Introducing Sons/Daughters to Lifting

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If anyone is interested my daughter is starting to workout with me on Monday. I’m looking forward to getting her going on a light weight routine (mainly body weight to begin). Thats my “sweetie” on the night of her Junior prom.

16 yrs '5 6" 110lbs very athletic. High school sports girls golf, and swim team. Her goal, to do five pullups on our pull up station before school lets out for the summer, and too firm up abs so she can see abs definition (of course for the bikini at the beach) not so much for training purposes; hey whatever it takes to get her motivated and on her way.

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YoMomma wrote …“When my twin boys were young teenagers, they got me interested in lifting. Now they are in college and play rugby, and no longer want to go to the gym with me when they are at home. Neither does my 23 year old daughter. I’ve gone from cool to embarrassing in a few short years :(”

kids go through ‘phases’…don’t be so hard on yourself. next year they could be like your shadow & you can’t get rid of 'em & you’ll wish it were like now again, go figure!

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My son’s 15 and is well aware the benefits of lifting (he sees me at 45 built better than his highschool buds). Yet he’s not interested in weights. But he does do chins on his doorway bar every week.

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[quote]QuarterTonner wrote:
YoMomma wrote …“When my twin boys were young teenagers, they got me interested in lifting. Now they are in college and play rugby, and no longer want to go to the gym with me when they are at home. Neither does my 23 year old daughter. I’ve gone from cool to embarrassing in a few short years :(”

kids go through ‘phases’…don’t be so hard on yourself. next year they could be like your shadow & you can’t get rid of 'em & you’ll wish it were like now again, go figure![/quote]

Yeah. It’s almost time to take the cover off my J24 and step the mast and paint the bottom. This is the kind of thing we do together, once the racing season starts.

And I’m not hard on myself, just realistic.

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[quote]Yo Momma wrote:
QuarterTonner wrote:
YoMomma wrote …“When my twin boys were young teenagers, they got me interested in lifting. Now they are in college and play rugby, and no longer want to go to the gym with me when they are at home. Neither does my 23 year old daughter. I’ve gone from cool to embarrassing in a few short years :(”

kids go through ‘phases’…don’t be so hard on yourself. next year they could be like your shadow & you can’t get rid of 'em & you’ll wish it were like now again, go figure!

Yeah. It’s almost time to take the cover off my J24 and step the mast and paint the bottom. This is the kind of thing we do together, once the racing season starts.

And I’m not hard on myself, just realistic.

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Yo Momma that is awesome. I wish I could get me kids to have done that when they we’re younger. We have always had sailboats; Catalina 22’ a 32’ Westsail, and now a 33’ Hans Christian. Never could really get them into sailing. They found it to boring. In fact, after about 12 yrs old they didnt want anything to do with it.

As I mentioned above, my deal with my kids has always been being invloved with their sports. And as for my last post, my daughter hasnt worked out with me yet, and my son who is home for spring break hasn’t really even been home. So i’ve struck out with both to-date. My big guy is going back to school to workout with his football team tomorrow, and my daughter starts her spring break tomorrow so I can count on her not being around much next week to workout.

But all is good, I enjoy the thaught of working out with them and for the moment that will just have to do!

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My son has signed up for weight lifting for his freshman year of high school and has been jealous of me since he cannot use the company gym with me. If he is still into weight training after a year of it during HS, I’ll probably wind up getting a full set w/ squatting cage so we can lift together.

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I always ask my dad but at 60 with no prior training he’s convinced he’ll injure himself.

Would be nice too because I can’t find anyone my age seriously into lifting to train with.

You’re all great parents.

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[quote]soldog wrote:
My son has signed up for weight lifting for his freshman year of high school and has been jealous of me since he cannot use the company gym with me. If he is still into weight training after a year of it during HS, I’ll probably wind up getting a full set w/ squatting cage so we can lift together.[/quote]

Dog. dont wait. If he signed up then he’s taken the initiative to lift. At that stage in high school they are still learning their way on how to fit in, and be accepted. What better way to be accepted then to be the guy who is the stud in the weight room. The guys in the gym (and gals)are impressed by this stuff.

Keeping them close is the way to keep them safe and on the right track. Unfortunately, this is not always an easy issue, i dont care where you live in this world today (and i live in paradise) their are problems just waiting for kids. You have an opportunity to keep your son close, help him acheive his goals, and in my opinion more important than anything the ability to due something with him, while keeping him eyeball close. For a couple of hundred bucks you could turn your garage into weight central for him and some of his buddies. This small investment will pay dividends for a lifetime.

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[quote]LiftSmart wrote:
I always ask my dad but at 60 with no prior training he’s convinced he’ll injure himself.

Would be nice too because I can’t find anyone my age seriously into lifting to train with.

You’re all great parents.[/quote]

Ask him to start out slow with working out. Maybe with dumbells and bodyweight excersizes. If you do these excersizes with him he will see he can do these and then maybe he would be willing to “move up” to weights.

Your Dad’s probably a pretty good ol’ Joe, he’s just concerned he might hurt himself and then won’t be able to provide/enjoy his family.

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[quote]Sailorchris wrote:
soldog wrote:
My son has signed up for weight lifting for his freshman year of high school and has been jealous of me since he cannot use the company gym with me. If he is still into weight training after a year of it during HS, I’ll probably wind up getting a full set w/ squatting cage so we can lift together.

Dog. dont wait. If he signed up then he’s taken the initiative to lift. At that stage in high school they are still learning their way on how to fit in, and be accepted. What better way to be accepted then to be the guy who is the stud in the weight room. The guys in the gym (and gals)are impressed by this stuff.

Keeping them close is the way to keep them safe and on the right track. Unfortunately, this is not always an easy issue, i dont care where you live in this world today (and i live in paradise) their are problems just waiting for kids. You have an opportunity to keep your son close, help him acheive his goals, and in my opinion more important than anything the ability to due something with him, while keeping him eyeball close. For a couple of hundred bucks you could turn your garage into weight central for him and some of his buddies. This small investment will pay dividends for a lifetime.

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Thanks for the thoughts Sailor. I’ll give serious thought to getting a set sooner rather than later. Just have to fit it in around the remodel that will happen this summer and the fact that we don’t have a garage. Would need to take over the basement rec room and his mother may not go for that…

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[quote]soldog wrote:

Would need to take over the basement rec room and his mother may not go for that…[/quote]

Get Mom hooked on lifting. Problem solved.

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Is this forum dead?

I still havent worked out with either of my teenage kids yet. Son came home for spring break after all, but we never saw him, so he didnt “want to” workout. My daughter asked me to show her how to use the equipment at our house, and how she could change her eating habits, but she hasnt come into the garage yet, she’s threatened to but hasnt yet. She has been pretty disciplined about eating all her meals throughout the day, and increasing her protien to about 2 times what she used to eat.

I’ll get her in the garage soon though, she wants to but i think its just starting, i’m sure many of you have also gone thru that one before. I know i did, took me years to get over “the start”.

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(al here- the husband)
Your thread is GREAT!! It really touches me on many levels. The obvious one is through memories of asking my own dad to show me how to lift weights when I was 13, but the more recent one is because of my wife! LOL

My wife started training back in July because she finally asked me, “hey, would you mind training me?”

When we started she couldn’t even bench press the bar, and now she does sets and reps with the 45 plates on. I love it when she sits down to bench, and some guy looks over as if to say to her, “miss, you need to take those plates off first.” Then she reps out like a champ. She’s more hardcore than I am. She has made me sooo proud of her.

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[quote]tawney wrote:
(al here- the husband)
Your thread is GREAT!! It really touches me on many levels. The obvious one is through memories of asking my own dad to show me how to lift weights when I was 13, but the more recent one is because of my wife! LOL

My wife started training back in July because she finally asked me, “hey, would you mind training me?”

When we started she couldn’t even bench press the bar, and now she does sets and reps with the 45 plates on. I love it when she sits down to bench, and some guy looks over as if to say to her, “miss, you need to take those plates off first.” Then she reps out like a champ. She’s more hardcore than I am. She has made me sooo proud of her. [/quote]

Hey there Al - the husband

You know i too am very thrilled about being able to workout with my loved ones. You know, i’m goin to say something to you, and i dont want you to take it the wrong way, i saw your wife in a couple of posts last night so i clicked on her avitar to check out the profile, you know she has pic’s in there, dude, i’m very jealous, she rocks. The definition in her arms, legs, back is awesome. If i were you I’d be proud too!

I’d invite you’all to be one of my friends so we can follow one another but i dont know how to do that. Oh, one more thing, how did you get your wife to want to train? My wife is starting to come around, wont touch any weights yet other than db’s, but she is doing a Tabata bike workout I sent to her and she seems to like it. Its forcing her to push herself, and she needs that, but if i do it she’d shut down post haste. Just curious? You can PM me if it more comfortable. Oh, one more thing, Tawney blasted someone in another thread for basically being a wimp, kudos to her, reading that post i know why she is kicking butt in the gym.

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Im 14, and im trying to get my dad into weights. Hes 48. Everytime we go he does machines, but its a start! Once he gets his back 100% i wanna do free weights with him, might buy a 300lb + squat rack + bench press to put in the garage or basement.

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[quote]ahzaz wrote:
Im 14, and im trying to get my dad into weights. Hes 48. Everytime we go he does machines, but its a start! Once he gets his back 100% i wanna do free weights with him, might buy a 300lb + squat rack + bench press to put in the garage or basement.[/quote]

I’m not 48 but I’m 44, and when I went to the gym with my son last year while he was preparing for college football I just watched when he was lifting free weights. Oh, I’d spot him and maybe take a rep or two with less weights, but I was intimidated by the free weights area, and all the guys I thought new something that I didnt. I also happened to be really out of shape with just added to my free weight insecurity.

Get him to buy the weights, go into the garage with him, print some articles from this site, there are also many with videos which will show him technique and form, and then make some kind of blood oath with him to workout togeher until ya both kick it.

He’ll be so jacked up from this you’ll need to find excuses to get out of your workouts with him. Good luck.

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lol thx
yea im planning on buying the weights
gonna get him to go to a doctor soon so he can find out exactly whats wrong with his back, and possibly fix it.

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No kids, but my very athletic (soccer, lacrosse) godson asked me about lifting last summer. I got a weight set and bench for my basement and got him started. He appreciates the changes he sees when he’s at it regularly, but during a season he’s at practice during the afternoon and homework after dinner, so he doesn’t touch the weights.

I told him that this summer we’re going to get more serious about his weight training.

Anecdote: although he’s a gifted athlete, he’s on the slim side. He’s constantly up against larger players, and he’s usually the one in a collision to go bouncing to the ground. Two weeks ago he told me of a lacrosse game in which he collided with an opponent he considered large, and the other guy was the one who rebounded from the collision. He was pleased.

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[quote]ahzaz wrote:
lol thx
yea im planning on buying the weights
gonna get him to go to a doctor soon so he can find out exactly whats wrong with his back, and possibly fix it.[/quote]

Yeah, he should see a doctor about his back. A lot of times its not a skeletal probelm but rather a muscular problem. I too had lower back pain where it felt like my hips were out of alignment and I walked crooked. This happened several times per month and it was hard to walk during this time more or less do anything else. I am not one to go to the chiropractor and get adjusted, although I dont have anything against it i just prefer not to do this, but I did go to one out of desperation and it helped.

It wasn’t so much what he did, he did a deep massage, but rather what he suggested i do. He showed me one stretch, literally one stretch, and told me to do this stretch once a day for a week. In two days i cured my problem and i havent had any back problems since. That was 5 years ago.

The stretch is as simple as simple gets. It consists of sitting on the floor proped up agains a wall or couch with your legs flat on the ground and your back in a verticle position. You begin by stretching the hamstrings by touching your toes, as far as you can SLOWLY. In the begining your range of motion may not allow you to get anywhere close to your toes. Do that for 5 minutes. Then in the same position using the same stretch, lower your head by pulling your chin into your chest, and hold this for a 15-20 second count.

This lowering of the head actually pulls the lower back/hamstring muscles gently and stretches them. You will know if you are doing this excersize correct by the feeling of the stretch. You should feel a light buring sensation it in your glutes, hips, lower back, and hamstrings. Due this excersize a dozen times relaxing a minute or so between each one. This was a miracle cure for my back problems.

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Sailorchris- the way to motivate (I mean TRULY motivate someone else to do something you want them to do is to be willing to get them addicted to it by investing equal time as they would have to. Meaning- I train alonside her every day- first it was just to show her how to do everything, then when she knew how to do the exercises I did it to inspire her to continue down that path until she was addicted. Now 8 months later- she’s hooked and she knows what she’s doing. Mission accomplished.

Al
ps> she set a new free weight bench record for herself today in the gym- 150 flat bench press for 3. For a girl at a bodyweight of 125, I agree that she’s doing killer. She looks huge too because she’s only 5’2" and her arms are very short. She definitely has the right structure for the weightlifting look.

pss> I just noticed her pics in there too!(I actually took most of those for her, lol) …I just added one of myself to her profile too.