[quote]zecarlo wrote:
[quote]atypical1 wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
Yep, a lot of parents treat the school like a day care center. Kids get sick all the time because other parents see fit to send their sick-ass kids to school rather than keep them home like they should. Inevitably, they make everybody else sick. Assholes.
That shit pisses me off to no end. It’s biological warfare. Making other people sick because you are to damn lazy to be a parent is just wrong on so many levels. [/quote]
If both parents are working how do they keep a kid with a cold home? And kids get sick all the time. If they stayed home with every sniffle then they would never be in school.
james[/quote]
In some schools that’s a big if. Not just the work part but there being two parents around. I often think that whenever the question of failing education comes up we are lumping every school together. If you took the inner city schools, and whatever their rural counterparts would be, out of the equation I imagine that American schools are not doing as poorly as we think. I went to school in the suburbs. I worked in schools in various ghettos (I even lived in the ghetto so it’s OK for me to use that word. My daughter went to school in the ghetto before we moved to the suburbs. I have seen both worlds, from different angles and they really are two different worlds. You want to fix these under performing schools? Fix the surrounding community. Garbage in, garbage out.
I taught in the inner city and I realized it was not for me because you end up facing a moment of truth so to speak. You get to the point where you can lie to kids and act like things are not as bad as they seem or you can tell them the truth. The truth being that, for most of them, everything their parent(s) tells them is wrong. That their parents are bad examples to follow. How do you do it? You can’t. The schools won’t let you. When a kid is using horrible English and you correct him and he responds that is how his mother speaks, what do you say? That his mother doesn’t speak properly? How do you tell a kid that he needs to do the right thing to avoid being some loser in jail when he has family members in jail? How do you talk about getting a job so you don’t need to depend on welfare (implying welfare is bad) when the kid’s family is on welfare? [/quote]
This is where society is failing. No one wants to admit the truth or take responsibility for anything let along why they are in a certain bad position in life! It is really a disservice to the kids not telling them the truth. The truth often hurts and the PC bullshit needs to go away.
And I agree that it is the garbage surrounding it that is a huge issue and lack of parenting. My first semester in college I had a roommate who explained it pretty well to me. He came from the inner city and we became close friends, so could have some pretty serious discussions about it with feelings being hurt. He put it like this.
In the inner city you have the role models driving up in nice cars, have money, jewelry, and women always around them. But in the poor economic regions, it is never a doctor, lawyer, businessman, or professional of some sorts. It is always a drug dealer, gangbanger, or some other miscreant. And that is who a lot of these kids look up to combined with their messed up home life. Not excuses just reality. So from there how do you combat that? I really have no idea there.