So much to unpack here, there’s no way I have time to do it all justice.
@greenboy You come in here and make an assertion which goes against what most people believe, which puts the burden of proof on you. You make a lot of tenuously-connected statements that you say are ‘known’ or ‘scientifically proven’ with no evidence to back them up, stack together with a bunch of your anecdotal evidence which incidentally does not track well with the personal anecdotal evidence of the people responding to you, and step back and call it a ‘proof’ and challenge people to prove you wrong. Every time someone challenges one of your statements or presents their own anecdotal evidence that is counter to yours, you start with the ad hominem attacks.
Then you assert that women are victims in this whole mess, as well. They’re being sold a bad bill of goods, being forced against their will to become self-sufficient, competent, independent human beings against their very nature. It’s a good thing that people like you are around to save them from themselves and tell them the way they ought to be!
As far as the people blowing their own horns goes, I’ll throw in a curveball on that one. I was the perfect candidate to become a bitter human being, like an early-days incel before that really became a thing. I’m a short, misanthropic, 50-something year old on the autism spectrum, for whom no social skills came naturally. I was severely bullied as a child, and didn’t lose my virginity until I was in my 20’s. I’ve made a ton of mistakes, and I have 2 failed marriages behind me that I stuck with way too long because of some combination of bad self-esteem, being conflict-averse, a misplaced desire to please and poor decision-making.
I’m now married to my best friend of 30-something years, a beautiful, intelligent, self-sufficient woman who knows all my dark past and loves me for it, and I have 4 wonderful kids who I’ve rebuilt a good relationship with after doing a lot of damage due to the aforementioned bad marriage decisions. If someone like me can figure out how to become a happy, successful, fully-functional, empathetic human being, there’s hope for anyone, I promise.