It’s really not that different though, now is it. Both are an attempt to the same end, I’d think … i.e. to signal to most other people to leave me the fuck alone haha
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It’s not too logical, it’s just too boring. You’re boring. And I’ll offer a more blunt take: you ain’t fixing this problem by crowdsourcing for advice on the internet, especially since the internet is likely responsible for exacerbating your awkwardness in the first place.
Also, you’re getting two sets of advice: one for talking to women, and one for talking to girls. Some guys don’t ever learn how to talk to the former, and treat all women like they’re the latter.
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All right so I dared. And she seems interested.
Cool beans man … not sure how you’re feeling about that or what transpired haha
You set up a place/time to meet?
Well I’m feeling good obviously ahah. Not yet, for once I was busy today and didn’t had much time to talk but by the third message she had complimented me, asked questions and talked about her very naturally, which are good indicators.
Anyway I’m trying to take it easy
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I’m gonna keep this in mind
You eventually got it though, right ? it wasn’t that fucking hard. You wanted me to kind of write it out the way you did, that would have been faster, but that’s not what I did.
Anyone could have read what I said and understood the point, it really wasn’t that cryptic but since you really don’t know how the fuck to talk to women you had to pause to understand what was being said.
Maybe don’t read my posts and get bent out of shape next time? because I’m not here to write you beautiful prose you fucking cunt.
No, I’d assume you’d be here to participate in conversation that isn’t so contentious. But that’s the majority of conversations I see you get engaged in. Why is that? Even a lot of the people who agree with you have more civil conversations than you. Why is that?
Because you seemingly communicate with the eloquence of a 5 year old. Grow up, moron. Learn to converse like an adult and maybe that won’t keep happening. You say you’re in in mid-30s? Fucking act like it ya douche
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You attack my post which had nothing to do with you, simply because YOU have a problem with the way I worded it.
Hm, yeah, makes perfect sense there, buddy.
What? No chloroform?
Nooooooooob.
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I replied to it, agreed with the vast majority of it, but now I attacked it? You’re a lunatic man … fucking victim through and through … seriously you have the mentality of a 5 year old
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mmhmmmm. that’s like saying “well, ya know, I was going to call you an ugly bitch but maybe you just don’t have the right makeup on”
come on man.
Go back and read my entire response rather than cherry picking. You’re a dishonest, petulant child. Have a good weekend.
Right, and go back and read my reply to that. Did I insult you? no. I said you sat back and tried to see what I meant, and you did, great.
Did it warrant you to come back and start insulting me? No, but you chose to anyways. So, yeah. Fuck off. Enjoy your weekend shit head.
Honestly, he made one comment about how you worded it- which is true, you have a horrible communication streak - and you acted like a scorned cheerleader. I understand you’re a pathological liar who will create alternate realities to avoid admitting wrongdoing of any sort, but try to understand he was genuinely agreeing with you and reaching across the aisle.
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He was condescending because he didn’t understand what I meant at first.
The entire fucking point was that being those two things- something as both being distance but charming at the same time was a challenge. Being there, but at the same time not there. Get it? “mysterious”
And my reply was hardly anything harsh, considering he was talking down to me. Read it again.
‘errr excuse me sir, but did you know those two words can mean the opposite of one another? what you’re saying here does not make sense to me, can you please, in detail describe what you meant more clearly derpa derpa derp’
foookin hell.
I’m pretty active on here every couple of months, right now happens to be one of those times, and every single time I see your name pop up it seems to be tied to some confrontational dribble.
Back to the subject at hand… I think everyone over complicated things a bit. I’ve never been big in the dating scene, I’ve always had long term relationships with some flings inbetween. I’ve had things fizzle out before they ever started, but I’ve never been straight up rejected. I also dont approach total randos when it comes to women. I like there to be a reason to talk to them. Like… I would never get a number from a chick at foodlion; what’s our common interest? We like fucking broccoli? The gym is a great example of a common interest, but like others have mentioned, personally, dont talk to me while I’m in there.
But regardless, the main goal (unless you’re just trying to hook up, in which case… tinder) is to find common ground. Be perceptive of chicks noticing you. If they’re eyeing you up and down, or pulling their hair away from their face while you’re talking, you guys keep awkwardly making eye contact and glancing away like you’re 12, or you know, just smiling at you, bring up something that you like. Give it one or two goes, if she seems totally uninterested, then at worst it was just awkward small talk, it’s not a rejection. Then you find a way to respectfully end the conversation and move on. Best case, holy shit, you guys are both insufferable recreational IMDB reviewers, and god knows no one else would want to be with either of you and you have a nice conversation and get a number.
Generic advice:
Being in shape helps
Being funny is absolutely critical
Being successful, or on the path to success helps
Being confident without being vain is ideal
Dressing like you’re out of high school is a good idea
Cargo shorts, wife beaters, beanies, and old ripped up work shirts, does not a pretty man make.
…so on and so forth
It’s oddly satisfying to realize that women ask the exact same questions about how to flirt with guys. There’s so much middle ground to easily access, that we end up thinking there’s gotta be like extra steps or something. Cuz the shit can’t be THIS easy. Can it?
Edit: (No sarcasm intended. Well not completely lol)
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Haha, this made me laugh. There’s a Jane Austin quote (I think) that I can’t find about it being a good thing that Mr. and Mrs. whoever are married to each other, thus saving two other people from having to be miserable.
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…and it’s funny because it’s not a super rare thought either. There are plenty of people that I’ve met; dudes and chicks, and wondered just… how the hell do you do it, how do you just wake up next to this person every morning. I may love them unconditionally as a friend, but as an SO I would literally gag.
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