[quote]Anthony50 wrote:
This kid got very defensive very fast and I simply told him to go ahead and do it his way then. He failed the assignment while I received full credit. Moral of the story… It’s best not to offer advice if not asked for it.[/quote]
One thing I’ve noticed is that most people are MUCH more defensive when it comes to their brains than their bodies.
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
I understand that people get defensive but I do not understand why that has to be the response. If someone offers me advice I listen and say “thank you”. If it seems worth trying, I will. If not, I will not. No reason to be rude or get defensive.
That said, I try not to just give advice. The best advice I got on this topic was to give advice under the heading, “what works for me…”[/quote]
That depends on who is giving the advice really. I can guarantee that if someone skinny runs up to give me advice during a set, they will not get a super polite response.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
I understand that people get defensive but I do not understand why that has to be the response. If someone offers me advice I listen and say “thank you”. If it seems worth trying, I will. If not, I will not. No reason to be rude or get defensive.
That said, I try not to just give advice. The best advice I got on this topic was to give advice under the heading, “what works for me…”[/quote]
That depends on who is giving the advice really. I can guarantee that if someone skinny runs up to give me advice during a set, they will not get a super polite response.[/quote]
What if his mobility is magnificent?
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
I understand that people get defensive but I do not understand why that has to be the response. If someone offers me advice I listen and say “thank you”. If it seems worth trying, I will. If not, I will not. No reason to be rude or get defensive.
That said, I try not to just give advice. The best advice I got on this topic was to give advice under the heading, “what works for me…”[/quote]
That depends on who is giving the advice really. I can guarantee that if someone skinny runs up to give me advice during a set, they will not get a super polite response.[/quote]
The last advice that was given to me was from a coach in to help a powerlifter. What he said was not all that useful but what he got me thinking about was. He was no top physical specimen but, eh. When he just kept talking I just kept lifting. It ended in a friendly manner.
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
I understand that people get defensive but I do not understand why that has to be the response. If someone offers me advice I listen and say “thank you”. If it seems worth trying, I will. If not, I will not. No reason to be rude or get defensive.
That said, I try not to just give advice. The best advice I got on this topic was to give advice under the heading, “what works for me…”[/quote]
That depends on who is giving the advice really. I can guarantee that if someone skinny runs up to give me advice during a set, they will not get a super polite response.[/quote]
The last advice that was given to me was from a coach in to help a powerlifter. What he said was not all that useful but what he got me thinking about was. He was no top physical specimen but, eh. When he just kept talking I just kept lifting. It ended in a friendly manner.[/quote]
That’s all well and good…but I’m not in the gym to take advice from people who don’t look like they lift seriously or like they ever did.
For instance, there is an older guy at my gym who often came up and gave me advice on bodybuilding. Some was useful, some was not. I always listened though. Why? First, he’s way older then me so I give him that respect…and he used to compete in bodybuilding even though most would just see a short small dude. He isn’t really that small. For being 70, he’s in the gym every day and looks rock solid even though he shrunk.
However, let some 20-something skinny personal trainer bother me during a set and he’s not getting “nice” back in return.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
I understand that people get defensive but I do not understand why that has to be the response. If someone offers me advice I listen and say “thank you”. If it seems worth trying, I will. If not, I will not. No reason to be rude or get defensive.
That said, I try not to just give advice. The best advice I got on this topic was to give advice under the heading, “what works for me…”[/quote]
That depends on who is giving the advice really. I can guarantee that if someone skinny runs up to give me advice during a set, they will not get a super polite response.[/quote]
The last advice that was given to me was from a coach in to help a powerlifter. What he said was not all that useful but what he got me thinking about was. He was no top physical specimen but, eh. When he just kept talking I just kept lifting. It ended in a friendly manner.[/quote]
That’s all well and good…but I’m not in the gym to take advice from people who don’t look like they lift seriously or like they ever did.
For instance, there is an older guy at my gym who often came up and gave me advice on bodybuilding. Some was useful, some was not. I always listened though. Why? First, he’s way older then me so I give him that respect…and he used to compete in bodybuilding even though most would just see a short small dude. He isn’t really that small. For being 70, he’s in the gym every day and looks rock solid even though he shrunk.
However, let some 20-something skinny personal trainer bother me during a set and he’s not getting “nice” back in return.[/quote]
I get that.
[quote]roguevampire wrote:
[quote]Waylander wrote:
[quote]anonym wrote:
ITT: meatheads mad about skinny people being happy with their appearance.
Discuss.[/quote]
People need to realise that building muscle isn’t the be all and end all when it comes to life. If this kid is happy with his body, then you shouldn’t try to push your own body issues onto him. This site does sometimes remind me of a pro-anorexia site, except the opposite extreme.
I have a lot of respect for a skinny person who is comfortable and confident in their own body and i find it funny a lot of people are pissed off that this kid is happy being skinny.[/quote]
If hes happy with being skinny, then why is he in the gym working out? Doesn’t being in the gym mean your trying to improve something about your body? There are exceptions, much much older dudes may just go to stay in shape and keep fit. thats the only exception. But the vast majority of people in the gym are trying to improve something.
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Trying to improve something though does not necessarily go along the lines of training like a bodybuilder. I’ve been given some flak before for not putting enough direct arm work into my routine before, being told I’d go t-rex mode. But the thing is I’m happy with my arms, I think they are growing proportional to my body, and don’t see them needing extra work. But ofcourse some people see this as wrong because in their mind they need to have hyugee arms.
There are many more exceptions than just old people. What about powerlifters? They don’t give a shit about aesthetics. Or how about people who are not trying to train like elite bodybuilders, but just to keep strong and fit. We don’t know this kids goals, for all we know he may be doing a modelling job which requires he has big delts and arms but a small chest. Or maybe he just wants bigger shoulders and isn’t so bothered about a chest. His own goals are up to him, and we shouldn’t push our goals onto him, or be mad that he is happy with how he looks, just because it doesn’t fit in with our idea of perfection.
Now if it were a douchebag who was boasting about how good he was at this exercise and how he looked really big, then yes he would be a twat and we would have a right to be annoyed at him.