It might or might not work for you - but my wife and I had a non negotiable swap over time. Between 18:00 and 23:59 each day my kids were 100% my deal. At 00:00 they where my wife’s problem. This didn’t mean there were 6 hour she couldn’t help. But she did not have to. Some times she’d carry on doing loads. Some times she’d just want to eat dinner with out getting up. Sometimes she’d go to bed at 20:00 to catch up 4h, so that if there were a midnight wake up she was well ahead. But in her head all the while she had that 6h to fall back on she was good.
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If it applies: Wash all the bottles and line some milk or formula or whatever before you go to sleep. You don’t want your wife to wake up to crying baby and need to do a bunch of stuff before she can focus on the baby.
Keep the changing table stocked up. Make sure there are plenty of diapers/wipes and a couple extra blankets around. Make sure all the pacifiers and burp cloths are handy.
Possibly over-stepping into Not My Business Territory.
Fatigue adds up. One night of interupted sleep won’t kill anybody. 3-4 bad nights in a row really accumulates and leaves you exhausted and run down. Consider taking a night shift every third day or something to give your wife a chance to recover.
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Ah man, that is so good. When did it get easier for the mom, would you estimate?
These are some really good practical tips, brother — I’ll probably take a night shift soon. I appreciate you helping me out!