Damn I forgot one. When a good friend of mine told me that he scheduled a women’s studies class, I gave him a hard time. I tried to warn him that the feminists would gang up on any guy in the class because it was an obvious ploy to pick up chicks. Two weeks into the class he had a girl sleeping over his apt every night. Now they are married.
Tony G: One thing I’ve learned is that you can’t be afraid of rejection. Once you get your ego in check it’s on. Some people never get the balls to ask a girl out because they feel like they can’t handle being denied. But you never know until you try, and if she bolts, it’s on to the next one. You don’t have to act like you don’t care because you really don’t. I guess you become weathered after a while. I don’t get all worked up about a girl until she shows me she’s down. This sounds like Mike Damone, but the more girls you date the better an idea you’ll get of what your likes and dislikes are.
Geez I sound like that ass Dr. Phil. I should note that I’m 26 and I live with my dog, so take this for what it’s worth.
Well well well,
I guess I wasn’t as cheesy as I thought! To be honest, the girl did smile and brush her hair when I “chatted” with her, but like I said, I just got tongue tied and didn’t know what to say after the “well, can’t help you there” comment. She started to walk away and I just faltered…haha.
And yes, Wideguy I was thinking the EXACT same thing in regards to rep9210’s suggestion of what I should have said [gag, puke, cough]. No offense Rep, but that was just pathetic, so I hope you were joking…haha…
Jeff Rage, I am in the same boat as you bro. It seems I spend the majority of my time at work in the gym or at the bookstore (on the weekends), so my social circle is quite small. I work at a gym and I just don’t want to be THAT guy who asks girls out while at work…it just seems tacky to me. I also workout at a gym in my hometown and I will be the first to admit that it sucks in terms of the women who workout there, most of which are overweight housewives and grandma’s…not my cup-o-tea if you know what I mean? Regardless, I am there to workout, not to pick up numbers and on the rare occasion when there is an attractive girl there, I assume she feels the same way, so I don’t hit on girls in the gym.
As for the bookstore, I am starting to learn through trial and error. The fact that I initiated a conversation with a girl speaks volumes for me, so it was a HUGE step forward
Im a trainer at my gym, and its the best place for hooking up, but you have to be smooth. The thing with my gym is as soon as a new beauty comes into the gym theres about 10 guys hitting on her right away. I sit back try and make eye contact with her and dont say a word. I think they like a little bit of shyness. After all these losers try desperately to pick her up and fail, the girl will come to me on her own and start conversation. This has worked numerous times. Its like a challenge to them. They start thinking why isnt that guy talking to me, all the other guys are. The only problem is, at around 5-6 o clock when the gyms busy you got like 3 or 4 girls that youve slept with or gone out with all trying to talk to you.
Another thing, is it me or are girls just as horny as guys these days. Its seems over the last year, ive packed on some muscle and you take a girl out and your banging them on the first date. It seems more and more like girls are willing to make the first move.
Tony G: you’re killing me bro. You work at a gym and you think it’s unprofessional to ask out a member? I have to disagree with you there. As long as you’re not some sleazeball hitting on every girl that walks in the door, there’s nothing wrong with it. Training and nutrition is a big part of your life, and where else are you likely to find someone with similar interests? I learned the hard way that dating someone who doesn’t share the same passion for fitness can put a strain on the relationship at times. It creates a sense of inequality or inferiority in the person who doesn’t care about their physique, even if you like them the way they are. Just my personal experience though, and I guess it’s more of an issue with self image.
I would rather be with someone who I can go to the gym with and who eats the same things as me. Your diet is a lot cleaner than mine, and you know the stereotypes that people put on those of us who actually care enough to train and eat right. I was talking to my ex today about this exact thing, and she actually resented me because I was happy with my physique and she wasn’t. It was probably the reason why we didn’t last. She mentioned the fact that my desktop background is the testosterone image with the girl. Maybe she would have felt better about herself if I put Rosie O’Donnell as my background.
I want to second Scrub. I have an ex-fiancee, and one of the reasons she is an ex is because she resented me for exercising and caring what I ate. She resented that other people asked me for diet/workout advice, and she resented that my skipping dessert when we went out with other people “made everyone feel bad about themselves.” Ugh.
The fact she was a cardio-thoracic nurse, who got to see what years of not caring what you ate and not exercising, made it that much more inane.
Anyway, back on track for the thread, the gym is an awesome place to pick up chicks if you’re a trainer, because they expect you to talk to them and look at them, whereas we regular folk get pegged for sleazeballs if we go talk to the cute honey in the squat rack. Take full advantage bro.
BostonBarrister that sounds like the most fucked up shit I ever heard. If the people didn’t want to feel bad about themselves for eating dessert, then don’t get fuckin dessert! Crikey.
TONYTRICEPS: Hey! Looks like you got that out of my technique book! Stop it! ;p
(Seriously…you`re probably not in my vincinity, so why should I care? LOL.)
Being silent has its advantages. Many. While I differ on the challenge part, I can guarantee youll pass as different if you do indeed differ from the pack by your non-approach. Couple that with a Neg Hit for 10s, not averages, and you could go far.
Since you dont do the first move, unless you happen to cross an unshy high-T woman that wants you enough to say it (verbally or non-verbally), youll still have to do some first move for most (read: shy, average) women if you do want to pass as interested. Depends on how much patient you are, or where you are on the fuck-friend/ladder, obviously.
As for the going out with people where you work, I can say that in the bar business, it works wonders. At an in place where I worked, even busboys scored more just because they were Staff. Waiters scored even more. I won`t even talk about the MC…
CMC: I try to leave as little possible open to ‘chance’. Curiosity (why? how did he do it? Is it chance, genes or method? etc.) has its price and advantages. Thanks for the comments.
Scrub,
Shit…you are so right dude. I don’t know, I guess it is just the nice guy in me who feels like an ass asking out girls at the gym. Whats funny is that I feel totally comfortable approaching girls at the gym (mainly because it is my job), but put me in another setting…and I am totally lost. I always talk to girls at the gym where I work, but I just don’t want to come across as a sleazeball. But I see your point. Where else am I going to meet someone with similiar interests??? I dream of that day where I will date a girl who will deadlift with me and then down a Surge afterwards…haha. Shit, I would be one happy motherfucker if I found a girl like that! And I sure as heck ain’t gonna find that girl anywhere’s else.
BostonBarrier…man, I can sooooo relate with you. I go through the same shit when I eat out with friends. I remember back during the NCAA tournament I went to a sports bar with a few friends and they all ordered chicken wings, nachos, etc. And I ordered a turkey sandwich on wheat with mustard. My friend looks at me and says, “you make everyone so self conscious when they eat around you.” I just looked at him and said, “I don’t give a rats ass what you guys eat, but I sure as hell won’t be scared to take my shirt off at the beach this summer.”…haha. But yeah, that happens alot with me. People tend to be self conscious when they eat around me and it sucks.
I’ve been employing this technique for years now without even knowing it. I was in New Orleans earlier this year, and a decent looking girl came up to me and said, “I’ll show you my tits if you buy me a drink.” I replied with, “I’ve seen hundreds of tits tonight, how bout you buy me a drink and I’ll flash you?” She called me a few names and stomped off. Hehe
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