I've Been Bumped from Best Man

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[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:

[quote]Steel Nation wrote:

I read your post, and didn’t see any reasons, just a few vague anecdotes of failed marriages that really have nothing to do with the wedding itself. Obviously if you don’t work at your marriage it’s going to suck and fail. But, just because some people who have weddings get divorced doesn’t mean weddings are stupid or a waste of time/money.

And LOL, $20,000? Yeah, I’m in complete agreement with you that that is a ridiculous amount to spend on a wedding unless you’re making a few hundred grand a year.

A reasonable, fun wedding will pay for itself with the gifts you’ll get from it.[/quote]

He’s pointing out the irony seen in some marriages. The irony being some people put more emphasis on the wedding than on the actual marriage. No one is saying you shouldn’t throw a party to celebrate, the point is not letting that celebration become so distinct that you lose sight of what the celebration stands for.[/quote]

Gettnitdone got it done!

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[quote]Steel Nation wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Steel Nation wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
Weddings may be a blast to some, but I look at the half dozen friends and family whose weddings I attended, and all they did after-the-fact was talk about how awesome their weddings were. Unfortunately if they had put half as much effort into their marriage as they did that wedding, they’d all still be married.

When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later.

My wife and I quietly bought rings, got our marriage certificate, and stood before a judge in City Hall and got married privately. No drunken idiots. No money wasted on bullshit. No family politics. And We’re still married.

Wedding = Big expensive dress-up party just to say “hey, look at us in love, now shower us with gifts!”[/quote]

It’s a good thing you didn’t throw a party to celebrate your marriage (IE a wedding). You’d have probably been divorced years ago.

/sarcasm

People throw parties for all kinds of reasons. Deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone seems like a pretty good reason to me. As long as you aren’t taking on financial hardship to pay for it, then what is the problem?[/quote]

Apparently you didn’t read my reasons above.

Throwing a $20,000 party is like throwing money away. Think what that $20,000 could do with your future.
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I read your post, and didn’t see any reasons, just a few vague anecdotes of failed marriages that really have nothing to do with the wedding itself. Obviously if you don’t work at your marriage it’s going to suck and fail. But, just because some people who have weddings get divorced doesn’t mean weddings are stupid or a waste of time/money.

And LOL, $20,000? Yeah, I’m in complete agreement with you that that is a ridiculous amount to spend on a wedding unless you’re making a few hundred grand a year.

A reasonable, fun wedding will pay for itself with the gifts you’ll get from it.[/quote]

Just think of the 20 Grand as a down payment on the divorce proceedings.

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He probably feels more comfortable with you than his grandfather. He thinks you will understand etc etc. I mean, seriously, you tell your grandfather something, he gets all emotional, are you really going to tell him that you got drunk and blabbered some BS?

Just tell him sometime later that you were pissed off, but decided to not make an issue of it. He will owe you one.

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[quote]debraD wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
When my sister said she was going to get married, my dad offered a choice between having her wedding fully paid for, or a down payment on a house. She and her husband chose the former. They had an very ugly divorce several years later. [/quote]

It always blows me away when this is the choice. Insanity!

We were toying with the idea of getting married years ago and then we started to add it up. We said fuck it, bought a couple of hand made rings from an artist in Vancouver for under $1k and have been content with that.
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This.

My wifes priority was get a house so we can have a dog. Then she got a custom ring for $400, just didn’t have a big gaudy rock. I bought a mountain bike and a $20 silver band. We got married for under $4000 and people still tell us how unique and fun our wedding was 17 years later.

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[quote]jehovasfitness wrote:
you’re been a bitch for making this thread :wink:

what he did is not “bullshit”, get over it. And yes, you are whining[/quote]

Agreed.

A true best friend would be understanding of the choice, support him on one of the most important days in his life, and know that their friendship runs deeper than a simple title at the wedding.

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[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
lol why is this 3 pages.

Anyway here’s my advice:

You need to go to that wedding like a mac. You need to walk in there with a “I put the Boss in Hugo Boss” mentality. That mentality that you’re the man, the main event and someone that’s on a mission. You need to scout. Scout for all the single women at the party; the bride’s maid, the patrons, the invitees, basically anyone that has tits, hair and is single. Then you need to bang 'em all. You have to hook up and slam damn near every single single woman there. Threesome, orgy, I don’t give a fuck - use any means necessary. Then when your friend asks how the wedding was you just say “thanks for not makin me the best man”, smile and get the fuck out to take care of your aching groin.[/quote]

LOL

I’ve already banged multiple women involved with this wedding. But, I roll around with that strut every where I go FOOL!

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Oh come on. Make an old man happy. He probably doesn’t have much else left to live for. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you.

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I could see this being a big deal…if you were a woman.