This is reflective of one of your issues. It seems you go around constantly gauging what others are thinking. This is fine and to a degree normal, but considering you’re also running around the internet on various forums constantly gauging feedback from others is after awhile detrimental and also possibly strong to some.
Whatever! I go outside my home everyday and I see all sorts of people with mates: ugly people, stupid people, smart people, poor people, skinny people, fat people, and so on. Likely most accept their lot and capabilities in life and are not so goddamn complicated and simply went about their lives doing what they should do or want to do and along the way met partners. Oh no, they’re not all getting so-called tens, but at least many found someone who matches them.
You actually went around telling people you are posting on an internet fitness forum for feedback regarding dating? Are these people your friends or strangers? This is yet another feedback-gauging behavior of yours, which in turn, instead of allowing you to form relationships with people generally, makes you appear as a complicated person in constant turmoil, in short, a head case! Imagine if I walked around and kept asking everyone who listens to me, “Hey, do you think I should…?”, “Hey, I did this. What do you think…?”, and “I’m sporting this new haircut. What do you think of it…?” Eventually people would think I’m just fucking weird and not enjoyable to deal with, let alone wanting to befriend me.
What the hell do you think you’re going to get from socially awkward, womanless, lost, depressed, and angry men?
Again, I don’t know what the hell you’re talking about considering I see all sorts of men who are certainly not hardcore or especially gregarious with women and some friends.
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I have a high IQ (not that that matters) … [/quote]
It does matter considering high IQ’s can create opportunities for people who possess them and allow for people to foresee the future and avoid mistakes and negative consequences. Do some research on countries that have average low IQ’s of 80 or less and see what basket cases they are! You can also look at demographics in our own country with low IQ’s and see what characterizes them: sloth, indolence, superstition, illegitimacy, drug addiction, and crime. Anyway, this is another topic altogether, but the take-home point is that a high IQ can make life a bit advantageous to those who use it!
Again, this can backfire if you appear to be constantly testing the waters and feedback from others on every move you and others make. That’s the sort of behavior that makes one appear creepy. I don’t even know how useful this is considering most people who met their mate did it in the course of everyday life in a relatively simple way, and it didn’t take much social insight. It was as simple as getting out there, or even using social media and dating websites, meeting people, and eventually stumbling upon a mate! That’s it! Sure for most they fumbled a bit and went on dates that lead to nowhere, but that’s part of the process for most people, even for “pretty people”. My cousin is in her late 20’s, just got engaged, makes a six figure salary, is talented, works for a major television channel in Manhattan (and we’re not talking about a mail room or porter position considering her talent and income), is physically attractive, lives in a trendy town bustling with creative young people, and she went on god knows how many dates and was dumped once before she met her fiance.
So it’s not all fun and games and disappointment-free, which is why there is no ticket or key to finding someone. You can fuck around with all sorts of PUA theories and practices and attempt to “work on oneself” (whatever the hell that is supposed to mean) and still not find a mate, or you might just go on and live your life as an ordinary person and find your mate without much introspection, “self-development” and those shenanigans!
I made a comparison between the misery of being disfigured versus the misery of being womanless. I was not speaking of your looks or that your looks are on par with that of a disfigured person!
A Chad is not a man who pretends to be incel. The term is used for someone who attracts women easily because of his good looks and other attributes that make his life easier than an ordinary man’s. I think someone like you should stay off those message boards considering the amount of angry, resentful, depressed, and lost people on them. That’s not advice, just my opinion.
Yup. I assume you are depressed because of being womanless, which is perfectly understandable. I think those that won’t empathize with you are likely those who have never gone womanless for long periods of time. It’s easy for some people to just say toughen up or that you are self-pitying when they have not been through such a meat grinder.
I don’t think you are self-pitying but you are one complicated dude with a seemingly racing mind! Women don’t like that shit! They don’t to be sitting at a table across from a table with some dude who seems troubled and whatever sort of looks you have, I assume, perhaps wrongfully so, that you come across as having issues. Hence why you’re being called creepy!
My wife and I laugh about it now.