I would say this is mostly true for sure.
If my father in law had said no, I’d have demanded the $3K he owed me. Had some leverage in that interaction.
As a side note, I never lend money out that I expect to get back. I was serious about his daughter, and her family needed the money. I went into it not expecting to get it back.
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You’re right on all points.
Stuff like what Anna @anna_5588 and you mentioned, pretty much stuff that I’ve seen pose problems in real life that cause strife between families. Although what Anna mentioned is for her as an individual, I’ve seen the same sort of differences cause problems for families as a whole.
I think it’s reasonable to want two families that get along, take family vacations together, share events with each other, not only for myself, but above all, for my children to grow up in a harmonious environment.
I don’t think this is unusual and despite many people describing me as a “great guy,” (their words, not mine), I don’t think I’d be a good fit for some families, let alone individual women. I’m a middle-class man from a middle-class divorced home. Would I think it wise of me to try to get with a woman from a rich and powerful family. I don’t think so, because I’d likely be rejected, and even if she were to be interested in me, I highly doubt some ultra-wealthy father would be fond of me, not because he thought I was a bad guy, but simply because I wouldn’t be a good fit.
Yes, of course in the West in modern day it’s up to individuals and that will include my children. They will have freedom to go against what I prefer or think is wise.
I wouldn’t disapprove of a man who I already welcomed around my family. It’s not as if all of the sudden, I’d turn around and say no to some guy with whom I already had welcome into my home, shared holidays and other events, maybe even some vacations. I wouldn’t say something like, “I know you’ve been around all of us for the past two years and invested all this time in my daughter, and despite being a great guy, I’d prefer you not marry my daughter.” There’s no way I’d do that to someone.
Perhaps disapprove is the wrong word because I won’t disapprove of any good man for who he is. Preference for some people might be more fitting.
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I agree.
As fathers, we all want the best for our children especially in a spouse as that is one of the most important decisions with the greatest consequences in life.
They could not make much or make a lot. I am more concerned about them loving my daughter and being a good spouse. One she can depend on when things are tough to take that yolk as a man and endure.
Life isn’t easy, but it is easier with a good spouse you can depend on through thick and thin.
Like I have said before I won’t be around forever - I hope my children can find someone they can trust and lean on in a spouse when needed. I also hope I and their mother will have been good role models to see what to demand and look for in a spouse.
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Yeah I hear ya, that’s why I said No to all the ultra rich babes that used to throw themselves at me 
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I had this happen once when I was young and never again. She was 18 years older and wanted to have babies immediately.
I ran lol.
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Probably one of the wisest decisions of your life no doubt. Money or not a baby at 18 changes lots of things
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Was the dress she was wearing a red flag? She had so many, it could be seen from space. You dodged a screaming bullet, lest 10 year later you’d be living in a broken down trailer with 15 kids and a fat lazy wife.
Nah she was an OBGYN from a wealthy family on the coast. Met her at a bodybuilding show.
She was smoking hot and competed in bikini, but she was crazy and in a different stage of life. She wanted children and her clock was ticking which I get.
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You forgot the church.
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