I guess I’m thinking of physicality. As opposed to a more solemn, eye-gazing thing. Sex that leaves room for laughter and flipping or being flipped and pushing and such (non-violent).
Now I’m picturing something like: “Okay, next we’re going to run two circles around the outside of the house, jump the stone wall, and then lick each other’s necks!”
Ahah I get it but like I said this is not the most important part of my life by a stretch.
Indeed, indeed, but I’m not looking out for a unicorn either, otherwise I’ll stay single forever. We can be really close friends even without geeky things.
Well, my behaviour was quite idiotic and blinded by love. We dated for a couple of months at the end, but as a career woman who works all the time, it wasn’t what I wanted and it didn’t work
Yes I do. I’m often busy right now well because I’m not just going to sit around at home and do nothing ahahah! I can make the time.
You know you gotta stop the mass phase when you can’t have athletic sex 
I don’t have much advice for you here unfortunately, i married my best friend and that’s basically it for me.
You are successful, hard working, and attractive. Do you think you will find a woman that won’t feel completely outmatched by you if she doesn’t work? IMO, your partners should ‘fit’ you as a person such that one does not outwork/outshine the other… no homo, but you’re a hell of a dude to not be outshined by.
My only real advice here is that a lot of “prerequisites” that people come up with in dating end up painting themselves in a corner where no other puzzle piece fits, if that makes any sense. There will be sacrifices throughout any good relationship, the better the relationship - the more you sacrifice. Know your lines in what you are willing, and not willing, to sacrifice.
I will also say that when i was a single idiot, i completely overthought talking to women. I thought I had to word things just right and put off a specific vibe or I was done for… basically, that i had to perfectly adhere to the woman before even considering talking to her. Now that i’ve been married some time and i’ve written off the idea of talking to any female for reasons that weren’t genuine - i realize that talking to women is literally no different than talking to dudes… they just arent interested in your sports car. Talk to women like you had no intentions of doing anything with them and you’ll find which ones are attracted to you, and which ones you are attracted to.
I don’t think this is an issue at all. It’s not a competition for how much each one works. I know several wealthy men whose wives do not have a job out of the home or some middle class guys whose wives work part time, some in low earning jobs, including one couple who have grown children. Raising kids and taking care of a home is a job in itself.
I didn’t mean it to sound like a competition, moreso in terms of successfulness i guess. Having a wife/partner that stays at home is fine, but i think theres a potential for disconnect before kids/home making is brought into the equation. With no kids or common living space to take care of, i think there’s an inherent imbalance in a couple if one does not work.
Maybe its’ just me though.
(My wife stays home with our daughter)
I get it. I also think that pairing up with someone outside of ones class is not a good idea, though that has more to do with each partners familial background. The couples I mentioned whose wives don’t work, the wives are of middle class backgrounds.
The same goes generally for a man if a woman significantly out earns him. That can be a potentially big problem.
What if the man makes double her salary but she’s way more financially responsible lol asking for a friend of course…
I think pairing outside of ones’ “class” can work, but only if the differences in background/upbringing/lifestyles can be discussed and understood such that it does not create barriers. But i feel this way about every couples’ lifestyles as well… if one partner is an OCD clean freak and the other is a hoarder, they might want to find middle-ground or seek a new partner. Same goes for spending habits, raising children, etc.
I dunno man. You can take this as a compliment perhaps. I think both you and jscrabac could have had wives already, maybe even kids too, by now, if that’s what you truly want. I find it hard to believe that you and him, after meeting or being around enough women, that there was not one good woman for your physical liking you could have had if you truly went for it.
There are ordinary men who find women that match them, even in the modern circus we call a “dating scene.”
@emilyq, as always, explained it well. I didn’t mean to sound as if I was calling you a liar.
This works with my point - if you open with some of the weirder, more quirky things about yourself, and tone back the glam shots, you might find a girl who DOES share some of those interests.
Those pictures you shared do not say anything like “Hi, I’m a good looking guy with a nerdy side who’s looking for a meaningful relationship.” I have had plenty of relations with the type of women who go for those pictures, and none of them were relationship material.
The point is to find a partner who shares some of your interests and gets your looks as a bonus, instead of a partner who cares how you look and puts up with your interests.
First of all, again, it’s 2021 and there are a lot of very good looking women getting into nerdy stuff, from roleplaying to video games, and second of all, the main idea is that broadcasting yourself doing something traditionally “nerdy” like that shows the type of confidence that you can’t manufacture with a filter and an outfit.
Last thing - if you think you have bad teeth (and by bad you just mean crooked and not rotting out of your head, in which case you need to fix that for your personal health immediately because it’s super important) then have one of your pictures be you giving a big ol’ toothy smile and show them crooked bad boys off.
Honestly I’m not really looking for a girl that doesn’t work. It just that she was working way too much (80 hours), and having been alone for a while, she had trouble creating time, but whatever
I completely agree with you. For a few weeks I have been spending quite some time with girls. Last weekend I got invited by 3 girls from my gym to thank me for coaching them and all, and went out with them and 5 other girls yesterday (we were 2 guys…), as well as going on hikes and WODs in the nature with another girl last weekend and this morning.
I used to have zero female aquaintances or friends. Not that I hate women or something it just didn’t happen and these time spent with many women helped me be more confident and normal around them.
Yes, I can think of a couple very good girlfriends I had. But honestly this was more on me. it took me many years to figure my shit out and grow up a bit.
Heh I like this!
I’ll snap some pics next session then ahahah!