Your husband brings an alcoholic vagrant around his wife and FOUR CHILDREN and then leaves town?!?!?
It’s time for him to wake up. You dont solve a persons problem w/ a quick soloution like that. He didnt get in trouble overnight, he wont get out that way
You should never ever give someone like that access to your children, there’s no telling what kind of issues this guy is dealing with.
Protect yourself and your kids, then smack hubby upside the head![/quote]
Hopefully he will learn his lesson. I told him this is the last time we help someone. It is the small town attitude. Someone in town ask my husband to hire him because we are clearing some land and he is an umemployeed logger. He was suppose to be sober. My husband told him he could live in a cabin about 1/2 mile from our house for a few months to help him get on his feet.
Monday morning before my husband left he gave him his last paycheck and told him to move out. He figure with the money for alcohol he would leave us alone. We have never seen any evidence of him being violent. We did not know about what he said to the neighbors Monday night. I am a little upset my husband didn’t cancel his meeting and come home.
I talk to a police officer today about a gun permit. My husband has taught all 4 kids to shoot the shot gun but not me.
I have told a couple of the neighbors what is going on and to keep a lookout for him. The police are patroling my street regularly.
My husband will be home tonight.
[quote]Yo Momma wrote:
You seem to be doing the right and legal things to protect yourself and your family. It is a terrible thing to feel unsafe in your own home, but the more people who are aware of this situation, the better.
No one wants a violent drunk with a chainsaw in their community. Stupid drunks leave a wide, dirty trail, so he will be caught soon. In the meantime, go to your local gun club and learn to shoot. I’m sure your children are educated about safe gun use, living in a rural community where many people hunt. Have a small .22 rifle handy and knowing implicitly how to use it wouldn’t hurt either. My thoughts are with you. Take care.[/quote]
[quote]hedo wrote:
cvb wrote:
FightinIrish26 wrote:
I’m no cop, but there’s a crime in there somewhere. Most likely terroristic threats, public drunkeness, etc.
Make sure the cops are around to protect you. Get a restraining order- if he has any guns, they’ll take them from him.
My husband plans on getting the restraining order on Wednesday. He gets home late tomorrow night. Scott was hanging out at the town store earlier today. I am going to go there tomorrow to see if anyone else heard him threaten us.
Don’t shoot someone unless your life is in danger. Know what that means in your state. You may have a “duty to retreat”.
A gun should only be used to save your life or that of someone else from being killed. Don’t ever threaten someone with a gun. Keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to pull it and not before. Learn how to use it before you have to depend on it to save your life.
Finally all things being considered a gun is your last line of defense after other alternatives have been tried. Better to retreat then to kill if possible. Less loss life and a lot less hassle. If you have to use the gun, know the rules.
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I definitely don’t want to kill someone. But in NH if he breaks into my home, I can.
[quote]Zap Branigan wrote:
Ghost22 wrote:
Isn’t it nice when helping others pays off?
That sounds like a shitty deal you’ve got, stay safe.
It is shitty. The guy is probably mentally ill and combined with his alcoholism he seems to be a dangerous man.
Unfortunately there is almost no way to help these people directly. I think it is best to try to do it through volunteer work and donations to the various homeless shelters etc.
You must keep your family safe. Do not let thse people near your house or your family.
Best of luck to you. I hope some people can learn from your mistake and I hope you stay safe.
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I don’t know if he is mentally ill but I have heard he had a rough childhood. He is older than 40 so it is time to get over his childhood.
[quote]Brawan wrote:
You said you have a shotgun but are not sure how to use it, well thats ok. I know if someone points a shotty at me I shit myself nd remember also a shotty makes a pretty good club If need be.[/quote]
Bad advice. You don’t point a loaded shotgun at someone unless you are fully prepared to use it and know how. This isn’t M-TV.
[quote]cvb wrote:
hedo wrote:
cvb wrote:
FightinIrish26 wrote:
I’m no cop, but there’s a crime in there somewhere. Most likely terroristic threats, public drunkeness, etc.
Make sure the cops are around to protect you. Get a restraining order- if he has any guns, they’ll take them from him.
My husband plans on getting the restraining order on Wednesday. He gets home late tomorrow night. Scott was hanging out at the town store earlier today. I am going to go there tomorrow to see if anyone else heard him threaten us.
Don’t shoot someone unless your life is in danger. Know what that means in your state. You may have a “duty to retreat”.
A gun should only be used to save your life or that of someone else from being killed. Don’t ever threaten someone with a gun. Keep your finger off the trigger until you are ready to pull it and not before. Learn how to use it before you have to depend on it to save your life.
Finally all things being considered a gun is your last line of defense after other alternatives have been tried. Better to retreat then to kill if possible. Less loss life and a lot less hassle. If you have to use the gun, know the rules.
I definitely don’t want to kill someone. But in NH if he breaks into my home, I can.
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Good luck with everything cyb. If he’s bent on hurting or killing you or your kids you know what to do and what your rights are.
Word of advice. Call 911 first and practice defense. Retreat to a bedroom or basement. Don’t go looking for the guy if he is outside. That’s what the police will do. They’ll do it as a group with lots of training.
[quote]Loose Tool wrote:
Brawan wrote:
You said you have a shotgun but are not sure how to use it, well thats ok. I know if someone points a shotty at me I shit myself nd remember also a shotty makes a pretty good club If need be.
Bad advice. You don’t point a loaded shotgun at someone unless you are fully prepared to use it and know how. This isn’t M-TV.
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I am not going to touch a gun I do not know how to use. I talked to my husband and he will home at 8:00PM. Since he travels alot, I will learn how to use a gun and make sure it is safe from the children. I need to keep my kids safe and I need to feel safe in my own home.
[quote]cvb wrote:
Loose Tool wrote:
Brawan wrote:
You said you have a shotgun but are not sure how to use it, well thats ok. I know if someone points a shotty at me I shit myself nd remember also a shotty makes a pretty good club If need be.
Bad advice. You don’t point a loaded shotgun at someone unless you are fully prepared to use it and know how. This isn’t M-TV.
I am not going to touch a gun I do not know how to use. I talked to my husband and he will home at 8:00PM. Since he travels alot, I will learn how to use a gun and make sure it is safe from the children. I need to keep my kids safe and I need to feel safe in my own home.
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If you would like some professional instruction (he charges by the hour), I can recommend a very good instructor who teaches in Bow, but I think he lives in Hopkinton. He worked with my girlfriend to hone her skills. He will adjust the instruction to fit your level of skill and interest. Beyond the simple mechanics of shooting, however, use of deadly force requires a particular mindset. If you don’t have the mindset, picking up the gun with no intent to use it, can be more dangerous than not having a gun at all.
[quote]Loose Tool wrote:
cvb wrote:
Loose Tool wrote:
Brawan wrote:
You said you have a shotgun but are not sure how to use it, well thats ok. I know if someone points a shotty at me I shit myself nd remember also a shotty makes a pretty good club If need be.
Bad advice. You don’t point a loaded shotgun at someone unless you are fully prepared to use it and know how. This isn’t M-TV.
I am not going to touch a gun I do not know how to use. I talked to my husband and he will home at 8:00PM. Since he travels alot, I will learn how to use a gun and make sure it is safe from the children. I need to keep my kids safe and I need to feel safe in my own home.
If you would like some professional instruction (he charges by the hour), I can recommend a very good instructor who teaches in Bow, but I think he lives in Hopkinton. He worked with my girlfriend to hone her skills. He will adjust the instruction to fit your level of skill and interest. Beyond the simple mechanics of shooting, however, use of deadly force requires a particular mindset. If you don’t have the mindset, picking up the gun with no intent to use it, can be more dangerous than not having a gun at all.[/quote]
Bow is about an hour drive which isn’t too bad. There is a place about 20 minutes from my house that has a shooting range. I am going to see if I can get someone to teach me there. I work out with a ex-police officer who is willing to teach me. I plan on discussing it with hubby tonight. I would hate to have to kill someone but I could do it to protect my children.
OC means olio resin capsicum, which is taken from cayenne pepper to make pepper spray, some call it mace. It’s sold over the counter in TX. I don’t think it’s as effective as billed, but everyone has been looking for less than lethal alternatives for years.
[quote]Damici wrote:
Out of curiosity, what about tasers? Are they legal for civilians to own in any state?
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I know the police officers have them but I don’t know if I can get one. I have looked into the gun permit. I don’t need one unless I am going to carry a gun concealed. Since I want it for the house, I am all set. Someone at the gym in going to train me to use it.
My husband talked to our lawyer. We are going through the court to get him tossed off our property. Things seem like they are under control but I am not letting my children stay home by themselves.
OC means olio resin capsicum, which is taken from cayenne pepper to make pepper spray, some call it mace. It’s sold over the counter in TX. I don’t think it’s as effective as billed, but everyone has been looking for less than lethal alternatives for years.
I’m glad you know the chief. That helps.
Good luck[/quote]
I use to carry mace when I worked in the city. Seems like a lot of creepy people have been entering my life lately. I don’t want to carry a gun around with me but mace would be perfect.
[quote]cvb wrote:
I use to carry mace when I worked in the city. Seems like a lot of creepy people have been entering my life lately. I don’t want to carry a gun around with me but mace would be perfect.
Ayoob served on the Concord, New Hampshire police department and is now one of the premier self-defense instructors in the country, specializing in firearms.
[quote]Loose Tool wrote:
cvb wrote:
I use to carry mace when I worked in the city. Seems like a lot of creepy people have been entering my life lately. I don’t want to carry a gun around with me but mace would be perfect.
Ayoob served on the Concord, New Hampshire police department and is now one of the premier self-defense instructors in the country, specializing in firearms.[/quote]