How Do Fat People Live With Themselves?

[quote]MiJuggernaut wrote:
I have been obese in the past. It did suck living with myself. When you look like that you hate being in any picture ever. You hate any activity that requires you to take your shirt off. You are not comfortable with the opposite sex. Then there are the physical side effects. No fucking energy. You always feel hungry cuz you confuse every other emotion with hunger.

You envy not fat people. And deep down you know it is your fault, and that it is killing you. It fucks up your body image and self esteem. Going from obese to fit is incredibly tough.
The addiction to food is real and if it hasn’t happened to you then you do not know.

Now I have lost an entire small human being in fat (80lbs) and My body image still sucks. I have had ppl comment that my arms are as big as their legs. I can see my abs. Today upon meeting a patient she said " I am sorry , but u r sexy as hell!" but after all this, I am still very uncomfortable removing my shirt in public, and see mainly the negative aspects of my physique.I do not know If I will ever have a healthy body image.

----But that being said, life is still one hundred times better as a lean buff dude than a fat guy.
----My advice, do not hate fat ppl- they are doing it for you. If they ask you for advice, try and help them. Every once in a while you will find one ready to make a change.[/quote]

I hear ya! 300 down to 215 (6’) for me and my feelings are pretty much the same as yours. I cannot stand the fatties who make excuses and complain about being fat, I have no problem with the others that seem content with themselves. However, I do disagree that fat people are happy/content with themselves. I KNOW what it felt like to be the fat guy. I always put on a good front for people and was always known as the “jolly green giant” but I know what kind of hell my body image did to every aspect of my life. I was miserable. I think you really have to have been on both sides of the fence for this issue.

I always want to encourage larger people that you can tell are new at the gym because I know what kind of feelings they are feeling, but I don’t want to come off as some arrogant prick who they think is just being an asshole. I guess if they have the desire they’ll change on their own.

Don’t get me wrong i’m nowhere near some of the physiques i’ve seen on here. I consider myself fat, but not the extent of being obese as of monday i was 225 at 18% and hopefully by the new year i want to hit 15%.

but i think the OP is refering to people who are 400lbs at 88%bf (probably is someone like that tbh)

[quote]markdp wrote:

[quote]jwillow wrote:

[quote]markdp wrote:
How do people who make threads like this live with themselves? Are you fucking kidding me? I always wondered how an atrocity such as the holocaust could ever happen. People like you, and the people that agreed with you, are the reason this world fucking sucks.[/quote]
Actually, it’s quite the opposite.

The Holocaust happened because a smart industrious people, the Germans, were insanely jealous of a people that were even smarter and more industrious, the Jews. There was no way the Germans could successfully compete with the Jews, except that they outnumbered them and could kill them.

This thread happened because an active health-conscious people, the T-Nation, wonders why fat people can’t take the relatively simple steps needed to improve their lives and become fit. Fat people aren’t our rivals. We don’t envy them, we pity them. We don’t want to kill them - rather, we would like to see them improve their lives.[/quote]

True. But do you think that is how he advertised it and got people to go along with him?

“They’re better then us, let’s kill them!”

No. He used propaganda, and tried to make everyone believe they were sub human, so they should have no moral qualms about exterminating them. [/quote]

Them and us.

I agree with the OP,and it really annoys me when people defend obese people.They are responsible for the poverty and starvation in the world.Their over consumption and greed causes so many problems that people either don’t or won’t see.

I hate the way people,when trying to defend starvation in the third world,say,we as a planet cannot sustain everyone.They genuinely believe this.All you have to do is look at any Western country where you will find that adult and child obesity levels are at an all time high and are continuing to rise.It’s a cop out to claim the world is not sustainable.

What also pisses me off are the champions of the fat,people like Oprah or any other daytime tv presenter,among so many others,who say that the media puts pressure on women to look skinny and unhealthy.Anorexia is singled out as a major problem among young people SO much more often that obesity.Even though the number of anorexics is only a fraction of the obese in the Western world.It makes me fucking sick.

If celebrities are putting the public under pressure to look skinny,they’re doing a pretty SHIT fucking job if the number of fat people keeps multiplying.

[quote]Jereth127 wrote:
I couldn’t imagine how hard it is for an obese person to start exercising. The fear of ridicule must be immense. My sister’s dear friend was once a very heavy girl but in about 6 months she lost something like 150lbs and is now a chronic anorexic(hospitalised at the moment). It’s a sad situation. She wanted to lose the weight so badly she went the wrong way about and at the end of the day it’s society’s fault for equating fat=bad.

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I disagree that this is society’s fault.

[quote]OT wrote:

[quote]bartonmlee wrote:
all pov are good and for most overweight people, they are addicted to eating food and is as powerfull as narcs

and requires drastic measures to get better and the same for those who are addicted to drugs. both can cause servere damages to their bodies and the worrk they must do to repair their damaged bodies as well.[/quote]

don’t compare being fat to a chemical addiction, that’s a fucking joke.[/quote]

Because an addiction to food isn’t chemical?

[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
To hate fat people is ridiculous. Some of the happiest, nicest people I know are fat people. Live and let live.

What I do hate, however, is the fatasses (normally women) who bitch and complain that they’re fat. They cry that they’ve tried everything and worked out and blah blah, but how they still just can’t seem to lose weight.

No douchefuck, you’re lazy and you’re lying to yourself.

That gets under my skin[/quote]
That pretty much sums up how I feel too. Maybe “hate” is the wrong word, but I certainly have no sympathy for them.

People are fat because they consume more calories than they burn. It is that simple really. No amount of hormones, tumors, psycological issues or anything else can overcome physics.

That being said, these things may make it more difficult for someone to lose weight, but certainly not impossible.

[quote]MementoMori wrote:

As for people saying they feel uncomfortable going to the gym. Then wear a track suit and head phones. I started at the gym 135 pounds 6 feet tall, pathetic. Not going to the gym because you feel bad about your physique is not a justification its an oxymoron.[/quote]

Agreed. Feeling uncomfortable because people may look at you is a poor excuse IMO.

[quote]jwillow wrote:

[quote]markdp wrote:
How do people who make threads like this live with themselves? Are you fucking kidding me? I always wondered how an atrocity such as the holocaust could ever happen. People like you, and the people that agreed with you, are the reason this world fucking sucks.[/quote]
Actually, it’s quite the opposite.

The Holocaust happened because a smart industrious people, the Germans, were insanely jealous of a people that were even smarter and more industrious, the Jews. There was no way the Germans could successfully compete with the Jews, except that they outnumbered them and could kill them.

This thread happened because an active health-conscious people, the T-Nation, wonders why fat people can’t take the relatively simple steps needed to improve their lives and become fit. Fat people aren’t our rivals. We don’t envy them, we pity them. We don’t want to kill them - rather, we would like to see them improve their lives.[/quote]

exactly; I don’t understand the motivation for NOT improving their lives.

And for the person that posted the picture: That’s at end of a bulk where I hit 213. My BF is STILL below 17% in that picture, and that’s eating 4750 calories per day average. In 3 months I’ve cut to 195. That’s 18 lbs in a little over 12 weeks. So what was that excuse people use again for remaining overweight?

and for the people comparing my OP to the holocaust? Really? Go die in a fire. Please.

[quote]BobParr wrote:

[quote]HiFiBoy wrote:

[quote]AccipiterQ wrote:

People may ask why we carry excess muscle, but it serves a purpose. Excess fat is basically just sitting there killing you.

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I’ve been thinking about this recently. What purpose exactly does excess muscle serve? Beyond aesthetics and self esteem, I can’t really think of much other than delusional reasons to satisfy the fact that it is more than just vanity. I’m not knocking it as I pursue it myself, I’m just interested in what you think?

My friend once tried to justify 5 years in the gym by saying he moved a heavy couch on his own, this all he could come up with. He could also make his pecs dance.
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I’ll bet you’re under 30. Once you pass that mark, your perspective may change. For one thing, statistics show that for each decade past age 20, the average person loses at least 5% of their lean mass. That’s APART from the typical weight gain that comes with age. In other words, you could watch your diet and weigh the same on the scale at 50 as you weighed at 25 - but have much more fat and less muscle on your frame.

Beyond aesthetics, why should you care if that’s the case? For one thing, the more lean mass you have the longer (and healthier) your life will be. You know what the dividing line often is between people who succumb to a prolonged illness and those who recover from it? The amount of lean mass they had before they became ill.

You know all those elderly people who slip on some ice or trip over a rug and break their hip and nine months later they’re dead? Usually they have little ability to generate power (force x acceleration). Research shows that power is the first thing that declines as untrained people age - it diminishes even quicker than lean mass. Guess how you can halt or even reverse this loss of power: lifting weights, especially if you lift them fast.

Have you heard about how most of the chronic diseases of civilized societies, the ones that kill 95% of people (heart disease, stroke, cancer, diabetes) are essentially caused by chronic inflammation? And are you aware that another, albeit non-deadly problem that plagues older people - osteoarthritis - is also an inflammatory condition? Excess bodyfat isn’t just ugly dead weight- it’s a portable factory that churns out inflammatory chemicals 24/7. If you want to keep bodyfat to a minimum, you basically have two options - either eat progressively fewer calories as you age or make sure you carry excess muscle.

Finally, have you heard how depression is epidemic in older people? Or that, as they age, men gradually become more feminized (lower testosterone and increased estrogen - think moobs, erectile dysfunction, and prostate problems)? Guess what a great way to make sure your hormonal profile stays in a healthy balance and your mood stays positive? Oh, I suppose you can support the pharmaceutical companies instead: they sell all sorts of products to address these issues, including two of their bestsellers - antidepressants and Viagra.

So follow the crowd and you will start becoming decrepit somewhere around 25. Or, as Charles Staley says, you can look at what most people around you are doing and do the opposite.

Wait till you’re over 40 and you find yourself having to actually talk yourself out of training again because you’re bursting with energy but you’ve already trained four times this week. Wait till you’re over 40 and you find yourself running up stairs two at time when people much younger than you opt to take the elevator. Wait till you’re over 40 and wake up under a tent every morning as Poliquin puts it, and you feel just as horny and damn near as invincible as you did when you were 17.

Oh yeah, and you can move heavy couches.

When you get there, and I hope you do, you will understand.[/quote]

Great post. I like knowing that barring some horrible accident/disease I’m setting myself up to be happy & healthier longer. I also know that money I dump into medicare & SSI is going to be going to pay for medical bills from someone who couldn’t put the fucking fork down and go run a lap.

[quote]wigsa wrote:
I agree with the OP,and it really annoys me when people defend obese people.They are responsible for the poverty and starvation in the world.Their over consumption and greed causes so many problems that people either don’t or won’t see.

I hate the way people,when trying to defend starvation in the third world,say,we as a planet cannot sustain everyone.They genuinely believe this.All you have to do is look at any Western country where you will find that adult and child obesity levels are at an all time high and are continuing to rise.It’s a cop out to claim the world is not sustainable.

What also pisses me off are the champions of the fat,people like Oprah or any other daytime tv presenter,among so many others,who say that the media puts pressure on women to look skinny and unhealthy.Anorexia is singled out as a major problem among young people SO much more often that obesity.Even though the number of anorexics is only a fraction of the obese in the Western world.It makes me fucking sick.

If celebrities are putting the public under pressure to look skinny,they’re doing a pretty SHIT fucking job if the number of fat people keeps multiplying.[/quote]

A-fuckin-men. I’m shocked the number of people here who are saying ‘why do you care?’. I care because my money is going to be going to pay their medical bills. I care because the more fat people are accepted the harder it is going to be for me to help my own kids stay healthy. I care because 90% of the people that I see that are obese constantly make excuses for it, even if the topic isn’t brought up, so obviously they know they’re full of shit.

Truth is, no matter how fat they are someone will fuck them so why bother?

[quote]BobParr wrote:

I’ll bet you’re under 30. Once you pass that mark, your perspective may change. For one thing, statistics show that for each decade past age 20, the average person loses at least 5% of their lean mass. That’s APART from the typical weight gain that comes with age. In other words, you could watch your diet and weigh the same on the scale at 50 as you weighed at 25 - but have much more fat and less muscle on your frame.

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which is why it’s going to be ‘hellooooo vitamin S’ for holymac come around that age

[quote]AccipiterQ wrote:

[quote]jwillow wrote:

[quote]markdp wrote:
How do people who make threads like this live with themselves? Are you fucking kidding me? I always wondered how an atrocity such as the holocaust could ever happen. People like you, and the people that agreed with you, are the reason this world fucking sucks.[/quote]
Actually, it’s quite the opposite.

The Holocaust happened because a smart industrious people, the Germans, were insanely jealous of a people that were even smarter and more industrious, the Jews. There was no way the Germans could successfully compete with the Jews, except that they outnumbered them and could kill them.

This thread happened because an active health-conscious people, the T-Nation, wonders why fat people can’t take the relatively simple steps needed to improve their lives and become fit. Fat people aren’t our rivals. We don’t envy them, we pity them. We don’t want to kill them - rather, we would like to see them improve their lives.[/quote]

exactly; I don’t understand the motivation for NOT improving their lives.

And for the person that posted the picture: That’s at end of a bulk where I hit 213. My BF is STILL below 17% in that picture, and that’s eating 4750 calories per day average. In 3 months I’ve cut to 195. That’s 18 lbs in a little over 12 weeks. So what was that excuse people use again for remaining overweight?

and for the people comparing my OP to the holocaust? Really? Go die in a fire. Please.
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lol, I wasn’t referring to your BF%…

[quote]OBoile wrote:

[quote]Jereth127 wrote:
I couldn’t imagine how hard it is for an obese person to start exercising. The fear of ridicule must be immense. My sister’s dear friend was once a very heavy girl but in about 6 months she lost something like 150lbs and is now a chronic anorexic(hospitalised at the moment). It’s a sad situation. She wanted to lose the weight so badly she went the wrong way about and at the end of the day it’s society’s fault for equating fat=bad.

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I disagree that this is society’s fault.[/quote]

It’s not society’s fault people are fat, it’s society’s fault for creating the illusion that people who are fat aren’t as good as someone who isn’t fat.

If you’re fat and accept that you’re fat, I have no right to criticize your choice.

If you’re fat and are attempting to lose body fat, I will help you change your body however much I can.

If you’re fat and complain that you are fat, and don’t fall into the previous category, fuck you, you are the reason people do not like fat people in general.

If your obesity inconveniences others significantly, whether direct or indirect, and you refuse to accept liability for it, again, fuck you, you are also a reason fat people have a bad reputation.

Those points pretty much sum up my feelings, and the feelings of some others I gather.

[quote]Jereth127 wrote:

[quote]OBoile wrote:

[quote]Jereth127 wrote:
I couldn’t imagine how hard it is for an obese person to start exercising. The fear of ridicule must be immense. My sister’s dear friend was once a very heavy girl but in about 6 months she lost something like 150lbs and is now a chronic anorexic(hospitalised at the moment). It’s a sad situation. She wanted to lose the weight so badly she went the wrong way about and at the end of the day it’s society’s fault for equating fat=bad.

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I disagree that this is society’s fault.[/quote]

It’s not society’s fault people are fat, it’s society’s fault for creating the illusion that people who are fat aren’t as good as someone who isn’t fat.[/quote]

To be clear, fat people aren’t worse than thin people.

But, it wasn’t society that created fat=bad. Society didn’t create the negative health consequences

Its not society’s fault that your sister’s friend gained a lot of weight. Its not society’s fault that she made an ill-informed choice regarding weight loss strategy. Its not society’s fault that she decided to take it to an unhealthy extreme. Its not society’s fault that she had underlying psychological issues that clouded her judgement.

In short, its not society’s fault that she cared more about other people’s opinions than about her personal health.

People, in general, need to stop blaming everyone else and start taking personal responsibility for themselves.

The only time I’m bothered by fat people is when they get in front of me in the buffet line.

[quote]BobParr wrote:

[quote]HiFiBoy wrote:

[quote]AccipiterQ wrote:

People may ask why we carry excess muscle, but it serves a purpose. Excess fat is basically just sitting there killing you.

[/quote]

I’ve been thinking about this recently. What purpose exactly does excess muscle serve? Beyond aesthetics and self esteem, I can’t really think of much other than delusional reasons to satisfy the fact that it is more than just vanity. I’m not knocking it as I pursue it myself, I’m just interested in what you think?

My friend once tried to justify 5 years in the gym by saying he moved a heavy couch on his own, this all he could come up with. He could also make his pecs dance.
[/quote]

I’ll bet you’re under 30. Once you pass that mark, your perspective may change. For one thing, statistics show that for each decade past age 20, the average person loses at least 5% of their lean mass. That’s APART from the typical weight gain that comes with age. In other words, you could watch your diet and weigh the same on the scale at 50 as you weighed at 25 - but have much more fat and less muscle on your frame.

Beyond aesthetics, why should you care if that’s the case? For one thing, the more lean mass you have the longer (and healthier) your life will be. You know what the dividing line often is between people who succumb to a prolonged illness and those who recover from it? The amount of lean mass they had before they became ill.

You know all those elderly people who slip on some ice or trip over a rug and break their hip and nine months later they’re dead? Usually they have little ability to generate power (force x acceleration). Research shows that power is the first thing that declines as untrained people age - it diminishes even quicker than lean mass. Guess how you can halt or even reverse this loss of power: lifting weights, especially if you lift them fast.

Have you heard about how most of the chronic diseases of civilized societies, the ones that kill 95% of people (heart disease, stroke, cancer, diabetes) are essentially caused by chronic inflammation? And are you aware that another, albeit non-deadly problem that plagues older people - osteoarthritis - is also an inflammatory condition? Excess bodyfat isn’t just ugly dead weight- it’s a portable factory that churns out inflammatory chemicals 24/7. If you want to keep bodyfat to a minimum, you basically have two options - either eat progressively fewer calories as you age or make sure you carry excess muscle.

Finally, have you heard how depression is epidemic in older people? Or that, as they age, men gradually become more feminized (lower testosterone and increased estrogen - think moobs, erectile dysfunction, and prostate problems)? Guess what a great way to make sure your hormonal profile stays in a healthy balance and your mood stays positive? Oh, I suppose you can support the pharmaceutical companies instead: they sell all sorts of products to address these issues, including two of their bestsellers - antidepressants and Viagra.

So follow the crowd and you will start becoming decrepit somewhere around 25. Or, as Charles Staley says, you can look at what most people around you are doing and do the opposite.

Wait till you’re over 40 and you find yourself having to actually talk yourself out of training again because you’re bursting with energy but you’ve already trained four times this week. Wait till you’re over 40 and you find yourself running up stairs two at time when people much younger than you opt to take the elevator. Wait till you’re over 40 and wake up under a tent every morning as Poliquin puts it, and you feel just as horny and damn near as invincible as you did when you were 17.

Oh yeah, and you can move heavy couches.

When you get there, and I hope you do, you will understand.[/quote]

X 10

As a health care provider this is dead on. I believe that people who lift and eat healthy have a more positive outlook on life in general. Many cannot understand people who do not have that same outlook and instead choose to take an opposite approach. To me it is not physical appreance that makes me shake my head. It is individuals who choose and feel a sense of entitlement for that choice. Individuals who are proud to be unfit in any sense skinny or fat and then depend on the populace to support there choice. Example the people who feed themselves to the point of being bed ridden and then depend on society to fix them. The anorexic who blames everyone else for there mental disorder and then society has to fix them. Just my personnel opinion. I have injuries I did to myself and I pay to fix them myself. So people need to nut up or shut up. I blame McDonalds that damn clown is killing America.

[quote]OBoile wrote:
To be clear, fat people aren’t worse than thin people.

But, it wasn’t society that created fat=bad. Society didn’t create the negative health consequences

Its not society’s fault that your sister’s friend gained a lot of weight. Its not society’s fault that she made an ill-informed choice regarding weight loss strategy. Its not society’s fault that she decided to take it to an unhealthy extreme. Its not society’s fault that she had underlying psychological issues that clouded her judgement.

In short, its not society’s fault that she cared more about other people’s opinions than about her personal health.

People, in general, need to stop blaming everyone else and start taking personal responsibility for themselves.[/quote]

I whole-heartedly agree. My point was that I feel it is due from pressure from what is considered good or bad(in this case, thin being good and fat being bad)in today’s society that people out there are making these terrible choices.
As already mentioned in the thread, many fat people honestly don’t believe they can change, and there is a whole lot of bad information out there that they are likely to take onboard and become frustrated with the lack of results. It’s not hard to see why many fat people adopt this attitude that they cannot change when they take the advice of so called ‘professionals’(3-hour seminar qualified ‘personal trainers’) who put fat people on a ‘firming and toning’ routine and a low-fat diet. Lack of results leads to terrible self-esteem.

However, I’ve never been fat, quite the opposite really. I’m not the best person to be preaching all this, it’s just the situation as I see it.

It also occurred to me recently that many people grow up fat through no fault of their own. Parents often feed their kids a lot of fast food and processed crap. I’ve noticed fat parents themselves are particularly guilty of this. )Your child should grow up fat and with all the problems that brings because you did…?) But what happens if the kid isn’t sporty(the seemingly only socially acceptable way for a kid to exercise)? It leads to a lot of weight gain the kid didn’t ask for and really had no control over. Then throw in the bullying and such fat-kids get for good measure.
I wasn’t a sporty kid, I hated it infact, but I had one hell of a fast metabolism and I under-ate a lot of the time.
Just my 2 cents.

[quote]DaCharmingAlbino wrote:
OP: Are you REALLY a mental health counsellor?[/quote]

Exactly. How do people who quit their graduate studies live with themselves?