She may be a keeper, but you sure aren’t! What a jerk! You don’t steal someone else’s girl, period. If she can’t figure out that her current bf is a jerk and to leave him, she’s not a keeper. Just continue with the friendship and if you two are truly compatible, things will develop without you trying to steal her. How old are? Fifteen. Sheesh!
Even if she chooses you are still stealing. Suppose you marry this woman and a few years down the line someone “steals” her from you–hey, she chose him. Get the picture? It doesn’t matter whether she chooses. If you your intention is to undermine someone else’s relationship, you’re a jerk. Period.
As for rescuing a “damsel in distress,” go ahead if you feel the need for a codependent relationship with a woman who is so immature and emotionally inscure that she needs someone like you to make her life worth living. Just don’t be surprised if a some day in the not too distant future you find yourself tired of her clinging, etc. Try growing up and then go find another grown up and put this high school dating nonsense behind you.
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Happy Stealing!
Keep it coming MCC! I like what you had to say. I’m not sure when I’m going to see her next (probably Monday) but sometimes it feels like I’ve run out of things to ask/talk-to her about. Lately, she’s been doing most of the asking i.e. “what do you think about this”, “how has this been going”, etc. What are your thoughts on asking her about her future goals since some of her future goals may or may not involve her b/f?
HAHAHAHA!! WOW! MCC WHAT GREAT ADVICE!!! You’re telling him how to steal someone’s gf by putting on a facade of a “real man”. Bravo. But this I ponder, what happens when/if he gets her then what will he do with his “real man” facade? Will you tell him exactly what to say then?
Bro, get her talking about her childhood room (unless she had a real tough life, then you’d use a different tact). Ask her, “So what did your room look like when you were growing up?” Then ask her to, “Draw me a picture with words.” (You can use this “Draw me a picture with words” often and for many situations.) As she’s speaking, occasionally close your eyes. Say, “I am imagining what you are telling me. You were very creative as a child, weren’t you?” Ask her if she has any creative pursuits. If she says no, then say, “I’d say your bodybuilding is an excellent creative pursuit.” Tell her how the human body is the most beautiful piece of art. Tell her how sculpting her body makes her an artist. After all, you can’t think of anything more beautiful than her body. Then tell her how she is better than any piece of art because she has a mind too, and feelings. Make her understand that while you admire her beautiful piece of art (her body), you also adore her mind (the artist inside). Don’t be bashful. Be slightly erotic, without being pornographic. Instead of touching, talk about caressing. Instead of looking, talk of admiring and adoring. Explain to her that sometimes you feel awkard just staring at her, but yet you can’t help it. Also keep up with the eye contact. Tell her that you feel as if you see the artist inside her mind. Tell her that you are afraid sometimes when you look into your eyes … tell her you feel as if you are just being overwhelmed by what you see. Be sincere. Continually make eye contact. Always, always, make her feel like a subject (person with feelings), not some object you want to poke a hole in. Got it?
Bro, there is a profound link between language and thought. What you say and how you act, is often what you become. Our comrade needed a little advice. He needed to learn about being sensitive, about percieving the deeper side of a woman. I am offering him this help. I had to learn the hard way - and over many tears! I have made it one of my pursuits to help others not re-live my mistakes. So be easy on the guy. He is really making a good faith effort to obtain what he wants, damn the costs (such as pissing off a soon to be ex-boyfriend.)
By the way, I am sick of hearing about “stealing” a girlfriend. Girls are not property. They are people. I am trying to help G better relate to girls. What’s so wrong about that?
Some thoughts: (i’ll have to think about this some more)
Don’t get played for a fool. That being said, go practice with her or do something else athletic with her. I read somewhere that elevating heartrate has something to with sex appeal. How often do you see her?
All’s fair I say, and I have to say it, I did it.
Be yourself. Only use MCC’s words if you feel them. Any of the under handed sabotage crap will come back on you, and it’s not very honorable, nor loyal. You want to be a better man then the other guy, right?
It is kinda shady to “steal” someones girl, I’d say try and approach that isn’t stealing – be honest, upfront and tell her you know you can offer her more than her current b/f. If it works out you have not done anything dishonest or wrong and have not “stolen” her. Good luck, outlaw.
Stay away from here! Can a court convict a
defendant if only the prosecution presents
their side and the defense does not have a
chance to defend their side? You have heard
one side and rush to make a decision that this
man is wrong and a jerk. And you may have
witnessed parts of events that you think are
“evidence”. But you might be wrong and
he might be a nice guy and she might be a
total fruitloop. For her to speak lashon hora
about her BF, especially to another man,
tells me she is possibly immature, egocentric,
seeking attention, and potentially unstable.
Who says 3 months down the line she won’t do
this to you? Superficially, as you write,
she may be a “real keeper” but you may find,
as your probe deeper, that she is a “real
pscyho chiquita nutbag”. I mean, how many
psycho chicks come off totally psycho in
the start of a new relationship? NONE! They
are on their best behavior until they rope
you in and then their head spins around
like Linda Blair and green shit flies out of
their mouths all why they keep saying, “fuck
me, fuck me!” If you go after her while she
is still with this guy and if you consciously
interfere in any manner of their relationship,
you have broken the “Guy Code” and if this
guy comes after you with an aluminun baseball
bat and plays Barry Bonds on your face, you
deserve it my friend. You don’t tug on
Superman’s cape, you don’t spit in to the
wind, you don’t pull the mask off the old
Lone Ranger and you don’t, EVER, NEVER, mess
with another man’s woman!!! You will
surely get “Reauxchambeuxd” ala Eric Cartman
from South Park if you try to poach from
another man’s game preserve. Hunt elsewhere,
there are tons of single, yummy women
everywhere!!! Shit, now that I am married,
I run across more eligible tail than I
could imagine. Good looking, intelligent,
hardbody, yum yum, tail too!!! See, well,
Satan is now testing me, but I am on it!!!
Yep…So sayeth David’s 23rd Psalm adapted by Brock…
1 The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want other men’s women.
2 He maketh me to lie down with single fitness bunnies: he leadeth me into sexual concourse with them.
3 He restoreth my libido: he leadeth me in the paths of orgasmic bliss for my own sake.
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley created by two fat chicks blocking out the sun, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; my rod yes my shaft, it doth conforts me.
5 Thou preparest a hottie before me in the presence of bar trollops: thou anointest “my head” with a water based lubricant; and to wit, my load makes her mouth runneth over.
6 Surely good sex shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the in a state of bliss forever. Hallelujah!!! Can I get an “AMEN” TMAG brothers and sisters?!?
You guys want to see me pen an “Atomic Dawgie
Dawg”? Just sent TC and Chris a “Hell Yes!!!”.
Brock
Ever since your instructions on cunnilingus I’ve wanted to see a guest Atomic Dog. Count me in.
TC says to send a Guest Atomic Dog in, and if it’s good, he’ll run it. Ball’s in your court.
All televangelism aside, I agree with Brock. I never had any respect for any woman that I could “steal” from someone else. Also, I always felt like I would feel guilty about doing that to a fellow man. My circular reasoning goes something like this: No pussy is worth screwing over some guy for. If the pussy is worth screwing someone over for, then she really isn’t worth it because she was willing to go along with it. On top of that, her morals would probably allow her to screw YOU over later when it suits her fancy. Confused yet?
Ha! All pussy is worth screwing some guy over for. And you don’t even know the guy, fuck 'em! The guy with the best game wins, don’t hate the player, hate the game.
its funny when people are racists on one thread then speak of morality and whats right and wrong, or when they are soooo religious on one thread and then twist religious text to support their views. anyway she will not be a keeper so don’t go into this thinking she will be, she will do the same to you so don’t think she won’t. but to get her you need to be the good friend, listen to her stupid drivel, laugh at her dumb stories, don’t act too interested in her but drop compliments occasionaly (kinda like you don’t want to say anything because she is with someone but you can’t help it) after she tells you her man is getting pissed about you give her some space, then after a fight with her man she will call you, get together, puff some, drink some and bone some. it does work. but I hope for your sake you can take her man because if he is a man he will come after you, for his sake I hope he kicks your ass, but I don’t realy care that much either way. peace
Many here are very naive, if you don’t think half the girls you dated didn’t have a boyfriend when you met them you are very mistaken. If you win over a girl with a boyfriend, she and her ex weren’t met to be. That you aren’t an associate of any kind with her guy makes it all good. If your conscience is bothering you, don’t push up on her too hard til she breaks up with ol’ boy, but let her know your interested, just throw in a lustful look her way a time or two when you know she is going to catch you. Don’t ogle, but make sure she catches you checking her out. Then she’ll know you want more than just a pal. And don’t listen to this “she’s not a keeper” shit from these guys. Some relationships were meant to fail, if not we would all be married to our high school sweethearts.
Its been some time since I updated any of you, so here it goes! I talked to her today in the gym (the last time I talked to her was 2 weeks ago about an issue that was really personal to her)
MCC would be proud of me cause we’ve had the best talk we’ve ever had (talked for about an hour after the place closed, just the two of us in an empty gym) and it was pretty deep (talked about childhood, goals, things like that) and it confirmed what I felt two and a half years ago when I first met her… We’re cut from the same piece of fabric. Anyways, aside from our great conversation about our lives, hopes and goals, there was only 1 problem.
Three little words from her after I asked her “Whats New”… What three little words you might ask… “I GOT ENGAGED.”
I’m cannot change my hero-aka-rescuer personality so I am completely at a loss. I got the feeling that she wasn’t really sure of her decision.
Love is blind, but sometimes I wonder why I ignore the ‘light’ and walk into oncoming trains. I guess its too late now, I’ll just keep walking until it derails (the miracle) or it plasters me (more likely).
Any thoughts?
Move to Europe, that’s what I did.