[quote]TDub301 wrote:
If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]
I can’t speak for others; but I want nothing to do with someone that gets their laughs like that. It reveals character. [/quote]
I happened to have thought the same thing.[/quote]
That’s fine, but I’m operating under the pretense that they are married. Which means that if he’s the trolling type, his wife has already accepted what would widely be seen as a character flaw and decided to stick with him anyway, which negates everyone’s hindsight talk. Unless it’s out of character for him, like I mentioned.[/quote]
That’s great, point definitely taken. I look at it this way - regardless of character traits or flaws, it seems to me that they weren’t forthright with what they were doing.
[quote]MsM wrote:
I Come To You With A Hypothetical
Good day, T-Nationers. I was wondering if you all would be kind enough to give me your perspectives on a hypothetical situation that I was discussing with someone recently. We both had differing opinions so I would like to hear from people who are not biased what their instincts tell them about what happened.
The hypothetical text will go as follows:
Person 1: Is there a gay option for tinder?
Person 2: I’m assuming this is ____ haha, and yes, my roommate uses it. Why?
Person 1: It was ____ either way but yeah, it’s me. I want to make a profile to troll.
Person 2: You will probably see a lot of dicks I assume.
Person 1: You can post dick pics? Awesome.
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How hypothetical is this text? And what’s up with the game of Hangman?
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The text itself was real. It would be hypothetical in the sense that I’m asking everyone collectively what they would think if they were in this situation. It wasn’t involving me directly but someone that I know.
Hangman? Why not? lol[/quote]
So it’s not really hypothetical - more a case of ‘names have been changed to protect the innocent’. OK. Hypothetically speaking then, if I was in that situation, I’d want to know who the mystery confidante is.
Seems dangerous. I mean, people freak out if your FB relationship status doesn’t reflect EXACTLY theirs. Like, having to explain “It’s complicated”. If you have to explain “It’s complicated”, that’s pretty indicative of it being friggin’ complicated.
Grindr? That’s the random hookup sex app right? That’s NOT a dating site, that’s a hookup app. The only one below it in terms of inappropriate “dating” site is Ashley-Madison - if he get’s on that, question the trolling motivation.
And how awesome is your junk when you want to show it to an entire population of people you do NOT prefer?
[quote]talc wrote:
Seems dangerous. I mean, people freak out if your FB relationship status doesn’t reflect EXACTLY theirs. Like, having to explain “It’s complicated”. If you have to explain “It’s complicated”, that’s pretty indicative of it being friggin’ complicated.
Grindr? That’s the random hookup sex app right? That’s NOT a dating site, that’s a hookup app. The only one below it in terms of inappropriate “dating” site is Ashley-Madison - if he get’s on that, question the trolling motivation.
And how awesome is your junk when you want to show it to an entire population of people you do NOT prefer? [/quote]
lol When you put it that way…I’m pretty sure it’s Tinder but if Grindr is worse, I don’t even want to know.
And that last sentence completely puts it into perspective, doesn’t it?
[quote]MsM wrote:
I Come To You With A Hypothetical
Good day, T-Nationers. I was wondering if you all would be kind enough to give me your perspectives on a hypothetical situation that I was discussing with someone recently. We both had differing opinions so I would like to hear from people who are not biased what their instincts tell them about what happened.
The hypothetical text will go as follows:
Person 1: Is there a gay option for tinder?
Person 2: I’m assuming this is ____ haha, and yes, my roommate uses it. Why?
Person 1: It was ____ either way but yeah, it’s me. I want to make a profile to troll.
Person 2: You will probably see a lot of dicks I assume.
Person 1: You can post dick pics? Awesome.
[/quote]
How hypothetical is this text? And what’s up with the game of Hangman?
[/quote]
The text itself was real. It would be hypothetical in the sense that I’m asking everyone collectively what they would think if they were in this situation. It wasn’t involving me directly but someone that I know.
Hangman? Why not? lol[/quote]
So it’s not really hypothetical - more a case of ‘names have been changed to protect the innocent’. OK. Hypothetically speaking then, if I was in that situation, I’d want to know who the mystery confidante is.
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Maybe you would feel better if I told you that my thread title was changed.
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Never appropriate[/quote]
One exception I could think of:
You and your chick are bored one night and both make e-harmony profiles in order to see if you show up in each other’s suggested matches.
(You won’t and she will cry, but such is life.)
But the rules would have to be something like:
both create the account together
both know user name and password
both close account after set amount of time, with the other person present
You know, thinking about it. Fuck that. Not worth the trouble it could cause.
Yeah, never appropriate. [/quote]
My wife joined some dating site a few years ago because her best friend (single) was using to find men and my wife was nosey and wanted to look at their profiles so she could gossip, or give her opinion on whether she thought he might be a serial killer, or whatever it is women do. My wife told me straight up what she was doing and gave me the login details and would often show me the profiles of whoever it was her friend was dating etc.
I thought it was a bit sus to start with so I logged in from time to time but she never sent messages or replied to the ones she got, all seemed pretty innocent and acceptable to me in the end.
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I have a friend that does this to keep tabs on who her single girlfriends are “e-mingling” with. Not sure I buy it though, its kind of like posting your resume on monster or career builder while employed. You wouldnt be doing it unless you were open to an upgrade. Even more suspect with these sites if the person has a completed profile(pictures, hobbies, etc.)
[quote]MsM wrote:
I Come To You With A Hypothetical
Good day, T-Nationers. I was wondering if you all would be kind enough to give me your perspectives on a hypothetical situation that I was discussing with someone recently. We both had differing opinions so I would like to hear from people who are not biased what their instincts tell them about what happened.
The hypothetical text will go as follows:
Person 1: Is there a gay option for tinder?
Person 2: I’m assuming this is ____ haha, and yes, my roommate uses it. Why?
Person 1: It was ____ either way but yeah, it’s me. I want to make a profile to troll.
Person 2: You will probably see a lot of dicks I assume.
Person 1: You can post dick pics? Awesome.
So, this would be the husband. His wife would find the text and ask him why he is joining a dating site. He would play it off like it was a joke and he wasn’t really going to do it.
What I would like to know is, is it ever appropriate for a spouse to join a dating site, whether seriously or as a joke? Would you be really upset by this or would you blow it off as no big deal? Is there no reason to be concerned or is there?
If possible, I’d like answers from men and women. Thanks![/quote]
Someone in the married age category is too old to “troll”. Your “friend” is probably bi and most certainly looking for outside sex.
FFS; he should just talk to his wife about having a sexually open marriage as opposed to this childish shit!
[quote]TDub301 wrote:
The only question I’d have is the motivation. He said he wants to troll, and it wouldn’t surprise me to see people who have fun trolling in general and would start a gay profile for that purpose.
But if it’s out of character to do something like that, then big questions start to arise.
If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]
I’m not even entirely sure. I think it would have been as a joke but who knows? It’s certainly not out of the normal realm for this person to joke around and be silly but…well, I’m not sure. lol Sometimes you just never know what people are doing.[/quote]
It all sounds pretty shady to me either way.
Although, trolling as… I don’t know…maybe as an Ermine, is pretty cool. At least it was a long time ago
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Never appropriate[/quote]
One exception I could think of:
You and your chick are bored one night and both make e-harmony profiles in order to see if you show up in each other’s suggested matches.
(You won’t and she will cry, but such is life.)
But the rules would have to be something like:
both create the account together
both know user name and password
both close account after set amount of time, with the other person present
You know, thinking about it. Fuck that. Not worth the trouble it could cause.
Yeah, never appropriate. [/quote]
My wife joined some dating site a few years ago because her best friend (single) was using to find men and my wife was nosey and wanted to look at their profiles so she could gossip, or give her opinion on whether she thought he might be a serial killer, or whatever it is women do. My wife told me straight up what she was doing and gave me the login details and would often show me the profiles of whoever it was her friend was dating etc.
I thought it was a bit sus to start with so I logged in from time to time but she never sent messages or replied to the ones she got, all seemed pretty innocent and acceptable to me in the end.
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I have a friend that does this to keep tabs on who her single girlfriends are “e-mingling” with. Not sure I buy it though, its kind of like posting your resume on monster or career builder while employed. You wouldnt be doing it unless you were open to an upgrade. Even more suspect with these sites if the person has a completed profile(pictures, hobbies, etc.) [/quote]
It’s definitely pushing the envelope. Like you have a relationship but you’re still looking to see if a better option comes along.
[quote]MsM wrote:
I Come To You With A Hypothetical
Good day, T-Nationers. I was wondering if you all would be kind enough to give me your perspectives on a hypothetical situation that I was discussing with someone recently. We both had differing opinions so I would like to hear from people who are not biased what their instincts tell them about what happened.
The hypothetical text will go as follows:
Person 1: Is there a gay option for tinder?
Person 2: I’m assuming this is ____ haha, and yes, my roommate uses it. Why?
Person 1: It was ____ either way but yeah, it’s me. I want to make a profile to troll.
Person 2: You will probably see a lot of dicks I assume.
Person 1: You can post dick pics? Awesome.
So, this would be the husband. His wife would find the text and ask him why he is joining a dating site. He would play it off like it was a joke and he wasn’t really going to do it.
What I would like to know is, is it ever appropriate for a spouse to join a dating site, whether seriously or as a joke? Would you be really upset by this or would you blow it off as no big deal? Is there no reason to be concerned or is there?
If possible, I’d like answers from men and women. Thanks![/quote]
Someone in the married age category is too old to “troll”. Your “friend” is probably bi and most certainly looking for outside sex.
FFS; he should just talk to his wife about having a sexually open marriage as opposed to this childish shit![/quote]
[quote]TDub301 wrote:
The only question I’d have is the motivation. He said he wants to troll, and it wouldn’t surprise me to see people who have fun trolling in general and would start a gay profile for that purpose.
But if it’s out of character to do something like that, then big questions start to arise.
If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]
I’m not even entirely sure. I think it would have been as a joke but who knows? It’s certainly not out of the normal realm for this person to joke around and be silly but…well, I’m not sure. lol Sometimes you just never know what people are doing.[/quote]
It all sounds pretty shady to me either way.
Although, trolling as… I don’t know…maybe as an Ermine, is pretty cool. At least it was a long time ago :)[/quote]
I know! That was back when it was fun here. Not so much anymore. Every now and again I poke my head in and sometimes debate a training log but then…ya, I just end up leaving for my groups on facebook and you know what? It’s not even fun there. It’s depressing, really.
[quote]MsM wrote:
I Come To You With A Hypothetical
Good day, T-Nationers. I was wondering if you all would be kind enough to give me your perspectives on a hypothetical situation that I was discussing with someone recently. We both had differing opinions so I would like to hear from people who are not biased what their instincts tell them about what happened.
The hypothetical text will go as follows:
Person 1: Is there a gay option for tinder?
Person 2: I’m assuming this is ____ haha, and yes, my roommate uses it. Why?
Person 1: It was ____ either way but yeah, it’s me. I want to make a profile to troll.
Person 2: You will probably see a lot of dicks I assume.
Person 1: You can post dick pics? Awesome.
[/quote]
How hypothetical is this text? And what’s up with the game of Hangman?
[/quote]
The text itself was real. It would be hypothetical in the sense that I’m asking everyone collectively what they would think if they were in this situation. It wasn’t involving me directly but someone that I know.
Hangman? Why not? lol[/quote]
So it’s not really hypothetical - more a case of ‘names have been changed to protect the innocent’. OK. Hypothetically speaking then, if I was in that situation, I’d want to know who the mystery confidante is.
[/quote]
Maybe you would feel better if I told you that my thread title was changed.
[quote]Der_Steppenwolfe wrote:
@ the OP: How hypothetical is this question anyway? As in have you done this yourself?[/quote]
Did I join a dating site while I was married? No.
Someone that my husband and I both know was the subject of my post. He never did join, as far as I know. Not that I really pursued the issue. It was hypothetical in the sense that I was asking you (other posters) what you would hypothetically do if this was you or you knew someone in that position.
[quote]TDub301 wrote:
The only question I’d have is the motivation. He said he wants to troll, and it wouldn’t surprise me to see people who have fun trolling in general and would start a gay profile for that purpose.
But if it’s out of character to do something like that, then big questions start to arise.
If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]
I’m not even entirely sure. I think it would have been as a joke but who knows? It’s certainly not out of the normal realm for this person to joke around and be silly but…well, I’m not sure. lol Sometimes you just never know what people are doing.[/quote]
It all sounds pretty shady to me either way.
Although, trolling as… I don’t know…maybe as an Ermine, is pretty cool. At least it was a long time ago :)[/quote]
I know! That was back when it was fun here. Not so much anymore. Every now and again I poke my head in and sometimes debate a training log but then…ya, I just end up leaving for my groups on facebook and you know what? It’s not even fun there. It’s depressing, really.[/quote]
Well, so much for being clever…
Anyway, you and I used to talk pretty regularly before you bailed 4-5 years ago and I (RonG) just wanted to say “Hi” I’m really happy for you and AK. Honestly.
Not to mention that I would’ve lost a shit-ton of money if I had made that bet…
Well then, to answer your query as honestly as I can…
…I dunno. I mean, I’m a psychotic. I’d probably have started yelling and breaking things and then got so pissed off with myself for yelling and breaking things that I needed to go sit quietly and think of puppy dogs and kittens for a while.
[quote]Der_Steppenwolfe wrote:
@ the OP: How hypothetical is this question anyway? As in have you done this yourself?[/quote]
Did I join a dating site while I was married? No.
Someone that my husband and I both know was the subject of my post. He never did join, as far as I know. Not that I really pursued the issue. It was hypothetical in the sense that I was asking you (other posters) what you would hypothetically do if this was you or you knew someone in that position.
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If that text is real (like you said), she should find out who the guy is texting.
[quote]TDub301 wrote:
The only question I’d have is the motivation. He said he wants to troll, and it wouldn’t surprise me to see people who have fun trolling in general and would start a gay profile for that purpose.
But if it’s out of character to do something like that, then big questions start to arise.
If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]
I’m not even entirely sure. I think it would have been as a joke but who knows? It’s certainly not out of the normal realm for this person to joke around and be silly but…well, I’m not sure. lol Sometimes you just never know what people are doing.[/quote]
It all sounds pretty shady to me either way.
Although, trolling as… I don’t know…maybe as an Ermine, is pretty cool. At least it was a long time ago :)[/quote]
I know! That was back when it was fun here. Not so much anymore. Every now and again I poke my head in and sometimes debate a training log but then…ya, I just end up leaving for my groups on facebook and you know what? It’s not even fun there. It’s depressing, really.[/quote]
Well, so much for being clever…
Anyway, you and I used to talk pretty regularly before you bailed 4-5 years ago and I (RonG) just wanted to say “Hi” I’m really happy for you and AK. Honestly.
Not to mention that I would’ve lost a shit-ton of money if I had made that bet…
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Ha! Hi and thanks very much. It’s appreciated. Hope you’re doing well these days.
