Any advice on how to get your ex back? We had a kind of weird situation develop of the past week and now she hasn’t called me in like a week, not a fight or anything, she is just unsure of what she wants. I tried to get in touch with her a few times, but she didn’t return my calls, like I said it’s been a week. So I am assuming that is a break up, and I don’t want to call her any more and look like a pussy and beg her to come back. Is there any other advice anyone can give me? All my friends are telling me not to call her, let her initiate the next move and take it from there…I say ok, but what if she never calls?
dont call. definately, dont call. if you call too much, she will get annoyed. if she never calls you, then she doesnt care about you like you do her, and it wasnt meant to be. just my 2cents…
If you don’t call, you won’t know for sure what’s up. Maybe she’s been really busy. At least if you talk to her you’ll have SOME idea of what’s going on. It’s pretty strange to just assume that you two have broken up.
Don’t bother with her. Shes just like most women and wants treat you bad. Ignore her and move on. Just immerse yourself in your friends and keep your mind off women until you find another one you like, then start the game again.
haven’t any of you seen road trip the movie? maybe she had a relative die and she had to leave and for some reason couldn’t get a hold of you to let you know. if anything like that is the case, you could show you care, and then you’d have her back easily. ???
Sorry guys, I gotta dissagree. What if she does want to see if he really loves her? So what? You guys may think it’s stupid, but we are just plain more emotional than you and that is the way it will always be. If he follows your advice the relationship is completely over. If he tries again, maing sure she knows how he feels about her, he could still keep her. I guess the question is, do you love her enough to put your neck out a little? If not, let it go, but if you love her - you gotta try. It sounds like you do love her, so call her up or stop by her house and talk to her, tell her how you feel about her (I know you guys don’t like that but women will never stop acting like women and we need that stuff) and ask he point blank if she wants the relationship to be over. Make sure she knows that YOU are feeling like she wants to end it - that way she knows how serious you take this. BTW - if the weird situation was something YOU did to hurt her, appologize and talk to her about it. Don’t make excuses or justifications for it (you can do that later - but right now you are just trying to keep her) just let her know that you saw the issue differently and didn’t mean to hurt her. I hope that helps. I may get flamed, but oh well. I make no appologies for being 100% woman.
Tony, You seem emotionally constipated. Go ou with your guy friends and get your snoot full. IF that is what it takes for you to lighten up then call her and tell her on her machine what you really feel. Not think what you feel. If she comes back cool. If not you have closure. When you leave the message end it with a time frame say something like. “I feel like you have been avoiding me and if that is because you are confused then I understand. However I would really like to discuss this in person. If that is possible call me by the end of the week. If not consider yourself a free woman.” Then you are done. You have closure you have a difinitive time frame. You are a free man. Very simple very easy. If this doesn’t work for you and you are obsessing about her then you best work on yourself and forget her cuase most likely she is just as messed up as you.
If the situation was any different,I would agree with you guys, but I am experiencing somewhat similar situation myself,so I have to agree with Ironbabe.Begging will get you nowhere, but to risk losing a loved one because of the telephone game is just plain stupid.You have to be desisive, an alpha male, but still not overly agressive. You know her well, and one telephone call or better yet, live talk, is all you need to see if she still cares about you. Don’t wait for things to happen to you, you might lose her for good. Be strong and do what you have to do. Good luck.
Unfortunately there isn’t enough information here to give good advice. How long have you known each other? How long have you been dating? Specifically what is this event that triggered this? How serious was the relationship? With the little info you gave I would have to side with Ironbabe on this. If you love her, then you have to show it and I wouldn’t just walk away without understanding why the relationship went sour. I wouldn’t immediately assume that she is playing you like some here. There could be a million reasons why she hasn’t returned your calls and I wouldn’t jump to conclusions.
Whoah, whoah, whoah, here guys. I can’t beieve some of the stuff I’m hearing in response to this dude. I think you should never put up with this immature nonsense. If she’s just your girlfriend, then what are you worrying about. Just tell her how you feel and whateve happens is fine. Every girlfriend I’ve ever had would never pull a stunt like this, and that’s one of the reasons I went out with them and respected them. Just voice your opinion with her (face to face, screw this phone calling stuff) and if she still is messing with you then just let her go. Even if you do love her, love isn’t enough to make a healthy, great, and LASTING relationship!! You need so much more, and I don’t think this girl is providing it by the sound of things.
Here is a sure fire idea - send her a dozen
rozes by FTD with a “just thinking of you”
card. Any person worth their salt would
call you to thank you and then you can ask
her what is up? If she fails to call, you
spend $50 to learn she is not worth it.
You’d get off cheap here in my book. -
Definitely DO NOT CALL HER!!! I know that you will be fighting with yourself in anguish trying to keep yourself from the phone, but let her make the next move. This doesn’t mean that you are letting her take control of the relationship. Sometimes women are like computers…you just got to shut them off sometimes when you have a problem and get back to them later to get them to work again. And if she doesn’t call…get another computer.
I was going to say to forget about egos and call her and ask if this is the end. However, I like Brock’s idea best. Don’t get into some of the mind games suggested on this thread…no one wins.
i was in this same situation 3 weeks ago before i got dumped by my ex. she was ignoring me, not returning calls, etc, etc. then i hear from one of her friends that she was going to break up with me anyway, so i went to a party and might have got a little tipsy and screwed another girl. needless to say she heard about it and broke up with me (via email-which is sad) 2 days later. good advice? probably not. getting even? you bet. but seriously, if you can actually corner her and talk rationally about it, this would be my preferred method. i was stupid and skipped over that step. who knows what could have happened if i would have actually talked to her about it? but i try not to take not speaking as a breakup, i would leave a message or email asking her that if she is going to break up with you to just do it because you don’t want to be left wondering (which i feel is worse than actually being dumped). but that’s the best advice i can give. good luck, bro.
If she’s not returning your calls then she’s disrespecting you. You should have enough self respect that you blow her off. Don’t you deserve better than that? What would you think if you got sick of some chick and she kept calling you? You’d think she was hard-up/desperate maybe a stalker. It’s hard, it hurts, but go get another girl and you’ll forget about her. If you want to make her maybe regret blowing you off…that’s about the only way you can do it. Show her you’re happy as can be and getting laid. She’ll think she’s missing out on something (maybe). That’s your only hope.