Someone should make a red flag thread with bullet points lol
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]adamhum wrote:
I love her a lot and I miss her when she’s not around. She’s incredibly sexy to me. Really that’s the only reason I want to keep her.
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Awful reason to marry someone. There are literally tens of thousands of women you could say the same thing about if you had a chance to get to know them. And you probably shouldn’t marry any of them either.
Do you have any self-respect at all? By marrying this person, you’re giving yourself to her. What does it say about your own self-esteem if the best you can say about her is you miss her when she’s not around and she’s sexy? How about when you have kids? Do you want to tell your 18 year old son going off to college to find a girl who he misses and who he thinks is sexy, and then he immediately propose?
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Agreed, this is literally one of, if not the most important decision of your life and most men take more care when buying a used car than when they choose their future wife.
This is why a man should not marry young anyway, because young men think way to much with their dicks.
Teeeee-rap. Situation is different, advice is eerily similar.
[quote]Kakarat wrote:
Someone should make a red flag thread with bullet points lol[/quote]
*Parents are divorced
-Minor red flag if they are divorced. She has seen that its okay to divorce and is less likely to try hard during tuff times.
-Moderate red flag if her their parents divorced when she was between 6 & 14 years old. Very bad time for a child to go thru that.
-Major red flag if it was an ugly divorce during that age range.
*She’s mean to animals. If you ever see her be mean or neglectful to her dog or cat, run for the hills.
*She’s materialistic. Obviously this list isn’t rocket science.
*She talks badly of friends. Especially if they are friends who would never say a bad thing about her.
*She can’t stop talking. This may be a pet peeve but I think their must be something wrong with people who can’t be comfortable in silence.
*Doesn’t see things through and is unreliable. Really, I’m not a brain surgeon or anything.
*She doesn’t have similar beliefs, approach to life and aspirations. Suppose you are Catholic and she is a Jew, everything might be hunky dory until you have kids then you’ve suddenly got big problems because one or both of you suddenly rediscover your roots and want to raise your kids that way. Life presents enough challenges to a relationship, if you’ve got a huge problem built in from the start then it’s not likely to work out. How often does it work out when the stud from the hood makes it big in the NFL or NBA and marries the middle class hottie? Never. When day to day life sets in, they are just too different.
*Has had more than one abortion. I can understand a young girl screwing up and having one but it better have been agonizing for her and something she thinks about with remorse just about every day of her life. At least the first 5 years or so, then maybe it would be okay if she only thought about it a few times a week. If it’s emotionally less then that for her, hills baby, hills.
*She was a victim of long term physical or mental abuse. Be a caring and compassionate friend to this type of girl, don’t marry her.
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Listen to how she talks to people she does not want or need anything from. That is what she will be like to you when you are through.
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Big red flag, she does not give regular blowjobs. It is not so much about the BJs themselves, but about her not even going a little bit out of her way even though it means a lot to you.
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she was with someone when you met and jumped ship and tested the waters before doing so. She cheated on him, she will cheat on you.
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from the video above, if she talks disparagingly about her ex lovers, or current lovers performance. No class., red flag.
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Slutted around? No impulse control, next.
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Had one relationship after another, not lasting longer than 2-3 years? Dopamine junkie, men are easily replacable to her, next.
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Tramp stamp? Nomen est omen.
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Genital and nipple piercings? Probably a great lay, but not the mother of your children.
[quote]Big Kahuna wrote:
Teeeee-rap. Situation is different, advice is eerily similar.[/quote]
Is that one of those twins? How did he get his teeth fixed so fast? Last time I saw one of their videos both of them had teeth in every which direction.
Btw, agree w/ what he said. Agree with Orien too.
Edit: Re Orien, I’m not sure I agree about the piercing or the slutting around. Actually I guess I’d agree they should be red flags but not necessarily deal killers.
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]Big Kahuna wrote:
Teeeee-rap. Situation is different, advice is eerily similar.[/quote]
Is that one of those twins? How did he get his teeth fixed so fast? Last time I saw one of their videos both of them had teeth in every which direction.
Btw, agree w/ what he said. Agree with Orien too.
Edit: Re Orien, I’m not sure I agree about the piercing or the slutting around. Actually I guess I’d agree they should be red flags but not necessarily deal killers.[/quote]
Look, I have nothing against sluts, but how hard is it really for a woman to get laid in her 20s ?
It is not so much that she took strange dick in some club after 30 minutes of meeting him, though that is also not a good thing, it is that she followed every whim when it struck her.
That is really, really bad, but she will not have changed one bit.
[quote]orion wrote:
- she was with someone when you met and jumped ship and tested the waters before doing so. She cheated on him, she will cheat on you.
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Ah man yeah. I thought it was cool at first that I could “steal” a girl from her boyfriend, but eventually it all seems to come full circle lol.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
I’m starting to see why Lil Missy has been cheating on OP.
If he doesn’t have the balls to truly confront her about this then she is already looking for more balls.[/quote]
Does that mean you can’t trust women to have enough moral fiber to be truthful without the man having to control her…
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
I’m starting to see why Lil Missy has been cheating on OP.
If he doesn’t have the balls to truly confront her about this then she is already looking for more balls.[/quote]
Does that mean you can’t trust women to have enough moral fiber to be truthful without the man having to control her…[/quote]
Most of them, no.
But he is not just not controlling her, he is an active pussy and thats bad.
I am dead serious when I say that he has a lot of work to do on himself, before he should even think about women.
The controlling part is not so bad if it is all temporary anyway and if you must marry, find one who is content with you just being a man.
Shittests come in all shapes and sizes, you want one that just stubs you every now and then to enjoy rubbing against your manlyness so to speak, not a psychobitch who needs a weekly verbal beatdown.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
I’m starting to see why Lil Missy has been cheating on OP.
If he doesn’t have the balls to truly confront her about this then she is already looking for more balls.[/quote]
Does that mean you can’t trust women to have enough moral fiber to be truthful without the man having to control her…[/quote]
It means, apparently, that he can’t trust this particular woman to have enough moral fiber to be truthful without him having to confront her about her lying.[/quote]
I’ve been thinking.
You should do an advice column for some men’s magazine.
You know, like “Jimmy the Bartender” or whatever it is in Men’s Health.[/quote]
Yes! Or a regular monthly article here on the site, maybe in conjunction with TC.n Would be 100x better that a 97th ‘how to deadlift’ article.
I don’t see how it takes weeks to:
- Get in car
- Turn on GPS
- Drive to location
- Ring the door
Need an excuse? Bring a flower with the tag “From a secret admirer”.
[quote]Makavali wrote:
Maybe the fiance is planning a surprise bachelor party for OP.[/quote]
Maybe the fiance is involved in gangbangs.
It’s Monday Adam, put your game face on.