introducing children to such ideas also introduces existential fear that we all have to deal with as humans. Faith in the afterlife sets up people for a life of fear, as the nature of reason questions, and the nature of questions for humans lies in what happens to us when we die.
When we invest in the idea of an afterlife we subject ourselves to the push pull of fear within faith and reason… Rather than just dealing with and accepting the strong likelyhood that there is no afterlife, people buy into the idea and then have to convince themselves of such over and over out of fear of the contrary. This is the nature of faith in the afterlife, it leads to Existentialism in later life, and the holding onto of the intrinsic fear that there is no afterlife, rather than never buying into the idea at all in the first place.
I’ve gone so far as to call people who are educated and believe in the afterlife; cowards. But really we are wired to be horrified of death, and not everyone is strong enough to look at reality the same way I do. [/quote]
This all sounds very. . . fraught. What a delight you must be at parties, calling your friends cowards! I don’t know what your childhood as a kid who went to church was like, but I’ve observed a lot of church-y families and they haven’t seemed to exhibit this kind of struggle.
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For some people being told there is a heaven and a God is good enough, and they don’t ask questions. For others of us, we are curious by nature, all stuff you already know given different personality types, education levels etc. It’s hard to see how people take death and loss, it’s not like I’m going to ask you to go to a funeral and ask for interviews about how people feel.
I’ve never been to a party where everyone sits and talks about religion btw, but if you do all the time then cool.
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What are you saying now? You said that you call your friends cowards, I said “how delightful!” and then you wanted to know what kind of parties I go to?
I have seen death. My own loved ones and others’. I deal with death and bereavement at work, along with end-of-life decisions (e.g. sell home and go to assisted living?). My observation has been that people near death, whether through old age or illness, become tired and generally feel ready to give themselves over to death (though not always). Many hold on until they can settle emotional issues (say goodbye to child who’s traveled in, see a spouse settled and cared for).
Younger or previously healthy people dying have other issues to contend with. I am not afraid of death, regardless of afterlife, but I have a great deal to do between now and what I hope will be my old age. Urgency would be a much better word for what I feel than fear.
Fear seems to come easily to you. That is not everyone’s default.