[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Wait a second. You guys aren’t really blaming bad marriages and ugly divorces on weddings, are you? Like, really?
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No. I was making the point that with as much as we throw into the frivolity of a wedding, the long-term end result is often much less than expected. It’s already not a good monetary investment. But couple that with everything else invested in that day, it almost seems pointless.
The big wedding, not marriage itself.
[quote]debraD wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]DJHT wrote:
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.
My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.
Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]
Have to agree with you on this ID, my own personal experience first wife wanted big wastefull wedding and we were divorced after 5 years. Could have used the money spent on wedding for a next egg to help us finacially.
My wife now, we did like you did with your wife. Just had our kids there and my parents. We spent more on securing our future and after 11 years we are happier than ever before.
Everbody knows weddings are for the woman anyway, most yes generalization guys only care about the party aspect that being reception or bach party. [/quote]
Wait a second. You guys aren’t really blaming bad marriages and ugly divorces on weddings, are you? Like, really?
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I don’t think big weddings cause divorces but the lust and pressure for a dream wedding seems like potential for bad decision making when it comes to choosing who’s going to be in the wedding with you. I say that because I know women who fell in love with their wedding plans but not the groom. When someone like that says ‘I do’ she’s not necessarily thinking about the guy, but the dress.
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I’ve seen this SO many times.
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. 
[quote]LanEkyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lankie. And planning weddings still sucks.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lanky. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore.
[quote]LanquieMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankEyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lankee. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore. [/quote]
Whores get paid.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lanky. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore. [/quote]
Whores get paid.[/quote]
Is it just me or is my sweet ass Bob Saget avatar not showing up? This makes me very disappoint.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lanky. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore. [/quote]
Whores get paid.[/quote]
Is it just me or is my sweet ass Bob Saget avatar not showing up? This makes me very disappoint.[/quote]
I noticed it’s gone. I thought maybe… you were going for a new one.
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.
My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.
Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]
It’s a good thing you didn’t throw a party to celebrate your marriage (IE a wedding). You’d have probably been divorced years ago.
/sarcasm
People throw parties for all kinds of reasons. Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone seems like a pretty good reason to me. As long as you aren’t taking on financial hardship to pay for it, then what is the problem?
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.
My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.
Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]
It’s a good thing you didn’t throw a party to celebrate your marriage (IE a wedding). You’d have probably been divorced years ago.
/sarcasm
People throw parties for all kinds of reasons. Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone seems like a pretty good reason to me. As long as you aren’t taking on financial hardship to pay for it, then what is the problem?[/quote]
Apparently you didn’t read my reasons above.
Throwing a $20,000 party is like throwing money away. Think what that $20,000 could do with your future.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lanky. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore. [/quote]
Whores get paid.[/quote]
Is it just me or is my sweet ass Bob Saget avatar not showing up? This makes me very disappoint.[/quote]
You are officially eliminated from the “person having the same avatar for the longest period of time” contest. Deal with it.
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.
My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.
Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]
It’s a good thing you didn’t throw a party to celebrate your marriage (IE a wedding). You’d have probably been divorced years ago.
/sarcasm
People throw parties for all kinds of reasons. Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone seems like a pretty good reason to me. As long as you aren’t taking on financial hardship to pay for it, then what is the problem?[/quote]
Apparently you didn’t read my reasons above.
Throwing a $20,000 party is like throwing money away. Think what that $20,000 could do with your future.
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The vast majority of invites should at least cover their plate. I have no intention of losing $20k on my wedding, maybe $5k net loss after everything.
Weddings. Fucking. Rock.
[quote]dk44 wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lanky. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore. [/quote]
Whores get paid.[/quote]
Is it just me or is my sweet ass Bob Saget avatar not showing up? This makes me very disappoint.[/quote]
You are officially eliminated from the “person having the same avatar for the longest period of time” contest. Deal with it. [/quote]
Ahh, fuck. I was hoping no one would put two and two together. 
[quote]dk44 wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Well, yeah, bad decision makers make bad decisions. Weddings are still awesome. :)[/quote]
Nice to see you around, Lanky. And planning weddings still sucks.[/quote]
Nice to see you, too, ya big whore. [/quote]
Whores get paid.[/quote]
Is it just me or is my sweet ass Bob Saget avatar not showing up? This makes me very disappoint.[/quote]
You are officially eliminated from the “person having the same avatar for the longest period of time” contest. Deal with it. [/quote]
Now Goat Boy is in 1st place.
lol
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.
My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.
Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]
It’s a good thing you didn’t throw a party to celebrate your marriage (IE a wedding). You’d have probably been divorced years ago.
/sarcasm
People throw parties for all kinds of reasons. Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone seems like a pretty good reason to me. As long as you aren’t taking on financial hardship to pay for it, then what is the problem?[/quote]
Apparently you didn’t read my reasons above.
Throwing a $20,000 party is like throwing money away. Think what that $20,000 could do with your future.
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I read your post, and didn’t see any reasons, just a few vague anecdotes of failed marriages that really have nothing to do with the wedding itself. Obviously if you don’t work at your marriage it’s going to suck and fail. But, just because some people who have weddings get divorced doesn’t mean weddings are stupid or a waste of time/money.
And LOL, $20,000? Yeah, I’m in complete agreement with you that that is a ridiculous amount to spend on a wedding unless you’re making a few hundred grand a year.
A reasonable, fun wedding will pay for itself with the gifts you’ll get from it.
[quote]graudani wrote:
Dont pull a Michael Scott, hahaha that shit is funny. If you dont watch the office, the dude makes every wedding all about him…Just chill, bro[/quote]
That’s what She said!
don’t be silly his grandfather isn’t going to replace you as his best friend too!.. his wife will.
OP,
I didn’t finish reading the thread, so most of this has probably been said but…
Yeah, it sucks you got the boot. The day isn’t about you though, so get over it and be there for your friend. Also, you should probably talk about why the guy REALLY got the boot. Doesn’t seem like he should be kicked out of the party, so maybe there’s another reason (hit on the bride or something?) Also, your posts do come across as whiny.
my 2 cents
lol why is this 3 pages.
Anyway here’s my advice:
You need to go to that wedding like a mac. You need to walk in there with a “I put the Boss in Hugo Boss” mentality. That mentality that you’re the man, the main event and someone that’s on a mission. You need to scout. Scout for all the single women at the party; the bride’s maid, the patrons, the invitees, basically anyone that has tits, hair and is single. Then you need to bang 'em all. You have to hook up and slam damn near every single single woman there. Threesome, orgy, I don’t give a fuck - use any means necessary. Then when your friend asks how the wedding was you just say “thanks for not makin me the best man”, smile and get the fuck out to take care of your aching groin.
[quote]Steel Nation wrote:
I read your post, and didn’t see any reasons, just a few vague anecdotes of failed marriages that really have nothing to do with the wedding itself. Obviously if you don’t work at your marriage it’s going to suck and fail. But, just because some people who have weddings get divorced doesn’t mean weddings are stupid or a waste of time/money.
And LOL, $20,000? Yeah, I’m in complete agreement with you that that is a ridiculous amount to spend on a wedding unless you’re making a few hundred grand a year.
A reasonable, fun wedding will pay for itself with the gifts you’ll get from it.[/quote]
He’s pointing out the irony seen in some marriages. The irony being some people put more emphasis on the wedding than on the actual marriage. No one is saying you shouldn’t throw a party to celebrate, the point is not letting that celebration become so distinct that you lose sight of what the celebration stands for.