[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]DJHT wrote:
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.
My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.
Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]
Have to agree with you on this ID, my own personal experience first wife wanted big wastefull wedding and we were divorced after 5 years. Could have used the money spent on wedding for a next egg to help us finacially.
My wife now, we did like you did with your wife. Just had our kids there and my parents. We spent more on securing our future and after 11 years we are happier than ever before.
Everbody knows weddings are for the woman anyway, most yes generalization guys only care about the party aspect that being reception or bach party. [/quote]
Wait a second. You guys aren’t really blaming bad marriages and ugly divorces on weddings, are you? Like, really?
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I don’t think big weddings cause divorces but the lust and pressure for a dream wedding seems like potential for bad decision making when it comes to choosing who’s going to be in the wedding with you. I say that because I know women who fell in love with their wedding plans but not the groom. When someone like that says ‘I do’ she’s not necessarily thinking about the guy, but the dress.