Hypothetical: Spouse Joins Dating Site

I Come To You With A Hypothetical

Good day, T-Nationers. I was wondering if you all would be kind enough to give me your perspectives on a hypothetical situation that I was discussing with someone recently. We both had differing opinions so I would like to hear from people who are not biased what their instincts tell them about what happened.

The hypothetical text will go as follows:

Person 1: Is there a gay option for tinder?
Person 2: I’m assuming this is ____ haha, and yes, my roommate uses it. Why?
Person 1: It was ____ either way but yeah, it’s me. I want to make a profile to troll.
Person 2: You will probably see a lot of dicks I assume.
Person 1: You can post dick pics? Awesome.

So, this would be the husband. His wife would find the text and ask him why he is joining a dating site. He would play it off like it was a joke and he wasn’t really going to do it.

What I would like to know is, is it ever appropriate for a spouse to join a dating site, whether seriously or as a joke? Would you be really upset by this or would you blow it off as no big deal? Is there no reason to be concerned or is there?

If possible, I’d like answers from men and women. Thanks!

I’m confused.

Why is some woman’s husband joining Grindr and looking forward to posting cock pics?

Male / 50 yrs old

It is never appropriate…
I would begin plans to end the relationship…

It’s not appropriate. The guy is gay. Whether you are okay with that or not is up to you (hypothetically).

[quote]BlueCollarTr8n wrote:
Male / 50 yrs old

It is never appropriate…
I would begin plans to end the relationship…[/quote]

Sounds like he has.

Never appropriate

Not appropriate, although I think there’s a bigger conversation that needs to be had.

[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Never appropriate[/quote]

One exception I could think of:

You and your chick are bored one night and both make e-harmony profiles in order to see if you show up in each other’s suggested matches.

(You won’t and she will cry, but such is life.)

But the rules would have to be something like:

  1. both create the account together
  2. both know user name and password
  3. both close account after set amount of time, with the other person present

You know, thinking about it. Fuck that. Not worth the trouble it could cause.

Yeah, never appropriate.

[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Never appropriate[/quote]

One exception I could think of:

You and your chick are bored one night and both make e-harmony profiles in order to see if you show up in each other’s suggested matches.

(You won’t and she will cry, but such is life.)

But the rules would have to be something like:

  1. both create the account together
  2. both know user name and password
  3. both close account after set amount of time, with the other person present

You know, thinking about it. Fuck that. Not worth the trouble it could cause.

Yeah, never appropriate. [/quote]

My girlfriend and I were going to do something like this and about 10 seconds after the idea came up we realized how terrible of a situation it is.

[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Never appropriate[/quote]

One exception I could think of:

You and your chick are bored one night and both make e-harmony profiles in order to see if you show up in each other’s suggested matches.

(You won’t and she will cry, but such is life.)

But the rules would have to be something like:

  1. both create the account together
  2. both know user name and password
  3. both close account after set amount of time, with the other person present

You know, thinking about it. Fuck that. Not worth the trouble it could cause.

Yeah, never appropriate. [/quote]

Holy fuck.

That might be the dumbest idea I’ve ever heard of.

There is absolutely no possible good that comes of that.

Definitely not acceptable for either spouse to join a dating site while in a serious relationship. If the profile was made prior to the relay, then of course what can you do but trust its not being used.

If the spouse is interested in switch hitting and digs things like donghunter.com or hotclams.com… the relay should be seriously discussed in full and plans layed out on the table. LOL

[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

That might be the dumbest idea I’ve ever heard of.

[/quote]

I don’t know… I’ve done some shit in my life that makes that seem tame man, don’t speak too soon, lol.

I mean, college in general was a string of dumb ideas interwoven with a handful of good ones. IE: bringing home girls and wearing zero protection… Townies too…

I suppose if one worked for a periodical and was assigned to write an article about dating online then ,yeah. Full disclosure about the job, of course.

So to answer your question; go ahead and upload your gay profile but you’re a dick for doing it.

There is always Analog Kid.

The only question I’d have is the motivation. He said he wants to troll, and it wouldn’t surprise me to see people who have fun trolling in general and would start a gay profile for that purpose.

But if it’s out of character to do something like that, then big questions start to arise.

If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.

[quote]TDub301 wrote:
The only question I’d have is the motivation. He said he wants to troll, and it wouldn’t surprise me to see people who have fun trolling in general and would start a gay profile for that purpose.

But if it’s out of character to do something like that, then big questions start to arise.

If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]

I can’t speak for women, but I’m not sure the kind of guy they want to date is one who fucks with gay guys to get his jollies. The main issue in that situation is he’s a huge tool.

Thank you for the replies, everyone!

I’m at the age now where many of my friends/acquaintances are separating/divorcing and for some pretty wild reasons. Usually, my husband and I will have a conversation about what would you do if? We had completely polar reactions and I was curious as to what “everyone else” thought.

Continue on with thoughts for anyone that would like to. I’m still following.

[quote]MaximusB wrote:
There is always Analog Kid.[/quote]

Yes, there is and he’s completely awesome and will be home in about 2.5 hours.

[quote]TDub301 wrote:
If the intention is just to get a few laughs at gay guys’ expense and the individual isn’t actually trying to find a side-piece or come out of the closet, I’m not sure why it would be an issue.[/quote]

I can’t speak for others; but I want nothing to do with someone that gets their laughs like that. It reveals character.

[quote]MsM wrote:

Yes, there is and he’s completely awesome and will be home in about 2.5 hours.[/quote]

Hey Sugar, glad to hear all is well. Good on ya’.