So i’ve never had a problem with picking up women. This is Probably because of my looks rather than my personality. I tend to have a very unappealing personality. Anyhow I have a very difficult time making friends. Can you guys give me some times on how I can make friends?
You may have to look at your personality and that of the people you have unsuccessfully tried to be friends with. Not everybody can just be friends with each other for a number of reasons.
I like and get along easily with a lot of people, but only have a couple of very good friends that I can rely on and who know that they can rely on me.
4 Likes
It’s the reliable part that gets ya!
Friends are for people under 25.
10 Likes
Get a dog.
1 Like
If you already know you have an unappealing personality, why don’t you work on that first.
2 Likes
Are you a dick, or awkward, or both?
If you took our investment advice, you would have plenty of friends.
1 Like
Haha would be me 
In many of my cases, it’s environment has been a huge factor, but not always. I also don’t feel a compelling need to make close connections with people.
The people I get along with the most share some interest with me, whether it’s Powerlifting or beards. I personally don’t vibe with people who don’t do something strength-related.
1 Like
Have you considered being someone that someone would want to be friends with?
6 Likes
There are different kinds of friends. Situational friends and general friends. Situational friends are friends from work, gym, shared classes, whatever. You probably have situational friends.
Go do something social with one situational friend you admire as a quality person.
Listen. Never tell their secrets (unless they are a serial killer or something).
Be loyal.
Help out.
Ask for help.
Hang out.
Alternatively, own a pickup. When I owned a pickup, I was everyone’s long-lost friend, when they were moving.
7 Likes
I wasn’t joking or trolling, I really meant my question - do you have a hard time making friends because you’re a dick, or are you just socially awkward? There are two very different approaches in either situation.
1 Like
I’m extremely flaky. After work, lifting, cooking, eating half my life away, I just want to sit down and relax for a couple hours. Its hard to find people at 26 that just want to relax with you everyone wants to party and drink. I’m all for putting some down, but not like these animals.
I left high school with a group of probably 20 good friends, and I’m down to… 3. One lives with me, one is busier than I am, and the last lived 4 hours away.
Dont seek friends, just be available. Dont be a dick. Finding friends truly is difficult at 25 and over.
Not to mention the lifting group tends to be the outcast. I don’t know why, but it seems to be a pattern.
1 Like
Why not find people who are into lifting to hang out with?
1 Like
This is your perception. Just b/c people want to party and drink does not mean they also wouldn’t like to hang out and chill at times.
On the flip side, go and do things that attract people who would rather hang out/chill more often than they’d like to party - and why do you need to have friends your age anyway? Why do they have to be 26? This isn’t school son, be friends with who ever the fuck you want regardless of age (there’s a floor, though … don’t go and hang out with high schoolers ya creep).
3 Likes
Because they’re fucking boring
1 Like
Facts, tried hanging out with lifting buddies outside the gym and all they do is talk about lifting. Like its cool, but if its the only thing that is interesting about you then it becomes dull real quick .
3 Likes
His perception about his peer group in his own area is bound to be more accurate than your presumption about his peer group in his area.
Sorry, that came off as complaining, I’m fine. I’m social as all get out usually, I definitely get along with most people. I’m fine with my 3 good friends.
Just clarifying that you dont just stumble upon a good friend very often in adult life from my experience.
1 Like
Naw, definitely accurate.
Most people around my age that I know are drunk messes, and in my area most dudes are chain-smoking hipsters (speaking general population dudes) who don’t even lift.
When I was single and dating around, anything barbell related is considered “crossfit” and girls ask dumb shit like “durr so how much you lift?”, and I constantly got dumb questions about bench arch from women who’ve never even picked up pink 1lb dumbbells.
1 Like