Not liking the post for the news it brings, cuz that really sucks.
But I’ve had the same thoughts a number of times due to similar circumstance. Its freakin nuts how tightly tied our identity and what value we provide is tied to our ability to earn/provide.
Alternatively, you could update your resume and spruce up your LinkedIn profile.
The last 15 posts or so are not describing modern western women or culture. They are describing fringe weirdos on tall soapboxes. Just to be clear.
Plz give me a day or two to reply
I want provide a detailed reply that covers everything you’ve mentioned
There is a lot to cover. You are correct in that my intentions are not hostile, and I am aware that your intentions are not hostile either 
Are you aware of how chemical imbalance works? Look into various medical disorders… an undiagnosed bipolar guy on a depressive episode isn’t just going to pick himself up by his bootstraps
for some, merely staying ALIVE is the fight. For some… being able to pay rent every week is the fight!
Holding everyone to these ‘rugged tough guy’ standards doesn’t work because not everyone is capable of what you are capable of.
Every mans version of ‘fighting’ differs. From the naked eye it might look like someone has given up, but they’re fighting their own battle.
It’s not as simple as looking at someone and thinking ‘he’s broke, jobless remains jobless… he just isn’t fighting hard enough!’
What if that individual has some sort of chemical imbalance that leaves him in a constant state of psychological agony?
What if he has an invisible illness that causes intractible pain day in and day out?
What if he has a really bad case of MS? Or severe, severe physical pain without any way to cope/deal with the pain?
Sometimes even if you try, labels equate to automatic disqualification which makes it even harder for people who are not healthy as no workplace wants to employ a walking liability.
Sometimes people are fighting even if it doesn’t look like it (to you).
I’m sorry to hear this. I extend my sympathies, not that my sympathy can help
What?
Me?
Neverrr…
Fully aware.
Life isn’t fair and you either fight or give up and lose.
That is reality.
Outcomes matter whatever you go through or have to go through to get there is irrelevant to me.
Serious question
Is giving up always the wrong answer?
I’m an advocate for the ‘right to die’ in that I believe people who are irrepairably broken (terminal illness, serious mental illness that can’t be treated, chronic illness that leads to intractible suffering for which there is no cure or hope for that individual etc) should be allowed to call it quits IF that is what they really want.
The netherlands allows it, as do a number of countries including Australia… but I believe Aus is too strict (needs to be last 6 months of terminal illness(
There’s a difference between physician assisted euthanasia and physician assisted suicide. Obviously it needs to be strict so it can’t be abused i.e can’t order it for someone else on behalf of an individual who is too incapacitated to consent.
For reference euthanasia is where the physician administers the drugs to the patient. Assisted suicide is when the physician gives you a prescription for a cocktail of meds (usually opiate + barbituate + neuromuscular blocker) that when administered by the patient leads to death.
This post is consistent with others that I addressed in my previous post to you. You express the hardships and concerns of others or yourself, but then strike down the hardships of others, or deem their concerns irrational or minimize them Examples: There has been a drastic increase in violent subway crime in the past two years in NYC… “but it’s not as bad as X decade.” There was in an increase in suicide in the past few years… “but in Russia suicide is higher.”
Imagine if I told someone, “I hear ya have stage III kidney disease. But think of it this way: as long as you don’t have stage IV and require dialysis”.
There appears to be a strikingly lopsided, one-way-street flavor in your inquiries regarding empathy.
Can you recognize this? @unreal24278
In the least disrespectful manner possible, this is the pot calling the kettle black. You also express empathy in a highly, highly selective manner.
Generally speaking, people will cater towards sympathising the most with demographics they can relate to. It doesn’t mean they don’t feel empathy for outliers and/or for dynamics afflicting those they aren’t familiar with.
Emotional fatigue can also lead to selective empathy, as can bias, emotional violatility and more (not referring to you necessarily).
But understandably we both tend to highlight and focus on what we are familiar with
As specified. I will reply later, currently at friends house. Have a good night (and I mean that, I’m going to sleep but it’s not nighttime where you are, when I reply it’ll be past your nighttime).
Guarantee your family disagree bro. Stay strong we have all been there at one point or another.
No, I definitely don’t think it is always the wrong answer. That is a personal choice.
But, if you give up with responsibilities left behind like children - I think you are a coward.
I would never do anything to hurt my family. I’m working from home today applying for every job I can. I have enough PTO to do interviews if I can get them. I’ve never interviewed for a job I wasn’t offered. It’s just a matter of getting the interview. I have a pretty specific niche that I fit into.
Best of luck man!
I hope this opens doors you didn’t realize you needed opened. I suspect it will, because “better off after a blow” seems to be a personality type.
I hope you find something great! Sometimes things look bleak, but hindsight shows that the bleak event was a good thing overall.
I did want to share something I thought was worth every penny for me regarding finding / switching jobs. Hiring a resume writer. It cost me I think $150 for the service. My resume writer made me an awesome 2 page resume. I got interviews at more than half the places I sent it.
Thank you. I did hire a resume writer last August. I think it is pretty solid. The main issue is just that there aren’t a lot of job openings that I fit cleanly into, so I still have to tailor it a lot to explain why I am a good match.
I think most employers care more about willingness to learn, and attributes like being a good team player more so than does this person have every skill needed. Tailoring it so that it seems you are adaptable and able to learn what you will need should help I think.
I think you should apply for those jobs you don’t cleanly fit into too. You are doing that, but just saying I think a lot of people skip over jobs that they could potentially land just because they don’t think they meet the qualifications.
What do you do (loosely)?
Most of my experience is overseeing Occupational Medicine and Substance Abuse programs in the construction/oil and gas industries (but I’m not clinical). Most recently, though, I’ve been a Director of Clinic Integrations. We purchase medical practices and incorporate them into our ways of doing things.