And? You can get cancer because you smoked cigarettes. You can blame smoking all you want but you still have cancer.
Not even comparable
They’re both diseases.
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milfs.
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When she looks like Medusa, but rides like a Hayabusa.
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I know Indians do, in India. I don’t know how they handle marriage in the US.
I don’t know if East Asians do that in Asia, and the ones I lived around for much of my life didn’t. However, they were tightly knit and family had much influence in life generally. Their divorce rate is very low here.
Orthodox Jews here do matchmaking, which I think is ideal. It’s not stiffly-arranged marriage. The community sets up people who they believe are suitable for one another on dates. If they’re not compatible, they move on and are set up on other dates. They don’t date without a serious purpose. They get married early and their divorce rate is very low.
None of these groups prefer to have their young men womanless or their women running around with whoever they feel like.
Alright. Out of curiosity (not arguing), why not?
I believe this is true in many cases. When a woman’s father doesn’t teach her life skills, protect her, or foster her talents, using sexuality and running off with scumbags is the default setting. If a man has a very pretty daughter and there is none of the aforesaid, he can say goodbye (my take on the matter).
Fathers can also make themselves a big nuisance to such men, but who knows if that’s viable these days. My granddad scared the daylights out of my aunt after he found out she went on a date with the wrong guy and it never happened again. Can a man do that now? I’m not sure.
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No, but only if the father is weak. How could a weak father tell what a good man is.
Otherwise I’m all for it
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Depends. Children are generally respectful of their family’s wishes, but parents have a lot less control since a lot of young ppl are moving away from hometowns to cities (has been happening for a while)
Eloping is still very very rare.
I will say that even in the US, many East Asian parents are quite insistent about ethnicity of partner. However, it’s not exactly enforced strictly…. There will just be gossip and some disparaging comments.
Another caveat is that after a certain point, a non optimal partner >> no partner
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Right. Nearly all of those I grew up with wound up with spouses of the same ethnicity. But the pairing of white or Jewish men with Asian women increased.
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This is kind of controversial in certain circles, but there has been an increasing acceptance for white men as sons in law. There is much less acceptance of white daughters in law
My mum made specific exception for Jewish men. She has a strange fascination with them that is honestly pretty racist and borderline antisemetic
My mother tells me “Don’t you bring a white woman up in my house”
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I’ll take a guess. She likes that we too are mercantile people; despite being a tiny minority, wield enormous influence; and are a high earning demographic. I’ve had a few Asians tell me just that. That seems more like admiration more than anti-Semitism, though there are anti-Semites who express the same facts.
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yep!
She also makes offhand comments about how jews are “too cunning” and stuff about wall street being run by jews. It’s harmless, just disconcerting
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She must be fat phobic.
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100% YES.
I was 27 years old when I asked my wife to marry me. I went and sat down with her father first and asked for his blessing. My wife was 28 years old and still at that age her first words after saying yes were: “Did you ask my father?”.
Engaged loving fathers want to know that their daughter is going to be taken care of / have support for when they are gone. We aren’t going to be around forever. That is also my biggest fear is making sure my daughter and son to a different extent have what they need to survive and flourish in the world without me.
Once that is achieved - everything else in life for me is just bonus.
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Have you ever heard us talk amongst and about ourselves?
I did the same.
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Yes! Self deprecating humour is great
A good friend of mine was president of a Jewish frat chapter. Visiting was always fun.
They had a “putz of the month” board where the member that did the most outrageous thing either in school or in the chapter is “‘celebrated’”
It just makes me a bit uncomfortable when my mum,who doesn’t know any Jews or much about Jewish culture, parrots stereotypes
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My gut feeling is that a very pretty daughter will be better off without the things you mentioned than an average / typical looking daughter.
Women tend to know it when they are attractive. They know what they are capable of getting in regards to quality of men. There is also competition among women in regards to the men they are going with. Approval of a guy among friends is highly valued, and disapproval can ruin friendships. I am speaking in general here, exceptions exist. All I am saying is that in the case of rare beauty, the woman who has it usually demands a high price for it (better men, men looking for long term relationships…). IIRC, they have some research to back this up too. The most attractive women typically have fewer partners than less attractive women, and sexual relationships are usually longer in duration. It makes sense to me. Men are more likely to trade commitment for sexual exclusivity when the deal is better (she has a lower chance of getting played). A very attractive woman will also not settle for less than she can get, which means her pool of suitors is small, meaning a low amount of opportunities.